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Anyway, back on topic:
 

Edvard stated: source post

The need could still be there, but if a hand and internet connection solves it and sex not really, ofc you can be apathetic/disinterested in having sex.

That's assuming the direction they go with it isn't something that's still interactive. They could develop strange kinks of an increasing escalation without becoming a home-dwelling wank case (or even a pillow fluffer). The challenge there'd become about finding an open-minded/compatible partner, but with the internet as a social medium that's becoming easier. 

There's still something to be said about how pheromone scents and the like affect behaviors as well. 

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;) Beat you to it babygurl!

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Wet for Edvard stated: source post

lol.  Turny...ahem...who else even dares get into long arguments with you my dear...apart from xena...and eddie? 

How long in this case is long? 

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long enough for only you and eddie to know what ur talking about lol

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Sounds kind of romantic when you put it that way. 

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Edvard stated: source post

 

Tryptamine stated: source post

As a man who started viewing pornographic material around 8(?), I am happy to report I don't feel useless sexual arousal around beautiful women I find myself surrounded by on a daily basis. And I am also glad that I am more interested in chemistry than many—perhaps even the majority?—of men I know who suddenly go into a stupor at the sight of an attractive woman, a good number of which will pursue simply based off of a female's shape.

I remember us (and Alena) talking in chat once about you being apathetic to sex. I think this is another example of someone not being able to fully enjoy sex because of porn misuse/abuse.

I also believe in all that stuff the article says, read about it before.

I don't remember this conversation at all. I feel like you dropped my name in there so Turncoat wouldn't get the idea that you were cheating on him with Tryp. 

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I do not even watch porn for the porn anymore. I used to and when i did, it was for a very short amount of time too. It is not fun, it was interesting to discover what people would dare do, but now, meh. It only makes me want to do it in real life. And when i stop watching, the motivation fades away in minutes.

Now i am mostly curious about what new idea people came up with when it comes to extreme porn.

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Chernobog stated: source post

Turncoat. You assume every visitor follows your stupid arguments.  I stopped reading your circular arguments a long time ago.  Your are the community's poster-child for wearing down your opponents with text. Edvard can be diagnosed a narc just for caring about your opinion enough to be deem it worthy of so much effort.

lol.  Turny...ahem...who else even dares get into long arguments with you my dear...apart from xena...and eddie? Your style can drive people crazy lol. ADHD is a real PITA.

...Where i'm really going with this is .... eddie giving you so much attention.... i mean putting in so much effort to indulge you is ..like... the strongest canon argument for my TurnEd ship!!

I enjoy talking with Turncoat the most on this forum.

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Edvard stated: source post

Then you can end up desensitized to sexual stuff you'd be exposed to in real life, end up with some weird fantasies and fetishes which only they can turn you on. And when a woman is naked next to you you can only get excitement and pleasure if you picture some tentacle anime or large insertions or fuck knows what.

You are correct; it can cause desensitization. Which I imagine you would view as "unhealthy." I remember Rass and I arguing with you that a lack of interest in having sex is not unhealthy. I believe your viewpoint was that sex is a biologically natural urge, and therefor lack of that urge is a sign of something amiss. Rass and I contended that people can view the act differently. And that just because something is a biological norm, does mean it is "correct," or "true."

I remember in middle and high school, the girls I were most attracted to, I did not view as objects of lust. Not because I thought, "oh no, she won't be into some kinky shit." I thought that way because I had an idealism (however naive) of purity at the time. This caused some problems relating to going on dates in high school. These girls had raging hormones, and after a few—usually about 3—times spent together with romantic overtones, they would subtly imply they wanted to fuck. But that just seemed like bizarre to me. Girls who I never spent time alone with outside of school soliciting me for sex seemed even more bizarre. The thing was, I wasn't looking for sex. I was looking for something with a bit more depth. I never considered their behavior "wrong," but that's just how I viewed things.

That aside, I don't claim to be asexual. By 16 I was no longer a virgin, and I've had sex sporadically throughout my life. Maybe for some people, porn does make it so that they need to "up the ante." All the sex I've had, spare one time, has been vanilla though. Sure, I have fetishes, but I don't feel a burning need to indulge in them. I'm more interested in chemistry than specific fetishes, and if there is no chemistry, I am not interested. I've had one-night stands with people I'd just met that night. And they mostly sucked, because the whole ordeal to me felt forced by need.

Is this all caused by beginning to view porn at a young age? Maybe. Has watching porn over the years shrunken my striatum? Possibly so, as the study the OP posted would imply. But I'm not even a "porn addict." I actually have to masturbate, because if I don't, after a while I will literally start blowing loads at random.

Do I feel sexual arousal in normal interpersonal situations? Sure. It's just that this arousal is overridden by my interest in chemistry. But I don't feel the need to force this chemistry to exist. It seems unimportant to me, and I don't see why I should feel any way otherwise.

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ThenFuckit stated: source post

It is very likely that many people who 'suffer' from too much porn will have no issues to fuck someone they actually like, i think. It might make it harder to fuck just some casual person, where there is only lust involved.

I agree completely.

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