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I always considered it as reciprocity. For instance, if I do something for another that inconveniences myself it is with the expectation or knowledge that they would do similar should I ever be in a situation that requires assistance. It's not quite the same as considering that they are indebted to me for it. I do not keep a tally. There are some friends who need more than others or more than I do and some who require less.

If reciprocation, however, does not occur then I am no longer willing to provide what I previously would have. There are exceptions to this of course, as people often have many things going on and I know that I personally can't always provide some people I care about with the time and attention I would like to give them. This isn't held against an individual, but blatant disregard of previously held expectations without due explanation alters the dynamic significantly and often irreversibly.

Thinking about all this now, I probably operate more on a "treat others how you expect them to treat you" standard than by the "golden rule".

Alterego stated: source post

 

anastacia stated: source post

I find that following this practice is much easier in a professional realm because I've always viewed problematic people (customers) as a challenge so my efforts would go above and beyond the patience of others for my own satisfaction. 

Outside of that... A few people here know me too well for me to give an answer other than the utmost truth. Regrettably, I keep trying when my treatment isn't reciprocated and I'm not sure why. 

On the surface, it would be easy to say that it is on account of your lack of self-confidence, and low self-worth. But perhaps it also relates to your submissive nature?

I have the opposite problem. Wherein "problematic" people are concerned, something in me that is very deeply rooted, and stronger than any ideal I may aspire to, refuses to comply. I have a lot of trouble backing down from conflict. If someone is aggressive with me, I will fight back, and seek to win at virtually any cost. It has caused me a few problems in life.

 

In a professional sense it is beneficial to secure further business in a variety of ways. Retention of that customer as well as word of mouth to others that may be interested in the services I'm currently engaged in. 

"How easy is it to live by the golden rule- 'Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You'?"

Not difficult. But the moment reciprocity is broken, that is going to change the dynamic.

I find that following this practice is much easier in a professional realm because I've always viewed problematic people (customers) as a challenge so my efforts would go above and beyond the patience of others for my own satisfaction. 

Outside of that... A few people here know me too well for me to give an answer other than the utmost truth. Regrettably, I keep trying when my treatment isn't reciprocated and I'm not sure why. 

The golden rule equates to a general approach to life such as how one treats others on a base level, or in simple day-to-day interactions. 
The reciprocity viewpoint is another concept altogether and equates more closely with the old testament logic of "an eye for an eye" thinking. Questioning one's influence in all interactions is tied to a manipulative mindset, which is inherently opposed to the spirit of the golden rule, imo.

ImNotHer stated: source post

'Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You'?

I never liked this expression tbh, it doesn't make sense to me. Maybe a better version would be, do onto others as you would have them do unto you, if you were them. I wouldn't want Turncoat for example to do onto me whatever he wants done onto himself, get my point? It's more about getting into the other guy's shoes before taking a course of action, and not mentally transposing your action onto yourself, but transposing yourself into the other's shoes/mindset.

I am against any "big rule" to follow in life. There are always situations that require flexibility and adaptability for the best results for everybody, and I have enough life experience to know that life situations are too complex and varied to allow any golden rules fit for everything. They feel artificial and inflexible, like any generalizations, and trying to go by them when you shouldn't opens you to huge mistakes, and makes you more vulnerable. Anything that ties your hands is a weakness, imo. Also, being forced to go against what you consider your "golden rules" generate a lot of mental issues and dissatisfaction/cognitive dissonance. I have my instincts and my conscience as guides instead of a dry handbook, and I consider them luckily healthy enough to take the right decisions most of the time. Ofc they are not perfect, just the lesser of two evils imo.

anastacia stated: source post

 that... A few people here know me too well for me to give an answer other than the utmost truth. Regrettably, I keep trying when my treatment isn't reciprocated and I'm not sure why. 

From what I've seen this is only when it comes to other males for whom your daddy issues kick in. You've treated males you disliked and females (eg Astamiss) like shit here, and out of the blue. I don't see you as a good submissive person at all, don't bother painting yourself as one.

ImNotHer stated: source post

"The Golden Rule or ethic of reciprocity is a moral maxim or principle of altruism found in many human cultures and religions, suggesting it may be related to a fundamental human nature."

How easy is it to live by the golden rule- 'Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You'?

I do not follow such simple meaningless illogical rules.

I do unto others as i think they deserve.

It makes no sense to limit yourself by a rule that makes no sense. It literally makes no sense, no matter how i apply this rule.

ImNotHer stated: source post

I love all the songs they do together. The mothers day one is my favorite.

I like dick in a box most, lol 

"How easy is it to live by the golden rule"

Easy. I like to be left alone

I have the opposite problem. Wherein "problematic" people are concerned, something in me that is very deeply rooted, and stronger than any ideal I may aspire to, refuses to comply. I have a lot of trouble backing down from conflict. If someone is aggressive with me, I will fight back, and seek to win at virtually any cost. It has caused me a few problems in life.

Sometimes... 

..it shouldn't be a question. 

anastacia stated: source post

There's a reason for the saying "you catch more flies with honey". 

That's bound to piss off some bees.