Not every submissive male is physically stronger than every dominant woman.
Really? I would think they would have to be very small men or very big women, in that case, but I'm basing that on my limited experience only. I am curious about this. My ex was really turned on by body-building women (which I am not).
Thrill, you like to dominate. Care to share any of your best moves?
by PrabbeBut are you turned on or aroused by seeing violence towards people? Do you like to see people who are weak and cannot defend themselves being hurt?
Violence towards others does nothing for me one way or the other. I do like things rough and I like strong men.
One thing I don't get is BDSM and men who want to be dominated by women. I'm not judging, I just don't understand what the turn on is? My last BF liked me to choke him and do the scissor thing with my legs on his neck. I did it, but it mostly bored me. lol
I did get a bit turned on when I realized I could break his neck with my legs. It was around that time I decided to end things ;)
Ok. ;) It's not that often that I'm turned on by violence either. It's just that some things I've seen were women were hurt turned me on. When it comes to sex I usually like ordinary things, and I have never hurt a woman. I have thought a little about how it would be to have a completely submissive girlfriend. I got the idea from someone I know...and then realized i perhaps want it too. Someone who would accept everything.
On the other hand I like aggressive women. Women who are not always kind and timid but who can be really nasty towards people. One girl I knew I wasn't very attracted to except when she was aggressive. It made her more beautiful or interesting to me.
I read a book long ago that had a BDSM scene in it. It was like BDSM but since it was fiction, it was more like real torture. That scene I liked so much that I've read (or actually heard) it again. I'm not sure if I identify mostly with the dominant or the submissive person. At least, if I should try it irl I would be the sadist, not the masochist. I don't really think I'm a sadist, but I'm more sadistic than masochistic.
I don't really get why men would want to be dominated either. I've read that it's usually men who are powerful, whp want to be dominated when having sex. I don't know if this is true... Still, to be dominated would perhaps not be so bad either. There is something about torture that I like. I'm not sure if it's torturing someone or being tortured I would like. I presume it is the former.
Arousal involves losing physical control over your body, especially for men (erection), and seduction is a form of mental domination. And really, who doesn't like to be seduced?
I'm not into bdsm but I can understand how these two things could combine with someone feeling pleasure from pain and create a masochist.
I agree with this but erection doesn't really mean losing control over the body. Ok, it is a part of the body with a mind of it's own, but it can be controlled. In the past I used to think about baseball or something when I got an erection in an inappropriate situation. Now I don't care... Still it can be controlled by the mind, but not as directly as e.g. an arm.
by TurncoatKegal Exercise helps too.
Perhaps but I won't bother since it's not a problem for me. To not be able to get an erection would be a problem...
Controlling it by thinking about baseball is an attempt to combat the arousal; arousal itself causes physiological effects. I consider orgasm to be loss of control as well - you can control what happens up until that moment but in the moment itself, your body takes over.
That might be the reason why sociopaths view their partners as objects - they can't stand the thought of someone else having enough control over them to make them orgasm.