Sociopath Community

by Storm

 I don't think it becomes a real need until after one has killed. Lots people have perhaps wondered how it would be to kill someone... Those who act on it are very few.

Nope. It becomes a need beforehand (maybe not to every murderer, but to some it certainly did). It's when it becomes a need that you're more likely to act on it. That's how many serial killers started their career in killing - because they couldn't control the need to kill any longer.

The need just gets worse and worse till you feel like your cursed, because no amount of killing can satiate that hunger.

by Thrill Kill

 

by Storm

 I don't think it becomes a real need until after one has killed. Lots people have perhaps wondered how it would be to kill someone... Those who act on it are very few.

Nope. It becomes a need beforehand (maybe not to every murderer, but to some it certainly did). It's when it becomes a need that you're more likely to act on it. That's how many serial killers started their career in killing - because they couldn't control the need to kill any longer.

The need just gets worse and worse till you feel like your cursed.

 Ok, maybe you are right. In my case it was more an urge (or fantasies). If my environment had been less good, I would perhaps have acted upon it. Most (or perhaps all) serial killers killed and/or tortured animals when they were children. Then in some cases they "happened" to kill someone and enjoyed it. After that they killed again (and compulsively). That is how it was with e.g. John Wayne Gacy.

I think that circumstances are as important as the urge (or in some cases, need).

But are you turned on or aroused by seeing violence towards people? Do you like to see people who are weak and cannot defend themselves being hurt? 

Violence towards others does nothing for me one way or the other. I do like things rough and I like strong men.

One thing I don't get is BDSM and men who want to be dominated by women. I'm not judging, I just don't understand what the turn on is? My last BF liked me to choke him and do the scissor thing with my legs on his neck. I did it, but it mostly bored me. lol

I did get a bit turned on when I realized I could break his neck with my legs.  It was around that time I decided to end things ;)

"One thing I don't get is BDSM and men who want to be dominated by women. I'm not judging, I just don't understand what the turn on is? My last BF liked me to choke him and do the scissor thing with my legs on his neck. I did it, but it mostly bored me. lol"

BDSM isn't really a gender specific thing beyond what's more common than not.


"I did get a bit turned on when I realized I could break his neck with mylegs.  It was around that time I decided to end things ;)"

So... he's dead?

BDSM isn't really a gender specific thing beyond what's more common than not. 

Turncoat, I don't know what you are saying. ^ I meant, I don't understand why a man would want to be dominated physically by a woman. It seems emasculating to me, I guess. 

"So…he's dead"

LMAO. No! Of course not, I meant I "ended" the relationship before I hurt him. 

Edit: we weren't a good match. lol  

Well, why would a woman want to be dominated by a man?

by Turncoat

Well, why would a woman want to be dominated by a man?

Exactly. It's no different. I certainly wouldn't want to be dominated by a man. It's disrespectful, but that's my opinion. I'm not submissive.

There are submissive and dominant people in both genders. They are not gender specific.

Hmmm, good point. I guess for me, it's the excitement and danger in it, but I also know the man is stronger than me physically so it's real, whereas a sub man has to play along somewhat and use his imagination more I think. Would you agree? I guess it reverses stereo types as well so there's that dynamic.

My ex was really into being choked. I always wondered if that was the whole aphyxiation(sp?)/orgasm thing?  

Not every submissive male is physically stronger than every dominant woman. Some are, sure, but not all. And they don't need to 'play along' because they already want to be dominated anyway.

I'm personally more tough than strong. Pain feels great, it tests my limits, and I only have room to be able to stand higher and higher doses of it. I love the challenge of it. Plus, it's not like I can tie myself up in ways I can't escape.

I find being in charge boring personally, but a like... pseudo-mentor role can be pretty fun in it's own right, watching my partner improve as the sex and foreplay just gets better as a result. If I'm stuck thinking too much, it takes away from my ability to enjoy it. Being able to be the sub means I can just bask in it, let go, feel something, and apply very minor corrections to make it just right (or to have her retaliate from feeling challenged, which is even better).

There's also something... almost entrancing about being with someone who has the strength to hold the reigns. It's both comforting and extremely sexy to see such confidence. It's intoxicating in it's own right.

My partner and I are about equal strength in the upper body. She's a little stronger than me in the arms, and gravity certainly helps when wringing my wrists to the mattress. When she's in her more sadistic head space though I swear she doubles in strength.