OK. <3
ImNotHer stated: source post
When you can treat me with respect and as an equal, the same respect I have shown you even after everything you've done, even when you haven't deserved it... I will listen to what you have to teach me. Until then, any attempt you make to sound wise and even slightly concerned about my living up to my potential, will be seen as nothing more than you trying to save face.
This is an example of restricting yourself from an information pool and it can be used against you. Probably wont, but apply the same pattern of thinking in another location and who knows? You definitely wouldn't.
ImNotHer stated: source post
JimSavage stated: source post
>dat insecure old hag echo chamber
I hope you'll be back to low self esteem tomorrow. I am hoping you girls are doomed
I can't stand women finding ways to feel good about themselves. Like any broken male who resorts to narcissism as a means of false esteem, I need women to feel as low about themselves as possible because that's the only way I can reject my fear of being overpowered by them.
To see a woman repairing her damaged self makes me cringe because I hate them. Not more than I hate myself, but I want to.
That is why I will go out of my way from this point on to try to get back the old Raven who thought so little of herself. I'd rather pull her back down to my level, than try to find a way to pull myself up from mine.
ftfy :)
beautiful.
That is one way to look at it. The other way is to know when someone is only trying to create doubt so that you wastes energy on a false prophet. I'm not saying Jim has nothing to teach. I'm saying he's not trying to teach me. This is a lesson I've already learned well and don't need to revisit the instruction. If I want to go back to running in circles because someone is gaslighting me, I'll find another psychopath to date.
It's important for me that I don't keep repeating that old cycle.That's not rejecting new information. That's recognizing old information, and choosing a new way to confront it.
ImNotHer stated: source post
And you're unintentionally helping him at this point. His aim is to dismiss my reality and make it seem like his is the right reality. Nothing more than that. The work I've been doing with myself is already working and has been for over a year. I've never in my life been so emotionally balanced, and mentally sound. He wants to say that's just an illusion and that I'm still in the same place I was but lying to myself that I'm making progress. If it's working for me, why try to discredit it? And where's his proof that he's found some better way that he's been applying to himself? Even if he has evidence of this better way, why would I abandon what's working for me now to take up some method an abusive man wants me to try?
This is dangerous thinking, smelling of potential fear and desperation to keep this new life. I'd be worried about how my status would be if anything were to threaten this newfound peace, which at the very least would make me want to work on limiting how much others could use that while also preparing for such a time instead of trying to blot out the negativity. It sounds like a more long winded way of saying "I need this".
Are Jim's words really enough worry to warrant this sort of response? Do you see your new worldview as that fragile? If not, why not entertain his ideas to see what lies within it, and if so, how long do you see a view that Jim could destroy lasting?
I've already questioned whether or not I'm lying to myself and just latching on to a new bullshit ideal to elevate myself superficiality. I'm not lying to myself this time. So I don't need you helping to try to put doubt in my mind.
Seriously, stuff like this is enough to raise red flags for me. It doesn't read like it's a comfortable fit, at least yet.
ImNotHer stated: source post
That is one way to look at it. The other way is to know when someone is only trying to create doubt so that you wastes energy on a false prophet.
A chance to exercise your own views in the face of adversity is a chance to bolster them, mature them.
I'm not saying Jim has nothing to teach. I'm saying he's not trying to teach me.
Experience can be a better teacher than words from someone who claims to know how to teach.
This is a lesson I've already learned well and don't need to revisit the instruction. If I want to go back to running in circles because someone is gaslighting me, I'll find another psychopath to date.
So... you are worried about it.
It's important for me that I don't keep repeating that old cycle.That's not rejecting new information. That's recognizing old information, and choosing a new way to confront it.
It's recognizing elements of old information and choosing to confront it by rejecting the things that make you uncomfortable. I'd rather have my views become battle hardened instead of sheltered.