Thank you for your helpful reply. I will check your posts. How do you how to read them? I take it that you are a sociopath also?
by marri3d2s0ci0pathWhy did I marry him... I thought I was in love. He acted like he was in love with me. He was affectionate. And apart from occasionally being controlling and o.c.d about things he treated me good. It's only been in the last year or so that the cracks have started to form in his performance. He's bored. He's said so. And he told me he was a sociopath because he claims he warned me before we married which I do not remember At all. He was throwing it in my face that it was my fault. I was warned. I'm the one choosing to stay.
He was apparently diagnosed during a work psych evaluation.
I have considered it's for attention or to convey a certain image. But looking back on our relationship I can see things line up. Everything makes sense now.
I feel terrible about telling someone but (and I don't know tour situation) but when you live with someone like this it feels like you have a truck on your shoulders. I needed to tell someone what was going on at home. I had stopped myself from saying something before. It got to much in that moment to hold it in. The emotional abuse etc it's gotten bad enough that iv considered self harm to cope. Even suicide. That's how much I hate myself after some of the things he says. But he can't help it. He was born like this. And I try to remember that it's not his fault.
That said. I have seen no evidence of diagnosis. But every time that train goes past I can't help but worry a little.
In law, IF he has an actual diagnosis. It is still deemed his fault. You should not remove any responsibility from him because he is competent enough to understand his actions. You have seen nothing to confirm the diagnosis he says he has, it's possible he is just a bad person who is bored and whom has chosen to play with you. These things do not make him a sociopath.
Outside of prison. They do not diagnose psychopathy. This sounds like something you need to leave for your own mental stability either way.
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by marri3d2s0ci0pathOutside of prison. They do not diagnose psychopathy.erm...lol?
What? From the information i have seen its antisocial personality diagnosed in the general population. Sociopaths and psychopaths are only diagnosed once they have been incarcerated. Perhaps that has changed or I am wrong. That is just what I had read.
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by marri3d2s0ci0pathOutside of prison. They do not diagnose psychopathy.erm...lol?
What? From the information i have seen its antisocial personality diagnosed in the general population. Sociopaths and psychopaths are only diagnosed once they have been incarcerated. Perhaps that has changed or I am wrong. That is just what I had read.
First, I know next to nothing about sociopathy, so you might be right about that. As I'm not a sociopath, idc lol. A history of criminal activity is part of the criteria, but you don't have to be 'in prison' to be dx'd a psychopath. In fact, you don't even need to have ever been in 'prison' and the criminal activity part is not written in stone, either.
by SmiffyI thought that the term sociopath and psychopath were interchangeable?
Oh, dear me...
"Oftentimes, we think of the terms “psychopath†and “sociopath†as being
used interchangeably to describe people who have no conscience and act
with no regard to others; in fact, the terms were once fairly
interchangeable. Now, however, “psychopath†is usually used in regards
to someone who has crossed the line into the criminal element, while a
sociopath is of little danger to those around them. A psychopath is the
more dangerous of the two, but it’s also the one you’d never suspect a
person of being".
The Difference Between Psychopaths And Sociopaths
That's just the first link. google "The Difference Between Psychopaths And Sociopaths". There is a ton of info.
A few things.
1. It's not a game. You sound patronizing when you call it a "game", and it's no wonder he's ticked off you're not taking him seriously.
2. You want someone who was born a sociopath to tell you why and how they're a sociopath? Can an asian, indian, or white person please explain to me why they are the way they are?
3. There's no point in figuring out whether his threats against you are real or not. If he really wanted to do something to you he's going to, so just plan for the worst case scenario?
4. Whether or not you're safe depends on how useful you are to him. If you cause more trouble to him harmed, then he'll be more crafty about the damage. Either way, he will exact some form of revenge.
5. If he's thinking about physically harming you, he will.
Edit: After reading your latest post, I kinda feel bad for you. You have my sympathies.