Something like that except imagine you feel really really good when you yawn, way better than the other person yawning ever could.
Turncoat stated: source post
From a starter's standpoint anyway, for physical sadism, a warped form of empathy is mine. I don't understand pain in the conventional sense, so seeing another in pain gives me a tickle similarly to light forms of pain inflicted on myself, except it feels more... indulgent, controlled, powerful. Even watching a character act out pain well in a movie, or just seeing some random stranger hurt themselves has me struggle not to let out some sort of response, be it a light moan of ecstasy or a laugh. Crow tends to do an elbow nudge when I look a little too happy about another's suffering as a subtle reminder that yes, we are in public, and people if I'm not careful will stare.
I understand and relate to this.
I actually get aroused watching certain types of violence. The battle scene choreography in 300 did me in. For that reason, it remains an all-time favourite. Certain scenes in "Ichi the Killer" also turned me on. And Araya Stark's assassin training...! Fuck.
My enjoyment tends to be closer to the more close up intimate stuff, like watching a character have to drill a nail, by hand, into their own leg. Fight scenes tend to only do it if the hit was particularly brutal, an excuse for slowly performed wince acting. Being struck means less when compared to watching drawn out suffering.
I recently had some fun at a bar/club with Crow after she slapped me in public as a means of showing off and expressing affection. This lead to at least three other people slapping the shit out of me after a permissive "Nah really, go for it" was said, showing them to be like a child having found a new toy. One of them in particular, a woman who was formerly playing Pool, felt challenged when I'd look like it didn't hurt to the point of slapping me four separate times with increased force, backing away afterwards exclaiming "THIS IS AMAZING!" with a powerfully large grin on her face and wide, expressive, near-manic eyes.
People really love to have an excuse to hit someone. A lack of sadism from my understanding is either a naive misunderstanding of themselves or the byproduct of another issue that limits it. It's natural to want to inflict pain.
It's not about the gore though, it's about the expression of suffering, that wince that follows as an echo of the source.
When someone's whipped for instance, it's not the crash of the whip that's fun, it's the exclamation of pain, the loss of composure, the way that the face tightens and the body goes rigid yet twitches from the pain. Even that moment after where they're regathering themselves, recognizing the pain that happened after the raw response is done playing out, those inhales of regaining their senses before suddenly remembering what caused it, having a sharp upturn of fear (or lust) towards the source? The echo of the lash and the attempted regaining of their composure, the power behind their expressions when the adrenaline is pumping and the body is largely automatic, this is what makes watching another's agony art. This is what shows a person's true mettle.
Even non-pain oriented forms of suffering can be enjoyed this way. It's why I posted the Supermodels Eating Cake video a while back as one of my favorites. It's all about the response, the expression of it.
Cricket stated: source post
Sadism is natural and occurs to varying extents in every individual. It's fueled by the reward mechanisms in the brain. It most it typically comes with observing a competitor or enemy in pain or a bad situation. Schadenfreude is a good example of everyday sadism.
Sadism considered on the more deviant spectrum is often the result of empathy and masochistic tendencies. Pain feels good to the observer and so seeing another in pain empathetically triggers a pleasurable feeling.
But i do not think sadism or masochism is normal(as in natural, but natural is not a good definition for anything, as everything is natural).
Violence is normal, but empathy is supposed to make people unwilling to act it on other humans, that are not a threat.
I don't like gory scenes. Epic battle porn is more my thing. Something about the intimate brutality of it gets me on a visceral level.
I spar with my husband. It feels great.
He always has a collection of fresh bruises on his underarm. They've become my signature, of sorts. It is rare for either of us to be unmarked.
Turncoat stated: source post
My enjoyment tends to be closer to the more close up intimate stuff, like watching a character have to drill a nail, by hand, into their own leg. Fight scenes tend to only do it if the hit was particularly brutal, an excuse for slowly performed wince acting. Being struck means less when compared to watching drawn out suffering.
I recently had some fun at a bar/club with Crow after she slapped me in public as a means of showing off and expressing affection. This lead to at least three other people slapping the shit out of me after a permissive "Nah really, go for it" was said, showing them to be like a child having found a new toy. One of them in particular, a woman who was formerly playing Pool, felt challenged when I'd look like it didn't hurt to the point of slapping me four separate times with increased force, backing away afterwards exclaiming "THIS IS AMAZING!" with a powerfully large grin on her face and wide, expressive, near-manic eyes.
People really love to have an excuse to hit someone. A lack of sadism from my understanding is either a naive misunderstanding of themselves or the byproduct of another issue that limits it. It's natural to want to inflict pain.
1. How do you know she did not think it is amazing that you appear to trust her so deeply? Ah nvm I'll answer this one. I was not in the situation so it's not like I would know. I'll just say she did like to be able to hit someone without consequences or whatever.
2. Does you like seeing someone get hurt if they do not suffer? So you like seeing someone cry out or suffer. I guess this means you don't like to watch people who are masochists? You don't like seeing those who enjoy pain or at least tolerate the pain so they do not suffer much?
Cricket stated: source post
3. Safe words are hard to mumble with a ball gag.
True. I might feel better hurting someone in bed if I know I have a chance to give them aftercare. It is suppose to be this period after BDSM. I will dress any wounds if it applies. I will give them a fluffy pillow and soft blanky. I will have a nice glass of water ready. I will give my partner cuddles, compliments, their fave ice cream, their fave movie, huggles, kisses, looking in his eyes, more kisses... I can show him how much I value him and care for him so he does not forget.
I would also have to be very attentive. It is important because dopamine is kind of like a pain suppressor. I could be doing more damage than the person thinks I am inflicting. It does not help if the person is drunk or on certain drugs.
This period of after care will help them come down from their dopamine high without feeling stressed, depressed or alienated. I am pro aftercare. I want my partner to feel safe and secure and loved.