I never claimed to control love, though I do believe I understand the catalysts required to start the chain reaction leading to it. Specifically to the infatuation stage (The deeply connected intrinsically intertwined in with another person that happens during the initial stages and even the heightened moments around the whole makeup-reconnect phase).
I don't believe it's hard to make someone fall in love, at least THAT passionate kind of love. But there is no controlling it once it's started. It has a life all its own that ebbs and flows beyond your control in many degrees, such true passion supersedes the individual and becomes more about the bond between two, trying to control that leaves it stale, fake, empty, and ultimately unfulfilled.
I also agree to the concept of monogamy being a staple for stability in family units. But I still don't know if I believe our current methods of establishing that stability are healthy and productive. I imagine in the future polygamy will actually begin to become mainstream or at least "swinging" will. Allowing people to have the best of both worlds. The excitement and fun of new, with the stability of a Family and obviously I know that sentiment is going to cause friction with many, and it me be to early to invision that time now. But I do believe it's coming.
With a 50% divorce rate across the board. Declining marriage statistics in general... and a continually more and more progressive, liberal group taking the future. It only makes sense to me.
As to the concept of sharing, I've done it, and as scary as the thought is... if you put it in context it's not so bad.
Most of the women you've been with have most likely had sex before you, so what's the difference?
Today the concept of serial monogamy is the norm... speed 2-6 months with one person, then it ends and you move on to the new toy. You're sharing your toys already... you just convince yourself that person is yours forever.