Mind fucking is so good.
ThenFuckit stated: source post
If one wants sex and the other doesn't, this is an issue that needs to be resolved and it can't be one sided.
So you can't have no sex all the time, because that would be one sided and selfish.
You can't have it the other way around either.
This ^^^
Compatibility is important or it won't work.
Niniela stated: source post
Why do you feel sorry for them? It's their choice not to have sex, that means they are "missing out" because they don't like it
They are missing out by not liking it, ofc. Still missing out.
You'd reject someone because she won't fuck you?
She can be my friend. What are the other options? An open relationship, me being a cheater, or me being a wanker. XD
ImNotHer stated: source post
Would you say that sex is the only form of intimacy you're any good at?
Whoa, this sounds unnecessarily aggressive XD No, I can cuddle afterwards.
Joke aside, no, it's not the only form of intimacy I'm good at, but it IS one I need.
It wasn't aggressive at all. Just direct and to the point. It's interesting that you mention cuddling after. I suppose I should have asked you if you know what intimacy means beyond the physical? I'd be interested to know what you do in a relationship other than the basic superficial stuff, because I can't imagine you being good at intimacy. I could be wrong, and please don't take this as a negative response or an attack on your character. I'm just being honest from my perspective of you.
Primal stated: source post
Well...in a relationship...I think it is kind of a key component...really...or why even be there?
I don't think I've seen someone use so many dots in text. I mean not on here anyway. I know someone in my personal life who does this and it always make me think of William Shatner.
Why even be there is such a great response. I think many people would ask the same, and I think that it goes to show how very dependant people are on sex to be the glue of a romantic relationship. But what if sex being the glue is exactly why people can't stand to stay together for very long? What if all that other stuff, the friendship stuff, is the real glue and key to a long lasting relationship? I think more people could be challenging themselves to abstain from sex until they learn to be intimate with their romantic partner without it. Sex is an easy distraction and a powerful one, but it basically boils down to drug dependency if you look at it from a chemical perspective. Once the drug wears off or gets old, what do you have left?
I tend to start my relationships with friendship first, but yeah, sex is like being addicted to cigarettes with the trigger being how attractive you find them.
Assuming they aren't a trivial friend-zoner from fearing vulnerability, preferring to date novelty, or being prone to early impressions, the initial buildup tends to make for a stronger relationship if/when it does happen.