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i commented on this before i realised it was for systematic specifically. i should go get some sleep

I'll let you figure it out.

oh, this thread was for a specific guy. my god, im an idiot >.<

by Systematic

Within 1 day it went from that too actively hating me for something I never did. I don't believe it's just my head being off that caused me being a stalker. I believe if anyone was set up in my shoes, it would do worse if not the same.

the thing is whatever you 'never did'. what was the thing?

Something I'd rather not go into details with. It caused her a lot of grief with everyone she knew. Being that she wasn't exactly social in the first place, it just tarnished her reputation ultimately making her quit her job and abandon the few friends she had left(me included). 

Whether she believed the lie or not, the lie did enough damage to her that she just didn't want anything to do with me.

i understand..couldn't you just be vague though? how did the lie get around (to cause her to quit work and end friendships?) if someone only repeated what they alleged you had said about her?

The individual who set me me up was her close friend. Everyone that my girl knew, she knew.

It wasn't a lie about something I said. More something I did.

by Systematic

 

I can have her now. Now that i'm not falling over for her she's quick to do as I say. Like treating her like shit was all it took. It's displeasing to say the least. I expected more from her, I don't care if I've known her for this long.

I've said it before. Take all that intense attention away from a woman and she'll sense its absence and want it back. She likes having you as her crazy fan (sorry, but I don't believe for a second she's not aware you're passionate about her...women ALWAYS know, they have a 6th sense for that). Crazy, but distant too. It's good for her ego and not much else.

by Systematic

She originally wanted the extra attention, she fed off it as much as I did. 

The difference between me and other intimacy stalkers, is that the desire towards each other actually was reciprocated and not made up in my head. We'd average 400-500 text a day for a 7 month period, we went out to eat, took her to a couple movies, walked around in nature parks discussing our future. The things I missed the most were the bonfires in the woods and the night walks together.

Within 1 day it went from that too actively hating me for something I never did. I don't believe it's just my head being off that caused me being a stalker. I believe if anyone was set up in my shoes, it would do worse if not the same.

 If your past relationship really was that intense and close, and a couple of lies were able to fuck it up... something doesn't add up. Are you sure that wasn't just an excuse for her to get out of your relationship, because it was getting too intense and creepy for her? Sometimes women have problems rejecting someone who is that much in love/crazy about them, they feel guilty if they don't feel the same thing back. A love that strong going both ways is very rare, almost inexistent... And definitely doesn't go away after a lesbian with bad intentions spreads a few lies around.

Also, you said you got back to her a few months back, but then broke up again. Why didn't fail again? No excuse for other lies being told this time.

It wasn't a couple months ago, even though I phrased it that way.

More like a year and a half ago. Even though we dated, she could never live up to the person I had been obsessing over for 5 years. We barely had 3 weeks to enjoy the relationship and I wasn't about to rush her. Things got stale, we were both constantly busy and eventually I left for the service. Even though she wasn't all I wanted she was the closest thing to it and I still felt for her and I was irritated that I couldn't have more time with her.

Used her as motivation in bootcamp, laminated a picture of her and taped it inside my Kevlar(helmet) during the Crucible. Wrote letters, none came back. Now that I'm back were still close but not as much as I'd like. She was dating this fuck who knew me, took my letters from her mail box. He's been dealt with already.

We're still on good terms, called her last night actually. It's just a awkward stalemate at this point. 

ok, but something still doesn't add up. if the friend told every mutual friend this thing that was so upsetting for your girl wouldn't she have clocked her friend might be the dodgy one and be mad at her? and if she told everyone herself, that still doesn't make sense for her to spread her own shit around and then leave her job over it.

back to my initial comment, what if you did the thing and are just delusional?