Understanding human behavior and emotional growth.
ThenFuckit stated: source post
Understanding human behavior and emotional growth.
Amen. :)
My two cents.
I came to Nabble to receive feedback and react to it. The writing style of the said feedback depends on the individual that provides it.
Here I see someone refer to me, I reply. I mean, I came here to chat after all. This applies for comments of all sorts of flavors. I'd rather people responded to me, so it is fair to behave in the same fashion, I say.
What amuses me, tho, is how people tend to search for spots to criticize. I mean, I don't have to be wearing some defined vessel to chat in SC. I could be a bum, giving toothless blowjobs (cuz scurvy) to people in alleys, using cash to pay for food and phone bills, chatting in SC from free WiFi hotspots and it wouldn't change a thing. If anything, it makes me suspect I'm not that much of a lost cause after all and people are poking me to feel better about their sorry selves, hoping to ruin my mood. Just a hypothesis, it may or may not apply to every case.
As for the ones who make comments to laugh at the received response, I believe I just provided their reasoning in the first part of the sentence. This would seem to be the least approach in relation to personal involvement (e.g. ww3's flaming; tho he admitted some attacks happened due to some personal beef).
Some lash out due to the previously mentioned personal beef, which only makes these attacks more amusing. I mean, let's take this interaction for example:
'Seems like sappy threads featuring two people receive a lot of hate here.'
'Did you notice that before or after your contribution to DN and my thread?'
'I won't go in dry next time :v'
'Going in dry is how one's dick gets chaffed.'
'Nice comeback. If you want mine, you'll have to suck it out of DNJack's mouth :v xd'
'lol You wish, faggot'
'lol not since I saw him naked.'
'That's right. Chirp away, Cricket xd'
Here we can observe how the wild Cricket appeared and made a statement, clearly referring to an encounter that is personally related with the said insect. It was more like a complaint, but I'd still categorize it as an attack because it wasn't the first time an attempt to poke me at some presumably week spot happened from this party.
What is there to gain for either side? Knowledge of self and others. Both sides reveal bits of themselves. Amusement. Either at making witty remarks or seeing how silly they are. I would like to think that Xena wouldn't respond to the attacks if she felt seriously bothered by them, not laughed back, but who knows, personal involvement also seems to play a role in this place as some tend to take things here more seriously (which inspires the previously mentioned attempts to ridicule others).
All things considered, these 'fights' is just a form of interaction that happens here because it is much easier to pull it off online than irl, and some people like to behave in such a fashion. Reasons may wary depending on the individual. The whole 'Sociopath-Community' theme also plays a relevant role, though I don't think such occurrences aren't happening in some 'HelloKittehCommunity'.
P.S. I mentioned Xena because I am irked by threads being spammed because of her, which happens when she bickers with others. Xena pls stop T.T
The "wild Cricket"? lol Wtf? You came at me in the thread I made for DN, not the other way around. Are you so sensitive to rejection and ridicule that you constantly need to twist things around, both on here and in your mind, to sustain your massive and fragile ego? Is it that you intentionally disregard your own hypocrisy or are you just that delusional?
There is no need to get defensive with me. I would never “start talking to you like some clueless retard†because I don’t think you fit that description at all. I know several people with asperger’s, and they are all bright, competent, highly functional individuals. I don’t think you are any different.
I just meant that you literally missed the point that many of us come here primarily for entertainment, which others emphasized in this thread, too. I know you want to dig deeper, and I respect that. But for some of us, depths are best plumbed incidentally. Not everyone is focused on personal growth. For me, this place is a wittier, more interactive version of “Netflix and chillâ€. (I would add that it has also sharpened my debating tactics considerably, and allowed me to hone my analytical skills, in a way that passive forms of entertainment could not.)
I am not sure why you feel compelled to compare yourself to me in terms of how good your memory is, or how carefully you pay attention to others, but since you brought it up, I will remind you that in addition to explaining privately why I left the forum some time ago, I touched upon the matter in another thread, very recently. Perhaps that particular conversation escaped your attentive eye.
I told Turncoat that I wasn’t sure it was good for me or others that I should spend too much time here, and that my statement wasn’t motivated by guilt. (I cannot hang on to it, nor feel it deeply enough, for it to be transformational.)
He asked me why I was conflicted if it wasn’t on account of guilt, and I’ve been chewing on that question ever since. I suppose the best answer I can give is that I genuinely want to be a good person, even though I am well-equipped to be singularly cruel, and sadistic enough to find it quite satisfying.
I am one of those for whom the banter has no emotional impact. I don’t feel things intensely- everything is blunted (except for lust and anger) and fleeting. But I know I’m insensitive. I should not assume that others process or experience their emotions the way I do- even here, amongst people whose nature is more like my own than the folks in any other place I’ve known. (Something else I touched upon in the responses you deemed superficial.) I project my own tendency to hyper-compartmentalize everything onto others here, and think that since I am not emotionally impacted by these interactions, neither should anyone else be. This tendency allows me to do and say things without negative emotional feedback or discomfort engendered by guilt. I don’t even feel much guilt when I thrash a loved one. So here? Forgetaboutit, lol.
Whether or not to deliberately feed this aspect of my character is something I often wrestle with. I do not wish to fully suppress my nature, nor do I think it would be wise or beneficial for me to give certain traits full reign. So far, I’ve managed my “disordered†thinking through sublimation… At work... in the bedroom... within my social circles. It has helped me to be a better lover and leader.
Where do I begin and my “disorder†end? Maybe I am not even disordered. Do I even care?
Not so much. I am what I am.
And what I am, among other things, is just a girl who likes to troll a sociopath board at 4 am, for shits and giggles, in between some of the more heady responsibilities on the full plate of my life. :P