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compassionatequeen said: 

Turncoat said: 

compassionatequeen said: 

any thoughts or feelings that come up that I am unworthy of love for any reason I can just choose to love myself no matter what  and honestly this tactic could probably calm down my borderline pd trait stuff because a lot of that is rooted in fear of abandonment and rejection and not being loved enough

It to me sounds like overcompensating, bringing about a different problem as a direct reflection of the first one. They are both just as extreme as the other and root from the same place. 

The healthier idea would be to recognize that, in spite of how you are not unworthy of love and while it is good to have self respect... that the problem is closer to your extreme fixation on the concept itself. Your insistence over "good things" becomes a bad thing through how much you overdo it, and in that action you end up pushing people away as their response to your acting out reinforces your insecurity. 

I treat it like managing emotional blood sugar levels in that having it go too high can make it bottom out and crash, while manageable amounts by contrast can be healthy. 

My advice: Chill out about needing to feel loved and it will come on it's own slowly, and that the midground of love and hate is contentment. 

 

mmm,  No I am being taught that in the eyes of God and All That is and source or whatever that I am perfect and beautiful and good and whole,  and that I am supposed to affirm this to myself and to all of the triggered and hurting parts inside of me,  while still accepting that I have a dualistic nature while I am incarnated as a human being and that I carry both the lighter higher vibration energies and the heavier lower vibration energies without specifically judging those energies as "good" and "bad"

 

and this belief system has been working the best for my personal healing journey so I am going to continue believing it,  for the sake of my own personal healing and wellness  I appreciate your beliefs,  but these are mine and these are what I am being taught in Internal Family Systems therapy,  shadow work,  and mirror work  all three of these have taught me very specifically to believe that I am already intrisincally perfect and beautiful and good and whole just the way that I am

 

and by believing this,  it allows you to align with the best version of yourself that is most healthy and capable of functioning  It is actually a form of manifesting by using affirmations like this

 

 

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compassionatequeen said: 

this is not a debate thread and I am not going to respond to you in this thread anymore,  and I am going to keep posting my beliefs thank you

You will never see your own shadow at this rate. 🤦

I was actually excited to see you reaching a tether out to reality, but it looks like you'd rather remain alone. 

compassionatequeen said: 

Turncoat said: 

You really don't see it as overcompensation? 

 

No not at all,  the intention is to manifest being the best version of myself  what do I have to overcompensate for if I believe that I am already perfect and beautiful and good and whole just the way that I am ?  and why should I let anyone else tell me otherwise ?

 

I mean people are always going to try to label you whatever they want to label you,  but you do not have to take on their labels as your own truth and that is one of the most healing aspects of these therapies that I am participating in

 

 

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Light is not Good:

There is a reason why the word Lucifer in Latin, literally means "Light Bringer".

compassionatequeen said: 

the theory is that the "God frequency"  is one of perfection and wholeness and beautifulness and goodness and most importantly unconditionally loving,  and because we are a part of God and from God and are going to eventually return back to God  (All that is,  source whatever name that you have for God)  that we can align with this lighter higher vibration God frequency if we affirm to ourselves the aspects of God that we all intrisically have  (essentially,  being unconditionally loved by God)

 

I do not really care if it seems "woowoo",  I am totally into it and totally want to believe that I will eventually be returning to some sort of consciousness state that does not have those heavier lower vibration energies of like pain and fear and hatred and so on

 

but while I am incarnated as a human being I accept that I also carry heavier lower vibration energies within me,  and the goal is mostly for those energies to not be so overwhelming and sometimes overpowering of my consciousness,  not for them to not exist at all

 

 

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It's not like I didn't read those posts, are you bumping these more for your own benefit? 

I am perfect and beautiful and good and whole and nothing and no one can take that away from me  😊😇  oh joyous day !!!!!!!!!!!!

Turncoat,  I am annoyed at you trying to discourage me from following the advice and guidance of the therapies that I have been participating in and that is why I am not going to respond to you  your intentions do not seem very beneficial to me,  and part of shadow work is bringing the shadow into the light and transmuting it to light,  and the other IFS and mirror work therapies that I am participating in do they exact same thing just in different ways  this is a tried and true method that works for healing trauma soo please stop harassing me

people who have been traumatized have been thrown out of the healthy balance of the heavier lower vibration energies and the lighter higher vibration energies and they have too much of the heavier lower vibration energies which is why the traumatic stuff needs to be brought to the lighter higher vibration energies and transmuted into lighter higher vibration energies  I do not know how much more simply I can break it down for you soo if you still do not understand then leave the thread alone and let it be helpful to people who actually understand the concepts of shadow work and IFS and mirror work

 you are not a healing trauma expert Turncoat

to Turncoat in pm

00:25 compassionatequeen: why cannot we be friends but have different spiritual and therapeutic beliefs ?

00:26 compassionatequeen: my Irl relationships improve when I am able to remain in calmer more optimistic mental states throughout the day instead of being angry and hateful and triggered, and if I am participating in therapies that are helping and encouraging that happening for

00:26 compassionatequeen: me then what is your problem ?

 

I think that it is important to include this in this thread especially  "my Irl relationships improve when I am able to remain in calmer more optimistic mental states throughout the day instead of being angry and hateful and triggered" 

and if I am participating in therapies that are helping and encouraging that happening for me then what is your problem ?

this is why I wanted to not debate in this thread because I do not understand how someone could have a problem with someone improving their emotional health and their Irl relationships because of following the advice and guidance of therapies that they are participating in