I'm always curious about the drive to have close friends, and how those bonds are forged. I have never sought out friendship, myself. Friendships happen for me because someone else took an interest and pursued.
Do you seek out friendships?
What needs do these bonds fulfill?
Do you consider yourself a good friend to have?
Are there friends you lost that you wish you had back?
What would a friend have to do to you that would make you end the friendship?
I don't - they happen.
The most basic and sacred.
No, the worst - i tend to fall out of communication. I wish i wasn't like that.
Yes, all.
Aside of my own uncommunicative laziness, i can't think of any such thing - a complete change of personality perhaps, but then again there was a personality in place to begin with which you befriended. Those core things don't tend to change.
Nyarlathotep stated: source post
I usually find friendships confusing. T
My first bestest friend died when i was 5. She was 84. We used to terrorise the neighbourhood.
That left me somewhat confused at the time as i recall, but i took it in my stride.
ImNotHer stated: source post
Do you seek out friendships?
Not exactly. I socialize and people tend to come to me. I consider most people acquaintances until I know them quite a while.
What needs do these bonds fulfill?
I find specific needs difficult to list. It varies wildly depending on the person or situation.
Do you consider yourself a good friend to have?
Maybe. I rarely initiate casual contact unless someone seems the type who needs it. I help people I consider acquaintances or friends whenever possible and offer an ear/shoulder if presented with the opportunity.
Are there friends you lost that you wish you had back?
No. Some passed through my life only due to our common circumstances, such as class or dorm assignments. I make conscious decisions to end friendships with people who prove detrimental to my life.
What would a friend have to do to you that would make you end the friendship?
An example seems suitable here. I met a girl in 9th grade (14). We interacted casually at school for a few years and by senior year, we spent a ton of time together. We drove to school together and chilled on weekends at games/parties/malls/etc. I considered her a friend and of all the people with whom I acted friendly in high school, only she remained into college. The rest lacked much in common with me; we acted friendly because school forced us into rooms together for 7 hours a day. Some time in my early 20s, I caught her stealing from me. She never, to my knowledge at that point, crossed me before then. Though she only took a bottle of anti-anxiety meds, a moderately priced wallet, and about $40, I ended the friendship immediately and violently. I later found she treated many of her friends poorly and lost most of them through lying, stealing, and acting like a rabid slut.