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ImNotHer stated: source post

I'm always curious about the drive to have close friends, and how those bonds are forged. I have never sought out friendship, myself. Friendships happen for me because someone else took an interest and pursued.

Do you seek out friendships?

What needs do these bonds fulfill?

Do you consider yourself a good friend to have?

Are there friends you lost that you wish you had back?

What would a friend have to do to you that would make you end the friendship?

I do not have a drive to have close friends, but if i happen to have such friends, i have a drive to keep that friendship going.

I do not seek out friendships. They just happen. I might find a person interesting and ask him/her stuff and if they are cool, friendship could happen. But i find almost all people uninteresting. If i was to know them better, they might be interesting, but without the starting interest, i have no motivation to know them better.

Idk what the bonds fulfill, i just get a good feeling when someone cares about me.

I do consider myself a good friend.

I have not lost a friend i really cared for. I was close to, a few times, but has not happened.

I can tolerate a lot of bs on part of the friend, as long as they are not backstabbing me, i don't care. They can be a communist, a nazi, a sjw, a jew, even a gypsie dog lover, murderers, rapists, pedos, etc. Just do not back-stab me. This is after they are my friends, i find it hard to believe a sjw ,or a gypsie, or a pedo will ever be my friend, but if they become one, those are not things that would make me leave them.

(Backstabbing is literary backstabbing me, or attacking me, or my reputation, mentally or physically, or lying, or stealing and probl some other stuff like these(also killing me, or backstabbing/attacking my other friends, after you know they are my friends).)

i think i know who you are

are you still into Ed ?

Do I seek them out?

Possibly at times for social acceptance I guess. I don't know I hadn't really thought of it until last night. But when I am capivated by someone it's like the light shines brighter on them in a room, I notice everybody's acceptance of them and try to figure out what it is about them that draws people to them. I accidently pick up things things about them I like and others like. Adopting good qualities is how people become better people right? Right????? Relationships with these certain people are usually brief quickly bore me as what they are or do is not so special in my eyes anymore.....

There are a couple people that it really doesn't matter what they do or say, I'd kill the world for them. And there is no logical reason for it. I saw them I claimed them and nobody will touch them kinda thing but not in clingy way, just they always know I'll be there for them. However those three people really suck at being friends...but when we are together ever so often we rule the world. (I moved 9 hours away from my home town and playground so I don't see them very often, but I surprise myself at how much I check on them)

I recently in the past 3 years have a couple good friends that chose me....they know that I am bad at remembering to check on them and accept and ignore my flaws and still come around even when I don't answer the phone. I like that, I'Ll keep them.

As far as ending friends. If we ever make it to that point, there isn't much that I can't over look. 

ImNotHer stated: source post

I'm always curious about the drive to have close friends, and how those bonds are forged. I have never sought out friendship, myself. Friendships happen for me because someone else took an interest and pursued.

I'm going to sound like a broken record, since my own responses will look much as anybody else's here.

Do you seek out friendships?

No.  I don't avoid them either, though.  However, I also don't take effort or responsibility in the maintenance of such a relationship once within it.  This isn't malice, dislike or fear.  This really is where my schizoid traits often manifest.  Frankly, I'm sure I'm as boring to others as they usually are to me, so I don't operate under any pretense otherwise.  (Which is why certain people's derisive accusations simply don't have any meaningful effect.)  It's not quite that I am simply uninterested, it's more that I can't be, so why bother?  A waste of time for both of us.

What needs do these bonds fulfill?

The cold-hearted truth is that most of my friendships are those of simple mutual convenience.  I maintain an aloof-but-amicable relationship with those I need for things.  My relationships are strictly businesslike in nature, most of the time.  I don't really need a confidant or "playmate" or whatever.  I have been for others, but it's usually to avoid future complications or to ensure they'll continue to be willing to help me out for whatever I may need in the future.  In the past, I was a little more pretentious about it, and acted more friendly and sociable, but I've come to do away with that sort of thing, to avoid any of the mess that can result upon painful (to them) revelation of the true nature of our relationship (to me).

Do you consider yourself a good friend to have?

I am in the sense of I am willing to return favors paid to me.  I can listen just fine, I offer advice and help if I can, and I can function just fine in whatever situation required.  However, if you are looking for someone to call you up and initiate social activities, then I'm not that kind of friend.

Are there friends you lost that you wish you had back?

In retrospect, maybe a couple.  There were those I had for a very long time that were more than just this businesslike thing, but life took different directions for us.  Otherwise, nah.

What would a friend have to do to you that would make you end the friendship?

This question is obviously changed in scope by what I've already shared.  Any "friendship" would end if we just take different life's paths, cease being of use to one another, or the other wants to take it beyond the level it generally rests at.  In the last case, how it "makes me end the relationship" is simply by the revelation of what the friendship is to me and how they don't want it that way.

You'd think someone with professed schizoid traits and agoraphobia and paranoia would have a much higher-anxiety, reclusive life, maybe.  I've learned to manage much of my "problems" simply by just facing them and pushing against the wind.  It's the reason for a lot of my contrary behavior to what I display as my thought process.  I think I owe it to some sort of "oppositional defiance disorder."  I work in human resources, I manage people, I deal with people all day.  It's a sufficient diet of humanity such that I reach my fill every day and enjoy getting away from it.

You articulate your nature very well. Always a pleasure to read. Thank you.

I'm not Pray, if that's who you're thinking.

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No, i was thinking of someone else, whos name i dont remember.
doesnt really matter

I wasn't trying to be clever. I was trying to be obvious. Which turned out to be ironic, and therefore, clever by accident?

Your name being designed to not have people suspect that you're a "him" would make this comedically clever.