Systematic stated: source post
That's a shame, this sort of topic seems like the kind that'd appeal to your interests, at least based on some past chats of ours.
ImNotHer stated: source post
I didn't join a cult, TC. So you can put your red flag back in the case.
This doesn't exactly make you look comfortable having your worldview questioned.
I've read over it in all seriousness. What I wanted to say has already been said. The whole thing seems like a specific projection, while still managing to relate to everyone but only loosely(this somehow makes it look correct to some). She'd be better off looking at her own process of self growth, leave the relations to others behind and leave it at that.
It honestly reminds me of some of my narc rants I did when I first came to the forum.
ImNotHer stated: source post
I dare you to stop faking it. [...] Stop acting like it doesn't matter.
That's what he said....
Maybe I don't understand why you're making this seem so life and death. Or am I reading you wrong? That why I said I didn't join a cult. It's hard for me to see my current situation in life as some huge risk I'm taking over the life I'm giving up. It's like you cherry pick from what I say, and try to twist it into this dangerous thing I'm getting myself into.
I can't agree with you about that, Turn. It's OK for me to stay confident in the path I'm choosing when evidence that it's good for me keeps being provided. No, I won't let Jim in my head. Because I'm still learning and growing, and I know from my past how easy it was for other people to throw me off course. By caring too much about what they saw me, or how it made me look if I kept resisting. I'd prefer to be liked, honestly. It's easier for me to go back to what I know, and just let everyone else tell me who I am, or who I am not.
And that's all I see you doing right now. Trying to tell me that I'm going about it all wrong. I should welcome Jim to gaslight me, and see where his creating doubt in myself takes me. I don't need to see where it takes me. I've already seen that.
Yes I'm fragile. Because I'm still new at this. So I don't see how riding out into traffic while I'm learning to ride a bike, is better than staying on the sidewalk and being smart about it.
I know I can be weak. I'm trying not to give into temptation. How does that raise red flags for you? Would you tell a recovering alcoholic to keep drinking anyway, so they can see if they can stop being an alcoholic while their still drinking?
That's madness to me.
I'm sorry. What was that? I couldn't quite hear you. Are you challenging this forum to change the old dynamic and try something new?
That's funny. I thought that's what I was doing in the original post. :)
I guess I didn't do it the right way.
I'm totally down for something new, Virus! Lead the way!