Well, not during the act of course.
"If I was raped, I'm quite certain I'd take a piece of paper and write pros and cons regarding the said encounter, before making any conclusions."
lol Dude has a pen when he's getting raped and he wants to do some utilitarian calculus :'DD
You know there's a better use for that pen right?
Hint: It's a meme
xP
"Well, not during the act of course."
Besides, my Waterman is a bit too pricey to ruin the tip whilst stabbing the aggressor in the eye or carotid. Thank you, I'd rather be arsed and move on than be arsed later with all the repairing. To add, we are discussing the situation when the interaction is inevitable.
Damien stated: source post
If I was raped, I'm quite certain I'd take a piece of paper and write pros and cons regarding the said encounter, before making any conclusions.
Whaaaat a specimen XD
What's a potential pro, Mee?
Xena stated: source post
It would depend on the level of trust breached with the date rape, and the amount of violence involved with each type of rape. Diseases, pregnancy and slutshaming after the fact would have to be considered, as well as the inner strength of the woman.
Some women get anally raped and slutshamed every day and call it 'escorting' or 'acting' with a laugh.
Some get raped once and are fucked up forever bc of it.
Yeah, there are a multitude contexts rape can happen, and huge differences in the emotional fabric of people in both genders. It's one of those q you can't answer generally but have to go case by case.
Daniella stated: source post
no. i only took physical suffering into account.
part of me is inclined to say that the emotional consequences are roughly equal, but i do honestly have a feeling men would suffer more damage because of their supposed roles in society and how emasculating it would feel.
As a huge generalization though I can say we tend to get more detached emotionally regarding the sex act. It comes easier to separate the physical from emotional since it's in the biology of men to behave in a way to impregnate more women instead of sticking with the first one. Women are naturally more emotional in the way they relate to sex. Trust, bonding, feeling comfortable emotionally is a thing to them, and sex tends to become something more meaningful and deep (and yeah I know plenty of counterexamples, just bare with me). This is why I'd say women would be more affected emotionally by rape.
Daniella stated: source post
you seem like you're under the impression a person is naive just for not anticipating/thwarting any bad thing that could possibly happen.
If bad things didn't happen to wooster, then no one else has any excuse for bad things happening to them. They should all just be more like wooster. XD
anastacia stated: source post
I really want you to stop talking. Like just stop trying to contribute because it's nothing but creepy stalker girl shit and it really triggers me. I NEED A SAFE SPACE.
cough shrew
Damien stated: source post
If I was raped, I'm quite certain I'd take a piece of paper and write pros and cons regarding the said encounter, before making any conclusions.
I just have to quote this again ahahaha! You and the notebooks...
You can laugh at me too, but if I were raped in the ass I'd just want to hunt down and destroy the rapist. I don't see myself having any lasting emotional trauma about it.
angee12880113 stated: source post
Rape has been going on since the dawn of time (figuratively for the smarty pantses) some ducks as I so delightfully discovered, (thanks ken) have evolved to combat the pregnancy part! Humans have not evolved to combat a single thing about it. (Unless you count medicine and the judicial system as evolution, (it's not)) I'm not victim shaming or bashing, I'm just curious. Do people need it to be a big deal? Is it any worse than the lack of power you feel from say, and abusive parent you're too little to stop putting you in ICU? People recover from that just fine and it's not a constant Gasp inducing topic over wine...
Having been in that ICU, people usually do recover, sort of.
It is a big deal. It can be an enormous, fatal deal. I've seen children die from internal injuries from sexual assault. I've seen children emerge relatively unscathed (physically), and suicide in the following months. The only reason we ever know of that conclusion is when we're summoned to the coroners court.
I don't think you're "victim shaming or bashing", for the record. I think you asked a very worthwhile question. If I come across strongly, it's because I feel strongly.
Damien stated: source post
If I was raped, I'm quite certain I'd take a piece of paper and write pros and cons regarding the said encounter, before making any conclusions.
A woman would suffer more, i think.
Since she might get pregnant, she is usually weaker physically(which adds to the feeling of helplessness), also, i am not sure about this, but it seems like it will be more violating to get raped as a woman. Thought if there is butt sex, then its equal in this regard.
angee12880113 stated: source post
Kids die from internal injuries from being kicked the shit out of at three years old, they seem fine if they live. I'm wonderin I guess WHY it's a big deal, as opposed to other types of assault. Is it because there is such a taboo on it that victims feel EXPECTED to feel that way? And you don't come off as strong, passionate but not heavily worded with the fuck this and that and all that jazz, I appreciate passion, in all of its forms.
They are rarely fine. There are enormously strong corollaries between serious abuses, both physical and sexual, and maladjustment - with both psychiatric and judiciary presentations.
I wonder why you think they seem fine? From where are you drawing that expectation?
I'm not even saying that most victims of physical and sexual abuse become the psych/prison population, but I am saying that a significant proportion of the psych/prison population are victims of physical and sexual abuse. At least in modern literature.
If that isn't a big deal, I don't know what is.
EDIT: I note your drawn comparison between physical and sexual abuse - when both are extreme, the effect on maturation is similar. No real difference. If that answers your question?