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"I dunno dude. People get treatment for losing libido. Docs call it a symptom. Pharmaceutical companies warn against it on pills prospects as an adverse reaction and stuff.

At the end of the day, it is loss of enjoyment of smth you could otherwise enjoy. This alone is unfortunate."

To the people who feel they are missing out...yes, it is unfortunate.

"Why not have both. Interesting, the "purity" thing. Were you raised religiously? And if purity was your thing, why were you regularly consuming porn since 8? Did that feel dirty to you?"

I was raised semi-religiously. Parents had loose beliefs. Once I figured out Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, and the Easter Bunny were all fake, I started to question a lot about the things I was told. I was still a Christian at that point, but developed heavy skepticism.

I attended a Lutheran academy for a few years. Mass on Mondays, essays on God, etc. This heavy religious programming took place well after I'd discovered pornography. I was originally interested about human sexuality. And Christianity has the nice loophole of "atone your sins to Jesus, and they will be forgiven," so being Christian was not an impedance to what I wanted to see or understand.

The whole idea of "purity" in high school was probably a combination of prior religious programming, as well as my own desire for a relationship that felt "perfect." I noted this was naive because relationships are, of course, not so simple. Simultaneously, pornography did not feel "dirty" to me, because I had never felt guilt about viewing it.

As a kid, I knew I was not supposed to be viewing such content. But I did not feel that because such a rule was imposed on me, it was "bad" to break that rule. I was curious, and did not respect restrictions placed on that.

"Why not have the real sex though? For that same reason. Why would masturbation be better."

I don't value one over the other. This is a situational thing. To me, it's like: Chemistry > Masturbation > Sex without chemistry.

Edvard stated: source post

I feel like taking this as an open quiz type questionnaire... It is more interesting than a lot of the threads.

 

I dunno dude. People get treatment for losing libido. Docs call it a symptom. Pharmaceutical companies warn against it on pills prospects as an adverse reaction and stuff.

At the end of the day, it is loss of enjoyment of smth you could otherwise enjoy. This alone is unfortunate.

If you watched the brain video I posted you would understand a bit more...

I should also mention... Libido goes down with age. Libido rises after some time of teasing or denial.

 

Why not have both. Interesting, the "purity" thing. Were you raised religiously? And if purity was your thing, why were you regularly consuming porn since 8? Did that feel dirty to you?

I felt bad for masturbating a lot to the point I would end up crying and not be able to orgasm. I do not cry now I just still have not orgasm. I noticed I feel better inside when I accept this as what I want. 

 

Why not have the real sex though? For that same reason. Why would masturbation be better.

I only want to have sex when I have a man who will go on dates. I think masturbation can be pretty good because I know where it feels good. 

 

Well as long as you're happy, all that matters I guess. To each their own.

Yeah as long as it does not hurt anyone else... Aka rape. Do what makes you happy until it impedes on the rights of anyone else.

In the video it talks about how when you first see chocolate and eat there will be great pleasure. It will continue to fire and bring pleasure for a while until you become accustom to it. It comes to a point chocolate does not feel so special.

Porn is making people kind of less responsive because it is not a "NEW" stimulation.

All yall need is to bring new sensations to the bedroom or some nice teasing denial ;)

It always feels better when I try to deny myself for a day or two even when I want it bad. Moral of the story, let yourself build in desire.

That pretty much sums up my value I put on it. One night stands, sex without the intent of closeness is seen as on par with masturbation for me tbh.

Missbehaved stated: source post

It always feels better when I try to deny myself for a day or two even when I want it bad. Moral of the story, let yourself build in desire.

This... can suck if you're adjusted to having sex/masturbation beyond regularly. The libido can spike pretty hard once you've adjusted to a routine before going cold turkey. 

That's why it will be so much better when finally giving in... I know it sucks at first but then it blows.

Turncoat stated: source post

Very... interesting kink you imagined there: 

 

I know this is coming super late but I'm almost positive he means xhamster.

Missbehaved stated: source post

That's why it will be so much better when finally giving in... I know it sucks at first but then it blows.

I'd imagine that affecting how you'd socialize if it goes on for too long. 

My own experiences have not found this sort of thing worth it, but instead very distracting. Then again my libido used to be a bit over-the-top, so it wouldn't take too long for things to feel fresh again. 

Masturbating earlier in the day before fucking, for males at least, tends to lead to lasting longer in bed. While women are capable of multiple orgasms, guys typically get one shot, so making that shot easier isn't exactly desirable. In my own case, the act of sex feels better than ejaculating, and edging, the more fun form of buildup, adds to it that much more if it's more difficult to get off at that time (unless that person's very in tune with your body language, then going about it freshly is pure torture of the best kind). 

I guess the gender differences makes sense.