I don't like people looking up to me. I had a group of lil girls who would follow me around in high schools. I know they looked up to me and thought I was cool. I'm like nooo.... I don't think they will die... I just don't like the responsibility I think.
Turncoat stated: source post
Very true. From my experience, it's easy to condition someone to embrace sadism, while conditioning someone to embrace masochism is... highly unlikely.
A lot of it seems to kick in once they are properly reassured that there aren't going to be any repercussions. A lot of people on some level love being able to get away with hitting someone. Pair that with sex and... the wires are pretty easy to cross in a nurturing way.
It's been funny to see how a person is once they're comfortable with violence. The tendencies can slip out when hanging out with people who aren't as ready to be struck, leading to some rather humorous reactions. My masochism has been wonderfully fun for the sake of seeing how it can affect others.
Pain and violence are both beautiful and intimate. Paired with sex, also a potentially intimate act, it becomes doubly so. I've found most to be readily willing to give up control and embrace masochism, provided they were slowly eased in to it. They could never be taken very far though. For most I've encountered it's not typically a true masochism but the realization that they enjoy giving over power to another.
Most legit masochists that I have met have been willing to go further with their sadistic tendencies than those just in it for power or control reasons. Very few appreciate pain for the sake of pain, whether in others or themselves.
Astamiss stated: source post
I'm not comfortable with creating violence. I am afraid I will kill the person. I don't like to be in a position of power where someone has to trust me.
The human body is amazingly sturdy and can take a lot of damage before death occurs. Violence is not only a rush but also intimacy during sex. The trust that the one receiving violence or pain puts in the one giving creates a bond. The responsibility of the giver to not do permanent and irreparable damage can trigger nurturing feelings.
Similar happens on the mat during training for martial arts, such as judo, jiu jitsu, or wrestling. You putting and allowing someone else to put you in various positions and situations where you or they could be seriously injured. You're trusting each other to exercise restraint. It builds bonds.
Violence is the highest form of intimacy. Greater so even than sex.
1. I have a question...
You said... "I've found most to be readily willing to give up control and embrace masochism, provided they were slowly eased in to it. They could never be taken very far though".
What is far and what is not far for you?
2. I am more comfortable being sub.
It think I just don't trust myself. I don't trust myself to not hit too hard. I have done a few judo lessons and I hated the experience. It was not so bad because judo is considered the gentle way. I would be made to catch someone after tripping them.
3. I feel honored when someone trusts me.
It is nice to know someone trusts me. I think a safe word might help. I still worry though...
1. I'll go as far as my partner will allow without inflicting permanent damage, scars not withstanding.
2. Where the fuck did you go to train that you were catching people after tripping them? That's why judo teaches you to break fall, so you can handle being tossed without breaking anything.
3. Safe words are hard to mumble with a ball gag.
1. I have a question...
You said... "I've found most to be readily willing to give up control and embrace masochism, provided they were slowly eased in to it. They could never be taken very far though".
What is far and what is not far for you?
2. I am more comfortable being sub.
It think I just don't trust myself. I don't trust myself to not hit too hard. I have done a few judo lessons and I hated the experience. It was not so bad because judo is considered the gentle way. I would be made to catch someone after tripping them.
3. I feel honored when someone trusts me.
It is nice to know someone trusts me. I think a safe word might help. I still worry though...
Turncoat stated: source post
The tendencies can slip out when hanging out with people who aren't as ready to be struck, leading to some rather humorous reactions. My masochism has been wonderfully fun for the sake of seeing how it can affect others.
Every time you say you're a masochist I just think you are indirectly asking me to hit you. I hope this is not the case. It makes me be like confused...
