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ImNotHer stated: source post

 

Primal stated: source post

Well...in a relationship...I think it is kind of a key component...really...or why even be there?

I don't think I've seen someone use so many dots in text. I mean not on here anyway. I know someone in my personal life who does this and it always make me think of William Shatner.

Why even be there is such a great response. I think many people would ask the same, and I think that it goes to show how very dependant people are on sex to be the glue of a romantic relationship. But what if sex being the glue is exactly why people can't stand to stay together for very long?

Depends the problem...

What if all that other stuff, the friendship stuff, is the real glue and key to a long lasting relationship?

Important, and necessary IMO, as sex for the sake of it, is boring....just masturbating with someone else's body and not worth working up the sweat for. 

I think more people could be challenging themselves to abstain from sex until they learn to be intimate with their romantic partner without it. Sex is an easy distraction and a powerful one, but it basically boils down to drug dependency if you look at it from a chemical perspective. Once the drug wears off or gets old, what do you have left?

True...however...when you have respect, companion/friendship and good sex....it kind of builds on itself...lol...

If you are sexually incompatible...it won't work...if you are a sexual person at all...you need to know that of yourself....your wants and needs whatever they may be....there is room for compromise within limits that must be respected....but otherwise...it's fluid and each relationship is different. 

I get how sex works. I'm not suggesting sexual individuals go without sex, the end. I'm saying I think they should challenge themselves to abstain until they have established intimacy without it first.

But in continuing in this direction, I'm now turning away from my main topic. I should get back to asexual people in relationships. 

Do any of you think that asexual who want a romantic relationship should stick to perusing other asexual individuals? That is, do you think it's selfish act for an asexual to persue a sexual knowing they will not be able to compromise?

Likewise, do you think it's a selfish or egotistical act for a sexual to persue a known asexual?

Would you consider it a form of masochism?

ImNotHer stated: source post

It wasn't aggressive at all. Just direct and to the point. It's interesting that you mention cuddling after. I suppose I should have asked you if you know what intimacy means beyond the physical?

Edvard stated: source post

Joke aside, no, it's not the only form of intimacy I'm good at, but it IS one I need.

That was the joke...

I'd be interested to know what you do in a relationship other than the basic superficial stuff, because I can't imagine you being good at intimacy. I could be wrong, and please don't take this as a negative response or an attack on your character. I'm just being honest from my perspective of you.

Intimacy comes from sharing all sorts of moments and experiences together, from forming common memories. I'm also a very good people reader (no matter what you think of me) and when my partner understands that I understand her well at least in many areas, she feel more comfortable and trusting. I can be romantic too you know, make surprises, arrange for intimate moments spent in the couple, running away just the two of us in a trip, etc. I do tend not to open up that much, but my stronger emotions are on display. I keep secrets about stuff, but I am used to it. I need my privacy. I have always kept secrets from people around me, lovers included, but they are rarely related to the relationship itself. I don't know what else to say.

Seems pretty normal to me....partners do not need to know 'everything'..none of their damn business....lol...