I can't forget the things that hurt me, which is why I focus on making those things hurt less.
The longer it's left to fester, the more damage that will be done. I'd rather slow that progression or have it not hit with as much heft if I can't just make it go away. I'd rather become toughened by it in case it happens again rather than weakened by it and face worse damages the next time it does.
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The struggles that come with living life. If it's not tolerated directly, it'll be tolerated indirectly.
So long as you choose to continue breathing, that will remain the case.
In my own head, I'd rather face the scars of knife wounds over a slow poison that never goes away.And that slow poison, is WHAT...precisely...you danced over that.
Don't bore me with the NPD attention bullshit, seriously...lol...so done with that shit. Be specific. Isolate it. Not these long drawn dancing terms of self denial.
This is interesting. Also could tie in some interesting research on mice and stress tolerances. Men are at a disadvantage due to hormones, even in life and death situations, which was rather surprising, but makes sense from a survival of offspring perspective, albeit possibly a stretch.
You are reading depressed to me, but sitting in it....isn't going to improve it either.
What are you doing to reduce the effect?
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As for said "slow poison", think about it. There's people who face trauma in their lives, but there is a variety of ways of dealing with it. At it's core however, it can be split into whether it's being dealt with directly or indirectly. Directly means facing the problem for what it is and dealing with it, coming out toughened by it once the damage is done, while indirectly pushes it to the side to deal with another time while adding that experience to your mind as a trigger, as a root cause of new future symptoms. It's the difference between someone who can state their experiences and one who'd deny it entirely within a sea of excuses and aberrant behaviors.
Both end up damaged after the fact, but the sort of damage that results from it is entirely different. I'd rather know what's wrong with me and repeatedly remind myself until it doesn't mean anything anymore instead of pretend it isn't there while still responding to it's presence subtly. As a creature of fear, numbing works for me better than letting it sit in the brain fridge to collect mold, mold that will inevitably spread to other areas of my life.
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NPD can look a whole fk ton of very strange ways....not all bad either...depends...so...
Mine's Paranoid Schizophrenia, not NPD. My problems can go from internal to external in some really fucked up ways, making for episodic triggers I have to live with after the fact once they've run their course.
Numbing weakens if not outright purges me of triggers, while holding onto it builds up mental sediment that will inevitably overflow or worse, interact with other mental sediments to make for chemical reactions I haven't prepared myself for. The easy answer is not the best answer in the long term, so I go with letting it hurt instead so that it won't have to hurt as much later on.
It hurt you ONCE.
It still lingers after the event, and (ideally) will hurt less should it happen again. Are you advocating that it ought to hurt more times than it already has?
Ah....okay....what were they?​
Do you honestly expect me to list them all? I've said a fair deal on here about some of it already. This is less about the "what" and more about the "how".
coming out toughened by it once the damage is done
from my experience ruminating usually doesnt make me tougher
It's the difference between someone who can state their experiences and one who'd deny it entirely within a sea of excuses and aberrant behaviors.
maybe some people are delusional since it's the better alternative than to face the pain head on.
As a creature of fear, numbing works for me better than letting it sit in the brain fridge to collect mold, mold that will inevitably spread to other areas of my life.
imho the fear is worse than the mold
Mine's Paranoid Schizophrenia
Ah....okay. Different animal here entirely...self inflicted by your own mind, but at the same time, you know it is the case.
So, this does not necessarily tie into HURT...does it?
...........Gerard....try not to be more of Turdblossom than I often am....TC may not be trolling...maybe...lol...but you certainly are. He is generally on point and spends a lot of time answering thoughtfully to others, he deserves the same respect, can you agree?