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ChallengeSeeker said: 

1. Choose the guy wisely

You need to make sure he is right for you by asking him what he wants out of life.

2. Be what he wants out of life, don’t just have what he wants

You need to make sure that you can give him what he wants, but make sure he knows only YOU can give him what he wants. You can do this by hinting at the fact that your life goals are similar and you’re at the same point in life as he is, or that you can be his savior/are the one he has been looking for all along.

If you take the second approach, you have to be slick about it because he could get scared. Just be uninterested, but still interested. You can do this by being honest about how you feel about him. There are bound to be things you don’t like about him, so tell him those things when you’re discussing old boyfriends or his old chicks. Tell him you don’t like how… but you can make an exception because he’s cool.

3. Don’t be too interested

 Get a few guys that you would be happy with on your roster and talk to them all, just in case. This will also make the one you really want, think there is competition, even though you know you want him and only him. It will also make him feel like he has to make it official with you. 

4. Make it dramatic, but in a romantic way

 Guys like adventures, so make it a love story. Play around a bit. Tease him a little, like flirt with him and don’t be obsessed too fast. Make it seem like you would be with whatever guy fits your criteria and there are at least three, including him that do.

Tell him he’s cute when he says something funny, but then sometimes, just say, “funny.” This will keep him on his toes. He will think, “am I funny or is she just saying that?” This will make him feel slightly insecure, which gives you a leg up because he will think you’re better than you are. 

5. Use your assets

 Whatever you have that’s the best that he likes, use it. ID sex is your thing, brag a little about how you know that. This will give you an opening to challenge him to prove you wrong. Sex leads to love if you have followed the steps above.

If you have money, just tell him you wish you had a companion. Don’t buy him stuff or give him money!! He will be accustomed to that and won’t find it necessary to marry you first. Always fantasize about giving your husband the world, but make it clear that it’s only for your husband. If he isn’t into marriage, discuss how marriage is just a paper, but it allows you to feel comfortable giving your money away.

This will make him think twice about marriage, which is what you want. Keep teasing him and being that girl that he can’t get enough of. This means you must not talk too much. You can’t always be available either. Make him find a girl who is always available so he has someone to compare you with.

Don’t force him to do it, but he will do it on his own because you aren’t always available, but then talk about how you will always be there for your husband whenever he needs you. Don’t bring up the husband stuff too much, but whenever relationship stuff or love stuff or even sex stuff comes up, ease into it by referencing an ex and an experience with them.

Like sex, say it’s better when you do it a lot because it sucks in the beginning, but when I was with my ex that I dated for… years, we had amazing sex because we knew each other’s bodies and just clicked. This will make him want sex with you, but a lot of it.

He wants to prove he can be better than that ex and he knows he won’t be looked down on when he sucks because you think it always sucks in the beginning and only with time will it get better and then mention that’s why you want to get married because you want to make it feel really good without the fear of STDs.

With love, just say friends make the best partners because they can just hang out together. This will make him think, “hmm… we are good at hanging out and adding sex to that would be cool. Maybe she is the one for me and thinks that about me.” This will give him the confidence to eventually ask you out.

Always make him feel special by telling him there’s something about him that you can’t put your finger on, that’s cute or irresistible or something other than sexy. You don’t want him to think it’s all about sex. 

6. Have sex with him ONCE then wait 

Have sex with him and say it was amazing! Tell him it was better than ever before and that you are scared you will get addicted so you can’t do it anymore. If he says that’s good. Remind him that you are scared of STDs, so if you ever do it again, he can’t do it with other people. This will make it exclusive without being exclusive. It will make him have to be with only you, or never have sex with you again.

Guys love sex, so he will be exclusive, especially if you followed the steps above. Once it’s exclusive and you guys are having sex randomly, never consistently, then ask him if you guys should just date, since you are exclusive anyway. Make it casual, like it only makes sense and he will agree.

Once you’re dating, back off a bit. Be slightly less available, but shower him with affection when you do talk and for holidays, give him good gifts. After a while, like a month, then be more available and date a lot. Then wait for him to propose, but keep flirting and telling him you love him after he says it first. Don’t say it first. Let him say it first and then say you wanted to say it, but you were scared it would scare him away.

When you start dating, keep one guy on retainer while you are dating this guy, in case things fall through. Don’t text the extra guy first ever, unless you think you’re losing him and never say I you love him or send him hearts or anything that will make your main guy think you’re cheating. Treat the extra guy like a friend.

Occasionally bring him up like you’re annoyed that he still texts you and you think he might like you, so your main guy gets a bit of healthy jealousy to push him into marriage. Stop fantasizing about your future husband because that will scare him. After you start dating, leave all fantasies out and start to figure the guy out. What his deepest darkest secrets are.

Just tell him who else will he tell them too and make sure he knows you will keep a secret. Once you figured him out and know what he wants out of life and what makes him happy, start doing those things. Make him happy so he knows you’re marriage material and wants to keep you around. Always be happy and never fight with him.

Never nag him or judge him. Always talk about how you would be jealous if another chick liked him and got to spend time with him. This will make him feel valued even though you have your second guy in the friend zone for now. Never actually friends zone the extra guy, until you are engaged. Then tell him you’re engaged and no longer interested, but you can be friends. 

You should be married after this step has been completed. If not, ask him if he will ever get married and if he says no, get more lovey dovey with your extra guy and move on to him following the same steps. If he says one day, stick with him, he’s about to ask you soon. If he Says I was going to wait to ask you, but since you asked, and then pops the question, you won, congrats. If he says maybe, then still keep him, but get slightly more into the extra guy because maybe usually means no or not to you. This question should be after a year, if you have to ask at all. 

 Predator. Don't use men. Men are human. Be honest with men. If you lie to men or cheat you are not loving them

🌺plumeria🌺 said: 

ChallengeSeeker said: 

1. Choose the guy wisely

You need to make sure he is right for you by asking him what he wants out of life.

2. Be what he wants out of life, don’t just have what he wants

You need to make sure that you can give him what he wants, but make sure he knows only YOU can give him what he wants. You can do this by hinting at the fact that your life goals are similar and you’re at the same point in life as he is, or that you can be his savior/are the one he has been looking for all along.

If you take the second approach, you have to be slick about it because he could get scared. Just be uninterested, but still interested. You can do this by being honest about how you feel about him. There are bound to be things you don’t like about him, so tell him those things when you’re discussing old boyfriends or his old chicks. Tell him you don’t like how… but you can make an exception because he’s cool.

3. Don’t be too interested

 Get a few guys that you would be happy with on your roster and talk to them all, just in case. This will also make the one you really want, think there is competition, even though you know you want him and only him. It will also make him feel like he has to make it official with you. 

4. Make it dramatic, but in a romantic way

 Guys like adventures, so make it a love story. Play around a bit. Tease him a little, like flirt with him and don’t be obsessed too fast. Make it seem like you would be with whatever guy fits your criteria and there are at least three, including him that do.

Tell him he’s cute when he says something funny, but then sometimes, just say, “funny.” This will keep him on his toes. He will think, “am I funny or is she just saying that?” This will make him feel slightly insecure, which gives you a leg up because he will think you’re better than you are. 

5. Use your assets

 Whatever you have that’s the best that he likes, use it. ID sex is your thing, brag a little about how you know that. This will give you an opening to challenge him to prove you wrong. Sex leads to love if you have followed the steps above.

If you have money, just tell him you wish you had a companion. Don’t buy him stuff or give him money!! He will be accustomed to that and won’t find it necessary to marry you first. Always fantasize about giving your husband the world, but make it clear that it’s only for your husband. If he isn’t into marriage, discuss how marriage is just a paper, but it allows you to feel comfortable giving your money away.

This will make him think twice about marriage, which is what you want. Keep teasing him and being that girl that he can’t get enough of. This means you must not talk too much. You can’t always be available either. Make him find a girl who is always available so he has someone to compare you with.

Don’t force him to do it, but he will do it on his own because you aren’t always available, but then talk about how you will always be there for your husband whenever he needs you. Don’t bring up the husband stuff too much, but whenever relationship stuff or love stuff or even sex stuff comes up, ease into it by referencing an ex and an experience with them.

Like sex, say it’s better when you do it a lot because it sucks in the beginning, but when I was with my ex that I dated for… years, we had amazing sex because we knew each other’s bodies and just clicked. This will make him want sex with you, but a lot of it.

He wants to prove he can be better than that ex and he knows he won’t be looked down on when he sucks because you think it always sucks in the beginning and only with time will it get better and then mention that’s why you want to get married because you want to make it feel really good without the fear of STDs.

With love, just say friends make the best partners because they can just hang out together. This will make him think, “hmm… we are good at hanging out and adding sex to that would be cool. Maybe she is the one for me and thinks that about me.” This will give him the confidence to eventually ask you out.

Always make him feel special by telling him there’s something about him that you can’t put your finger on, that’s cute or irresistible or something other than sexy. You don’t want him to think it’s all about sex. 

6. Have sex with him ONCE then wait 

Have sex with him and say it was amazing! Tell him it was better than ever before and that you are scared you will get addicted so you can’t do it anymore. If he says that’s good. Remind him that you are scared of STDs, so if you ever do it again, he can’t do it with other people. This will make it exclusive without being exclusive. It will make him have to be with only you, or never have sex with you again.

Guys love sex, so he will be exclusive, especially if you followed the steps above. Once it’s exclusive and you guys are having sex randomly, never consistently, then ask him if you guys should just date, since you are exclusive anyway. Make it casual, like it only makes sense and he will agree.

Once you’re dating, back off a bit. Be slightly less available, but shower him with affection when you do talk and for holidays, give him good gifts. After a while, like a month, then be more available and date a lot. Then wait for him to propose, but keep flirting and telling him you love him after he says it first. Don’t say it first. Let him say it first and then say you wanted to say it, but you were scared it would scare him away.

When you start dating, keep one guy on retainer while you are dating this guy, in case things fall through. Don’t text the extra guy first ever, unless you think you’re losing him and never say I you love him or send him hearts or anything that will make your main guy think you’re cheating. Treat the extra guy like a friend.

Occasionally bring him up like you’re annoyed that he still texts you and you think he might like you, so your main guy gets a bit of healthy jealousy to push him into marriage. Stop fantasizing about your future husband because that will scare him. After you start dating, leave all fantasies out and start to figure the guy out. What his deepest darkest secrets are.

Just tell him who else will he tell them too and make sure he knows you will keep a secret. Once you figured him out and know what he wants out of life and what makes him happy, start doing those things. Make him happy so he knows you’re marriage material and wants to keep you around. Always be happy and never fight with him.

Never nag him or judge him. Always talk about how you would be jealous if another chick liked him and got to spend time with him. This will make him feel valued even though you have your second guy in the friend zone for now. Never actually friends zone the extra guy, until you are engaged. Then tell him you’re engaged and no longer interested, but you can be friends. 

You should be married after this step has been completed. If not, ask him if he will ever get married and if he says no, get more lovey dovey with your extra guy and move on to him following the same steps. If he says one day, stick with him, he’s about to ask you soon. If he Says I was going to wait to ask you, but since you asked, and then pops the question, you won, congrats. If he says maybe, then still keep him, but get slightly more into the extra guy because maybe usually means no or not to you. This question should be after a year, if you have to ask at all. 

 Predator. Don't use men. Men are human. Be honest with men. If you lie to men or cheat you are not loving them

 I’m not lying to them or cheating on them. I actually feel that way about them or think those things.

ChallengeSeeker said: 

1. Choose the guy wisely

You need to make sure he is right for you by asking him what he wants out of life.

Ok, good so far.

2. Be what he wants out of life, don’t just have what he wants

You need to make sure that you can give him what he wants, but make sure he knows only YOU can give him what he wants. You can do this by hinting at the fact that your life goals are similar and you’re at the same point in life as he is, or that you can be his savior/are the one he has been looking for all along.

You can be my savior, baby. We are so similar.

This isn't too bad. So far so good.

3. Don’t be too interested

 Get a few guys that you would be happy with on your roster and talk to them all, just in case. This will also make the one you really want, think there is competition, even though you know you want him and only him. It will also make him feel like he has to make it official with you. 

I'm guilty of this. I always chase people that I can't have. Fair advice.

4. Make it dramatic, but in a romantic way

 Guys like adventures, so make it a love story. Play around a bit. Tease him a little, like flirt with him and don’t be obsessed too fast. Make it seem like you would be with whatever guy fits your criteria and there are at least three, including him that do.

Tell him he’s cute when he says something funny, but then sometimes, just say, “funny.” This will keep him on his toes. He will think, “am I funny or is she just saying that?”

I like this. We are so similar. I don't like how you sometimes seem a bit superficial but I'm willing to make an exception because you're cool.

I actually like girls who laugh at my stupid jokes to please me, but you're right it gets a bit boring after a while..

5. Use your assets

If you have money, just tell him you wish you had a companion. Don’t buy him stuff or give him money!! He will be accustomed to that and won’t find it necessary to marry you first. Always fantasize about giving your husband the world, but make it clear that it’s only for your husband. If he isn’t into marriage, discuss how marriage is just a paper, but it allows you to feel comfortable giving your money away.

So basically lie? To get married? Yeah, nope.

What do you even gain from marriage at this point? He thinks it's a piece of paper. It means nothing to him. You're basically getting married to a dude who doesn't want to commit.

This will make him think twice about marriage, which is what you want. Keep teasing him and being that girl that he can’t get enough of. This means you must not talk too much. You can’t always be available either. Make him find a girl who is always available so he has someone to compare you with.

This is not such a bad advice.

Like sex, say it’s better when you do it a lot because it sucks in the beginning, but when I was with my ex that I dated for… years, we had amazing sex because we knew each other’s bodies and just clicked. This will make him want sex with you, but a lot of it.

That jedi mind trick works on me every time.

He wants to prove he can be better than that ex and he knows he won’t be looked down on when he sucks because you think it always sucks in the beginning and only with time will it get better and then mention that’s why you want to get married because you want to make it feel really good without the fear of STDs.

I can vouch this is exactly what happens when a girl I'm attracted to start talking about her sex life with her ex and says that she wants to get married to have sex without STDs.

Always make him feel special by telling him there’s something about him that you can’t put your finger on, that’s cute or irresistible or something other than sexy. You don’t want him to think it’s all about sex. 

Flattering. Men are like hyper-sensitive to compliments.

6. Have sex with him ONCE then wait 

Have sex with him and say it was amazing! Tell him it was better than ever before and that you are scared you will get addicted so you can’t do it anymore.

Hate it when they do that.

If he says that’s good. Remind him that you are scared of STDs, so if you ever do it again, he can’t do it with other people. This will make it exclusive without being exclusive. It will make him have to be with only you, or never have sex with you again.

I mean.... If he's dating and fucking you and is still OK with screwing other girls I doubt he gives a shit what you think about STDs, to be honest.

Guys love sex, so he will be exclusive, especially if you followed the steps above. Once it’s exclusive and you guys are having sex randomly, never consistently, then ask him if you guys should just date, since you are exclusive anyway. Make it casual, like it only makes sense and he will agree.

Guys do love sex. Women, too. You just pretend not to.

Once you’re dating, back off a bit. Be slightly less available, but shower him with affection when you do talk and for holidays, give him good gifts. After a while, like a month, then be more available and date a lot. Then wait for him to propose, but keep flirting and telling him you love him after he says it first. Don’t say it first. Let him say it first and then say you wanted to say it, but you were scared it would scare him away.

No, this doesn't work. Never have I met a girl who played these games that was successful. Just don't be co-dependent or obsessive and you'll be fine.

When you start dating, keep one guy on retainer while you are dating this guy, in case things fall through. Don’t text the extra guy first ever, unless you think you’re losing him and never say I you love him or send him hearts or anything that will make your main guy think you’re cheating. Treat the extra guy like a friend.

Always good to have some options.

Occasionally bring him up like you’re annoyed that he still texts you and you think he might like you, so your main guy gets a bit of healthy jealousy to push him into marriage. Stop fantasizing about your future husband because that will scare him. After you start dating, leave all fantasies out and start to figure the guy out. What his deepest darkest secrets are.

That won't push him into marriage lol, but it will probably make him jealous

Just tell him who else will he tell them too and make sure he knows you will keep a secret. Once you figured him out and know what he wants out of life and what makes him happy, start doing those things. Make him happy so he knows you’re marriage material and wants to keep you around. Always be happy and never fight with him.

Sounds like a fair advice. Just don't become a doormat in the process, and I think you'll be fine.

You should be married after this step has been completed. If not, ask him if he will ever get married and if he says no, get more lovey dovey with your extra guy and move on to him following the same steps. If he says one day, stick with him, he’s about to ask you soon. If he Says I was going to wait to ask you, but since you asked, and then pops the question, you won, congrats. If he says maybe, then still keep him, but get slightly more into the extra guy because maybe usually means no or not to you. This question should be after a year, if you have to ask at all. 

Happy ending for the extra guy. I always root for the underdog.

I can't figure you out. Why are you so obsessed with getting married? Are you from a very religious family or something?

Major Major said: 

ChallengeSeeker said: 

1. Choose the guy wisely

You need to make sure he is right for you by asking him what he wants out of life.

Ok, good so far.

 

2. Be what he wants out of life, don’t just have what he wants

You need to make sure that you can give him what he wants, but make sure he knows only YOU can give him what he wants. You can do this by hinting at the fact that your life goals are similar and you’re at the same point in life as he is, or that you can be his savior/are the one he has been looking for all along.

You can be my savior, baby. We are so similar.

This isn't too bad. So far so good.

 

3. Don’t be too interested

 Get a few guys that you would be happy with on your roster and talk to them all, just in case. This will also make the one you really want, think there is competition, even though you know you want him and only him. It will also make him feel like he has to make it official with you. 

I'm guilty of this. I always chase people that I can't have. Fair advice.

 

4. Make it dramatic, but in a romantic way

 Guys like adventures, so make it a love story. Play around a bit. Tease him a little, like flirt with him and don’t be obsessed too fast. Make it seem like you would be with whatever guy fits your criteria and there are at least three, including him that do.

Tell him he’s cute when he says something funny, but then sometimes, just say, “funny.” This will keep him on his toes. He will think, “am I funny or is she just saying that?”

I like this. We are so similar. I don't like how you sometimes seem a bit superficial but I'm willing to make an exception because you're cool.

I actually like girls who laugh at my stupid jokes to please me, but you're right it gets a bit boring after a while..

 

5. Use your assets

If you have money, just tell him you wish you had a companion. Don’t buy him stuff or give him money!! He will be accustomed to that and won’t find it necessary to marry you first. Always fantasize about giving your husband the world, but make it clear that it’s only for your husband. If he isn’t into marriage, discuss how marriage is just a paper, but it allows you to feel comfortable giving your money away.

So basically lie? To get married? Yeah, nope.

What do you even gain from marriage at this point? He thinks it's a piece of paper. It means nothing to him. You're basically getting married to a dude who doesn't want to commit.

 

This will make him think twice about marriage, which is what you want. Keep teasing him and being that girl that he can’t get enough of. This means you must not talk too much. You can’t always be available either. Make him find a girl who is always available so he has someone to compare you with.

This is not such a bad advice.

 

Like sex, say it’s better when you do it a lot because it sucks in the beginning, but when I was with my ex that I dated for… years, we had amazing sex because we knew each other’s bodies and just clicked. This will make him want sex with you, but a lot of it.

That jedi mind trick works on me every time.

 

He wants to prove he can be better than that ex and he knows he won’t be looked down on when he sucks because you think it always sucks in the beginning and only with time will it get better and then being exclusive. It will make him have to be with only you, or never have sex with you again.

I mean.... If he's dating and fucking you and is still OK with screwing other girls I doubt he gives a shit what you think about STDs, to be honest.

 

Guys love sex, so he will be exclusive, especially if you followed the steps above. Once it’s exclusive and you guys are having sex randomly, never consistently, then ask him if you guys should just date, since you are exclusive anyway. Make it casual, like it only makes sense and he will agree.

Guys do love sex. Women, too. You just pretend not to.

 

Once you’re dating, back off a bit. Be slightly less available, but shower him with affection when you do talk and for holidays, give him good gifts. After a while, like a month, then be more available and date a lot. Then wait for him to propose, but keep flirting and telling him you love him after he says it first. Don’t say it first. Let him say it first and then say you wanted to say it, but you were scared it would scare him away.

No, this doesn't work. Never have I met a girl who played these games that was successful. Just don't be co-dependent or obsessive and you'll be fine.

 

When you start dating, keep one guy on retainer while you are dating this guy, in case things fall through. Don’t text the extra guy first ever, unless you think you’re losing him and never say I you love him or send him hearts or anything that will make your main guy think you’re cheating. Treat the extra guy like a friend.

Always good to have some options.

 

Occasionally bring him up like you’re annoyed that he still texts you and you think he might like you, so your main guy gets a bit of healthy jealousy to push him into marriage. Stop fantasizing about your future husband because that will scare him. After you start dating, leave all fantasies out and start to figure the guy out. What his deepest darkest secrets are.

That won't push him into marriage lol, but it will probably make him jealous

 

Just tell him who else will he tell them too and make sure he knows you will keep a secret. Once you figured him out and know what he wants out of life and what makes him happy, start doing those things. Make him happy so he knows you’re marriage material and wants to keep you around. Always be happy and never fight with him.

Sounds like a fair advice. Just don't become a doormat in the process, and I think you'll be fine.

You should be married after this step has been completed. If not, ask him if he will ever get married and if he says no, get more lovey dovey with your extra guy and move on to him following the same steps. If he says one day, stick with him, he’s about to ask you soon. If he Says I was going to wait to ask you, but since you asked, and then pops the question, you won, congrats. If he says maybe, then still keep him, but get slightly more into the extra guy because maybe usually means no or not to you. This question should be after a year, if you have to ask at all. 

Happy ending for the extra guy. I always root for the underdog.

I can't figure you out. Why are you so obsessed with getting married? Are you from a very religious family or something?

 If you follow the steps in order, you should already be exclusive by the time you say a marriage is just a paper. 

I just want to have someone who is and will always be there for me. Someone who is legally required to have sex with me and take care of me. To close to someone is another reason.  Also, my baby needs a father. I’m glad you enjoyed reading about my strategy.

I did enjoy reading it. I think the people here are too harsh on you. I think you just are desperate for connection, like I am. I can understand why you would do what you do. It's a bit desperate, but I can sympathize.

I'm afraid that you view marriage in a very different sort of light than most people though. I don't think marriage guarantees that connection that you crave after. You'll just be tied. But maybe that's a good thing, if you want someone to be there to support you.. I don't think your husband is legally obligated to have sex with you. Your baby needing a father is a pretty valid reason though.

Major Major said: 

I did enjoy reading it. I think the people here are too harsh on you. I think you just are desperate for connection, like I am. I can understand why you would do what you do. It's a bit desperate, but I can sympathize.

I'm afraid that you view marriage in a very different sort of light than most people though. I don't think marriage guarantees that connection that you crave after. You'll just be tied. But maybe that's a good thing, if you want someone to be there to support you.. I don't think your husband is legally obligated to have sex with you. Your baby needing a father is a pretty valid reason though.

 Thanks Major. I’m glad there’s one person who understands me here. I’m very desperate for connection because I found out that’s the important part of life and I’m missing out. I’m not okay with that. My life feels meaningless because I don’t have people that I connect with.

I just want to feel like I’m a part of something that’s close, like a family is supposed to be. If I get married, I’ll have people to give my love to and it doesn’t really matter if the guy actually likes me because if he is willing to marry me, he deserves respect just from that, so I won’t hate him for not liking me. Yeah, it’s not a legal requirement, but it’s what you do when you’re married. 

My pleasure.

A sense of belonging? Let me know when you find that lol.

I think you could try to enjoy the process of getting to know people, it helps me occasionally. The more you focus on loneliness, the more it consumes you. I also take solace in the abstract. We're a little similar in some ways, but in more ways I'd say we're different.

That's absurd, that you're fine with a husband who doesn't like you. I find it pretty funny, to be honest. However, would you prefer a husband who did love you?

What do you think would happen if you didn't use those tactics that you outlined in the OP?

Major Major said: 

My pleasure.

A sense of belonging? Let me know when you find that lol.

I think you could try to enjoy the process of getting to know people, it helps me occasionally. The more you focus on loneliness, the more it consumes you. I also take solace in the abstract. We're a little similar in some ways, but in more ways I'd say we're different.

That's absurd, that you're fine with a husband who doesn't like you. I find it pretty funny, to be honest. However, would you prefer a husband who did love you?

What do you think would happen if you didn't use those tactics that you outlined in the OP?

 I would love a husband who loves me, but that’s not how my life has turned out, but I’m okay with what I have. If I didn’t do those things, I would not get the guys I want. I don’t really like people, so I don’t try to get to know them. Also, I think I’m getting a sense of belonging already. When there’s a guy with me, I feel like we are a complete family, especially if he wants to marry me, it just makes me feel complete. Like I have someone to help me and it doesn’t all just fall back on me if something goes wrong. We feel like a team. 

ChallengeSeeker said:

 I would love a husband who loves me, but that’s not how my life has turned out, but I’m okay with what I have. If I didn’t do those things, I would not get the guys I want. I don’t really like people, so I don’t try to get to know them. Also, I think I’m getting a sense of belonging already. When there’s a guy with me, I feel like we are a complete family, especially if he wants to marry me, it just makes me feel complete. Like I have someone to help me and it doesn’t all just fall back on me if something goes wrong. We feel like a team. 

I'm jealous. It must be nice being a woman. I think it's perfectly understandable for you to start formulating more methodological approaches if you couldn't get the guy you wanted. It sounds a bit like these PUA tactics that some men use. If you listen to Jordan Peterson, he says it's all sociopathic. But I don't think so. I think it's because people are desperate to escape loneliness.

Have you really never connected with anyone? Have you ever had anything akin to a connection, with anyone?

But this is how my approach has always been. I didn’t try before enacting this plan/strategy. It worked better when I didn’t try, but this is actually a how to get SC guys thread. I just didn’t realize it. I never tried to get a guy until I joined SC. Then it became like a sport. Seduce over the internet, meet in person, ruin both of your lives, rinse and repeat. Now I found one I would like to keep and I’m trying to fix my life after the last cycle. 

I’ve never connected with anyone like as a feeling, but I felt like a guy in law school understood how my brain works better than most people. That was like a connection kind of. I never really care for people, so it’s hard to connect with them. I just think of them as people who can help me get what I want, but I stopped manipulating people, so I can’t really see them like that anymore, so I’m trying to fix that.

I like SC guys because they can’t connect either, but they also want to, so their love is easy to get. It’s just hard to want their love. I like Chapo because I don’t even think he would be able to love me enough to be annoying with it, so it helps me feel comfortable in the relationship and not feel like I want to escape. 

That all being said, I’d love to be trapped in a marriage because I’ll be trapped with someone else, so they will feel my pain and/or be happy with me. Plus, I just want to have a happy family and I need a husband for that so whomever is willing and not too ugly would work. That’s why Chapo is my favorite. He’s willing to marry me, despite thinking I’m not attractive to him, and he really believes in me, for whatever reason, and that will give me motivation to keep going in life.