Very true.
I think INH was referring more to long-lasting disputes. But like ana, only Spatial and Ed come to mind.
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ImNotHer stated: source post
What keeps driving certain members here to continue to play out the same dynamic with each other years after it all started, as if it's still new.
Why do these people still get a reaction from you?
Do you feel compelled at all to learn more tolerance for these people as part of your growth?
Everyone does things for diverse and often unknown reasons it's not that baffling. I'm pretty sure no one comes to this forum interested in learning about tolerance or personal growth.
There are quite a few people here for personal growth reasons, either intentionally to learn more about themselves or unintentionally learning more about themselves and growing during their duration here.
Alterego stated: source post
I also think that in some ways, we are all in the same tribe.
A common enemy has proven this many times. I love that.
A lot of us were bashed as kids. As a result, many of us are aggressive, assertive, arrogant, insensitive assholes. And this is how we relate. :P
I was able to talk my way out of most of it. Only two people proved annoyingly impervious to that.
Cake stated: source post
It paid off. She is here for the weekend and she told me she read one of sugar's recent threads. Her fiancee was reading over her shoulder at the time.
She explained to him in just a few seconds what a bunch of morons frequent this forum, and told me that she didn't believe a word the participants on the thread were saying.
<3
Emotional justification to continue your narrative, how tasty. It's no different than when narcs choose to only befriend ass kissing enablers.
I'm sure your explanations had no spin on them either, right?
She gave me the full rundown on what this place looks like to a total stranger who is unfamiliar with its...erm... idiosyncrasies.
lol. Just lol.
I'll never worry about what she might think of these people again.
I tried this with a few friends I wanted to drag in here. What's beneath the surface is hard to grasp in the beginning, as this place is made from a deeply layered history. I have more luck telling tales of it than drafting them into the fold.
Someone on the outside is bound to make countless mistakes. Early Kiwi is a prime example of this sort of thing happening. When I first joined I was fairly lost too.
I think you're missing the point that for many of us, it's just... fun to verbally spar, dissect, pick apart, tear down, and build up. It is a playful kind of "negativity" that I think of as more analogous to a game than anything else. I don't think anyone takes much of what is said here personally. And if they do, they shouldn't, but rather seek to allow their interactions to strengthen their weak areas. I also think that in some ways, we are all of the same tribe. A lot of us were bashed as kids, in one way or another. As a result, many of us are aggressive, arrogant, insensitive assholes. And this is how we relate. :P
anastacia stated: source post
There are only a few posters here that I would consider at each other's throats but the most consistent would probably be spatial and ed.
They're mostly over each other, old news. There's tiffs far more recent than that pairing, each done for selfish reasons with layers of personal vulnerabilities and subtext.
On topic, I personally enjoy the game. If something makes me uncomfortable, that's good for helping me grow past it. My reactions, as few as they've been here, have made me improve at my craft, and I'm thankful for that.
Above all, good drama makes for good tales. I hope we never stop.