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Personally I feel that if we were meant to be monogamous, we wouldn't need to make promises about it.

I'm not a great supporter of it, I think that physical attraction is possible between a lot of different people.

I don't believe in "The One" either, I think there's plenty of good options. Some great ones even.

How it made me feel... It looked like a lot of fun! I'd quite willingly participate. For science, of course.

I agree with most of what Limerence posted, except for the last part.

The video didn't make me feel anything. Watching people kiss isn't that interesting.

It's obvious that we're a promiscuous species. As was said in this thread we had to invent special binding agreements (aka marriage) and laws (adultery laws) to enforce that agreement.

But biologically, male humans have a need to spread their seed with healthy, young partners to ensure the survival of our species.

So there's a paradox between those biological needs and the societal needs of having a nuclear family with a well-defined protector/caretaker which up until recent times has been the role of the father.

As for the video I didn't feel anything but you could see the actors felt awkward.

I also thought that they did a good job representing our society's sexual diversity but not the racial one.

Why not have black guys kissing asian guys, or I don't know indian chicks kissing swedish chicks?

changing bacteria LOL

I didn't watch it because I already think the simple concept is gross. It could be because I'm American, but I just don't think people should be so in random other people's faces that they risk getting mono. Even if these people were disease free and just got back from the dentist, it still looks "blegh" to me, as if people went around on the street groping each other whilst twerking. The only difference to me is that this includes slobber.

I'm pretty sure these are actors. Also they would probably be liable if they contaminated someone while exchanging saliva during the shoot.

On a side note I couldn't help but notice that you used 'whilst' which is very british.

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No, this is a good thread, I wouldn't mind seeing this deep thinking Jay more often.

I watched the video earlier, since it's on the first page on YT. I just remember thinking, cute idea. And noticing that most of them were obviously embarassed/hesitant with it, I don't think I'd have been like that with the younger women there. :D Deep meaning aside, I felt sorry for the dude who got the old woman haha. And those guys, I assume they were gay, right?

Love feels awesome every time I feel it, and I've felt it many times. I suppose what's going on inside our bodies is just chemicals and all that, and how much you can control them is an interesting question. Maybe your point is that you can make yourself feel "love" like you make yourself "empathize" with people? Willingly? I don't think it works like that, tbh. I know I have little to no power over falling in love and getting over people.

But I agree it may very well be that everything's a matter of chance and proximity. I'm pretty sure we're not monogamous, but I see the benefits of stability when it comes to a family. Also, as a jealous person, I wouldn't want to share people I'm emotionally involved with. And asking them to accept my fooling around while I'm bothered if they do the same seems a bit unfair. :D

My preference toward a single partner is not from monogamous values... but from being too picky. If my options are between either spending my time to have someone become a near-perfect match for me (assuming the potential is there), or searching through a sea of people for the off-chance that they match my appetites in advance? I'd take the option that's more realistic, one of conditioning and inner-potential over a lottery.

As for my thoughts on emotional plasticity, I haven't had strong thoughts related to "the rest of my life" with partners beyond thoughts of convenience, instead doing more of an "in the moment" sort of thing. Mere-exposure effect paired with desirable traits is the usual culprit, anything else perceived typically being a manifestation of natural chemicals, imagination, values, and context.

I cling to who I'm with now because of what she can do, aligning interests, and having a past that intertwines. It'd be nice to be able to just sit back and call it "love", but love isn't something that should be able to be moved on from with just disappointment. Others emotions felt over love looks so poetic and raw, I can't help but envy it on some level.

I didn't really have a reaction until one of the participants pulled on the lip of another at the end of their kiss. Then I thought yes, I'd like some of that please. Too much emphasis is placed on the idea of "one person". It's hard to not just view these people as actors though, doing a job.