How about just be yourself?
She clearly doesn't think people'd like that version of her.
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Then you're a pretender with no core identity who only sees value in her appearance and sex, based on your rhetoric of the OP at least.
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Then you're a pretender with no core identity who only sees value in her appearance and sex, based on your rhetoric of the OP at least.
I’m not a pretender. Everything I said to say is how I actually felt when I did it. I had three guys and they were all capable of being mine, but I liked one better. I said to tell them what you dislike about them, not to lie about your dislikes, just that everyone dislikes something about people even if they love them. I said to casually mention the other guy and pretend you don’t want him to text you, but I actually get annoyed whenever anyone other than Chapo texts me because I feel like it’s a waste of time, so I wasn’t pretending when I said that to him. I just assumed everyone else loves getting texts from people, so they would have to pretend they didn’t like it.
I always keep a guy as a backup because I don’t like losing and I never lose if I have a backup because they were also someone I liked and saw a future with. I said to distance yourself from them in the beginning, but that’s just to calm yourself down because you’re probably excited, as I was, and don’t want to scare the guy away right away.
I also said to say it was the best sex ever, which would be the only thing I’m pretending is true in the entire thing I wrote, only because the best sex I ever had was a guy who was fat and retired from the military because he had some thing where there’s fantom pain, so he got to smoke amazing weed all of the time and walked with a cane. I’m really into disabled people… Anyway, he had amazing stamina and just knew what he was doing, I guess because that was the best sex ever. So I’m that respect I am a pretender, but nowhere else did I myself pretend anything, even if I told others to pretend.
My core identity is a little hard to pin down because I used to be a super amazing manipulative person who got off on hurting others without them knowing I was the one hurting them, mentally, but now I left that behind and don’t know who I am at my core, really. Other than a child of God. I want to be a missionary one day and help people, but that’s not who I am yet, so I’m that way, you’re correct that I have no core identity, but I am far from being a pretender. Saying it’s the best sex ever doesn’t make me a pretender, it just means I want the other person to feel good about themselves. It kind of makes me a liar though… But you said pretender and I wasn’t pretending. Just lying, which is worse.
i wanna hear more about how u manipulated and hurt others without them knowing it was you. did u pin it on someone else lol
No, I just figured out what they cared about the most, like what insecurities they had and casually worked it into conversations or disguised compliments. I was really good at making it seem innocent and like everyone noticed it and their fears were true.
Like when someone thought no one liked them and everyone thought they were annoying or something, I just made myself seem like the only one who liked them, despite how annoying they were by pointing out that they friend left fast or asking where their friend was and then saying like why would your friend say something like that? I guess they just don’t want to hear whatever you’re saying. I wonder why they don’t come with us. Stuff like that.
Or if they think they’re a misfit, I’d just point out how their friends are different than them, but seem to be close with each other. They seem like sisters, how did you meet them and why don’t they come with us to the mall. Or where are they going? Are you going too? Then they answer my questions internally with the answer I already knew they would give because they’re insecure about that and already think that they are loners or that no one likes them or they’re annoying or whatever they care about the most.
Then they get super depressed and think everyone knows they suck and they’re fears are a reality. Then they either cry and I comfort them and then never talk to them again until I need something, or if I disliked them, I’d laugh in their face and ask why they’re crying. This is how you create ride or die friends that don’t need anything from you and always want to help you and hang out with you.
They’re thinking you’re the best friend in the world because you love them despite their issues. They start to avoid their other friends, making their insecurities more real and start paying for you to hang out with them just to get you to. They pay for lunch, manicures, etc. they just want a friend. You call on them when you need them and they don’t feel used. They feel blessed and grateful that you give them the time of day. They pay you $600 on your go fund me account when you’re homeless, without batting an eye 😁
Women don't have to do much too get a guy, unless the guy decided he doesn't want her.
Do not play hard to get. Men recognize this if it's intentional or not and the woman could end up playing herself, like that time Chapo proposed to Med and she wanted to waste time on playing hard to get. Men don't like hard to get especially in 2021 where there's a thin line between asking a girl out and getting charged for harassment.
If you want him, simply call him and socialize. If you don't friend zone him he'll start to form some type of romantic connection with you.
If you want him, simply call him and socialize. If you don't friend zone him he'll start to form some type of romantic connection with you.
It's rare to find a guy who is highly attractive to women that sticks around after having sex with her. For many women, the end-goal is happy marriage. Men get bored easily.
If you want him, simply call him and socialize. If you don't friend zone him he'll start to form some type of romantic connection with you.It's rare to find a guy who is highly attractive to women that sticks around after having sex with her. For many women, the end-goal is happy marriage. Men get bored easily.
Highly attractive/sought-after guys, aren't a good choice for settling down.
Men do that thing too where they think it's a good idea to wife up a 10.
Now that I've split this into pieces it's a lot easier to see the problems with your logic.
Your ideas boil down to presenting a fabricated sense of success to try to trick people by making yourself seem loose and above them before locking down how they can't be with other people, all the while keeping your options open so that you aren't tied down the way you'd aim to tie them down so that you can have all the power and control. You then try to use sex as a drug to keep them compliant, but like many a drug dealer's rhetoric 'The first taste is free', and then you even tell your audience to lie about how good it was.
You also try to justify being dramatic as if it were a step, and you feign interest in them so that they'll feel good about themselves rather than actually seeing if you enjoy them as a person while randomly feigning disinterest so that you don't seem as fake. Even in step one you keep it to the labels of their interests rather than focusing on the person themselves.
Your methods are gross and inauthentic. You're a narcissistic thirst trap and whoever falls into you's not really looking for a partner if this has been your courting behaviors, and for that I feel kinda bad for you. You probably don't even know what it's like to genuinely connect with someone if you really mean the steps you've narrated for us here.
You strike me as someone compensating for being unable to read signals.
I don’t connect with anyone. It’s very sad.