1. Choose the guy wisely
You need to make sure he is right for you by asking him what he wants out of life.
2. Be what he wants out of life, don’t just have what he wants
You need to make sure that you can give him what he wants, but make sure he knows only YOU can give him what he wants. You can do this by hinting at the fact that your life goals are similar and you’re at the same point in life as he is, or that you can be his savior/are the one he has been looking for all along.
If you take the second approach, you have to be slick about it because he could get scared. Just be uninterested, but still interested. You can do this by being honest about how you feel about him. There are bound to be things you don’t like about him, so tell him those things when you’re discussing old boyfriends or his old chicks. Tell him you don’t like how… but you can make an exception because he’s cool.
3. Don’t be too interested
Get a few guys that you would be happy with on your roster and talk to them all, just in case. This will also make the one you really want, think there is competition, even though you know you want him and only him. It will also make him feel like he has to make it official with you.
4. Make it dramatic, but in a romantic way
Guys like adventures, so make it a love story. Play around a bit. Tease him a little, like flirt with him and don’t be obsessed too fast. Make it seem like you would be with whatever guy fits your criteria and there are at least three, including him that do.
Tell him he’s cute when he says something funny, but then sometimes, just say, “funny.” This will keep him on his toes. He will think, “am I funny or is she just saying that?” This will make him feel slightly insecure, which gives you a leg up because he will think you’re better than you are.
5. Use your assets
Whatever you have that’s the best that he likes, use it. ID sex is your thing, brag a little about how you know that. This will give you an opening to challenge him to prove you wrong. Sex leads to love if you have followed the steps above.
If you have money, just tell him you wish you had a companion. Don’t buy him stuff or give him money!! He will be accustomed to that and won’t find it necessary to marry you first. Always fantasize about giving your husband the world, but make it clear that it’s only for your husband. If he isn’t into marriage, discuss how marriage is just a paper, but it allows you to feel comfortable giving your money away.
This will make him think twice about marriage, which is what you want. Keep teasing him and being that girl that he can’t get enough of. This means you must not talk too much. You can’t always be available either. Make him find a girl who is always available so he has someone to compare you with.
Don’t force him to do it, but he will do it on his own because you aren’t always available, but then talk about how you will always be there for your husband whenever he needs you. Don’t bring up the husband stuff too much, but whenever relationship stuff or love stuff or even sex stuff comes up, ease into it by referencing an ex and an experience with them.
Like sex, say it’s better when you do it a lot because it sucks in the beginning, but when I was with my ex that I dated for… years, we had amazing sex because we knew each other’s bodies and just clicked. This will make him want sex with you, but a lot of it.
He wants to prove he can be better than that ex and he knows he won’t be looked down on when he sucks because you think it always sucks in the beginning and only with time will it get better and then mention that’s why you want to get married because you want to make it feel really good without the fear of STDs.
With love, just say friends make the best partners because they can just hang out together. This will make him think, “hmm… we are good at hanging out and adding sex to that would be cool. Maybe she is the one for me and thinks that about me.” This will give him the confidence to eventually ask you out.
Always make him feel special by telling him there’s something about him that you can’t put your finger on, that’s cute or irresistible or something other than sexy. You don’t want him to think it’s all about sex.
6. Have sex with him ONCE then wait
Have sex with him and say it was amazing! Tell him it was better than ever before and that you are scared you will get addicted so you can’t do it anymore. If he says that’s good. Remind him that you are scared of STDs, so if you ever do it again, he can’t do it with other people. This will make it exclusive without being exclusive. It will make him have to be with only you, or never have sex with you again.
Guys love sex, so he will be exclusive, especially if you followed the steps above. Once it’s exclusive and you guys are having sex randomly, never consistently, then ask him if you guys should just date, since you are exclusive anyway. Make it casual, like it only makes sense and he will agree.
Once you’re dating, back off a bit. Be slightly less available, but shower him with affection when you do talk and for holidays, give him good gifts. After a while, like a month, then be more available and date a lot. Then wait for him to propose, but keep flirting and telling him you love him after he says it first. Don’t say it first. Let him say it first and then say you wanted to say it, but you were scared it would scare him away.
When you start dating, keep one guy on retainer while you are dating this guy, in case things fall through. Don’t text the extra guy first ever, unless you think you’re losing him and never say I you love him or send him hearts or anything that will make your main guy think you’re cheating. Treat the extra guy like a friend.
Occasionally bring him up like you’re annoyed that he still texts you and you think he might like you, so your main guy gets a bit of healthy jealousy to push him into marriage. Stop fantasizing about your future husband because that will scare him. After you start dating, leave all fantasies out and start to figure the guy out. What his deepest darkest secrets are.
Just tell him who else will he tell them too and make sure he knows you will keep a secret. Once you figured him out and know what he wants out of life and what makes him happy, start doing those things. Make him happy so he knows you’re marriage material and wants to keep you around. Always be happy and never fight with him.
Never nag him or judge him. Always talk about how you would be jealous if another chick liked him and got to spend time with him. This will make him feel valued even though you have your second guy in the friend zone for now. Never actually friends zone the extra guy, until you are engaged. Then tell him you’re engaged and no longer interested, but you can be friends.
You should be married after this step has been completed. If not, ask him if he will ever get married and if he says no, get more lovey dovey with your extra guy and move on to him following the same steps. If he says one day, stick with him, he’s about to ask you soon. If he Says I was going to wait to ask you, but since you asked, and then pops the question, you won, congrats. If he says maybe, then still keep him, but get slightly more into the extra guy because maybe usually means no or not to you. This question should be after a year, if you have to ask at all.
