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Mikey don't be such a dick.

Go find your own BPD ginger  :P

Cain: You're a stronger person than I am for wanting to make it work (yeah, I'd do what Mikey suggested, but you're not me and I'm not you.) Cricket's advice seems pretty solid. I lol'ed at the vid. I keep forgetting how girlie girls always bow to the authority of The Therapist and Oprah. I don't and it's probably a class thing. That must be why they keep calling me cray. lol

Just this once I will ask if she or both of you might consider therapy. If she's bipolar, the correct meds will make her nearly normal. BPD... not so much. Have you tried suggesting therapy to her?

In the meantime, are you sure she's not just reacting to somebody pushing her buttons all the time? (Whether he means to or not ;))

You can cushion the impact of things you say all the time and may be unaware of by switching up the things the 2 of you talk about regularly. The subject matter if you can. But also just the words. Frame the things you say in a different way and see if she reacts differently. One day, pretend you're talking to your grandmother. The next day pretend you're talking to your pastor (for example, not necessarily those specific people. Just a gentle or feminine person who is not  your gf.)

If you want to turn her into a different person, keep her on bipolar meds.

Try to convince her to see a doc, get therapy or medication and get her issues under control. If your relationship is draining and stressful due to her issues and she refuses to get help, you should part ways with her no matter how bad it hurts. Better now than when it's too late and there's more at stake than a broken heart.

This isn't a reply to Ed but an add on to his statement...

Relationships are a two way street. She has to be willing to address her issues too. It's not all on you. You do what you can, but if she doesn't agree to do the same you'll keep hitting a wall.

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In the meantime, are you sure she's not just reacting to somebody pushing her buttons all the time? (Whether he means to or not ;))

It's all about deniability! When you are screwing around on your gf and she busts your ass. DENY and Blame her. 

If the relationship is still in the honeymoon stage, meaning she puts you on a pedestal.  Then wait till that's over, and things will become even more clear. She already has you seeking information though.

Don't marry her just yet.

How do you feel about it?

Cain stated: source post

I would agree, because I'm about 99% sure my girlfriend is bipolar.

 

How should I handle this?

Oooh...

I don't know what to tell you other than, if she's worth it, be patient. I'm guessing from it being guessing from you that her form of bipolar is rapid mood swings (which can be other disorders too, if even one in the first place depending on the severity and contexts). From the nature of it being a swing, it's going to have to swing back at some point. Be tactful about what times to talk about what things and be there for when she's out of sorts and you ought to be fine. It really is a matter of patience and emotional stamina, and paying attention to what times that she does and doesn't want you around, a thing that can change at the drop of a hat. 

How self-aware would you say she is of her mood swings?  It's an entirely different story when they recognize that they're prone to changing versus when they assume that how they feel right then is how they've always felt, as that affects the level of denying their own narrative they're capable of, how willing she might be to hear what's going on from outside of her own perspective. Don't go with outright avoiding her unless she understands why either, as it'll be seen as being passive aggressive. 

Another thing. Borderline is often misdiagnosed as Bipolar, cause you really have to be close to someone with BPD for it to really be recognized as cluster B category psychology. It's hard for the doctor to detect it, especially if they never encountered it in their personal lives.

If you find your girl is special in a sense that she's on the immature side in the most beautiful way. That would be 1 sign. As a self proclaimed specialist on BPD and Bipolar, it took me 3 years to solve her. Jim and Wooster are also proficient on this subject, you shouldn't spare too many details.

Does she demonize and complain almost daily about workmates or people she has to see everyday ?

What woman, or man, doesn't complain? C'mon! That's not a symptom of BPD.