by hypercubeMaybe at the end they will both laugh and say good game.
Indeed ;)
Being a high-functioning borderline myself, I can definitely attest to this being true. Other people with BPD would apparently disagree, however (remembering in particular some of the comments on this blog post). Who knows, maybe I've just got a heavy dose of sociopath in me on top of being an emotional basketcase ;)
As a 34 yr old female dx'd with BPD, let me say that there are somethings which I find inaccurate for me. I know that not everyone with a personality disorder is always %100 true to their criterion. For instance, I don't have a fear of abandonment and infact, prefer to be alone most of the time because I hate dealing with others' stupidity and drama. The emotion regulation is something I have trouble with and so compartmentalizing is natural to me. I do enjoy some manipulation for benefit and entertainment. I have been self destructive and destructive to others. It's quite possible that I'm not accurately diagnosed and that's okay. There's no medicine that treats personality disorders and I think psych meds do more harm than good.
Numbing or desensitizing my emotions is still a work in progress. I have achieved the 'don't give a shit' phase but seemed to have plateaued. Empathy and intense emotions have foiled me more than help. There have been a growing number of instances when I have failed to have an emotional reaction. I have caught myself mirroring people; I've done it to show people that I'm like them and so they should like me. Yes I have my insecurites. I also have my violent tendencies as well. I've spent several hours in group therapy fantaszing about locking the doors of the room and killing the counselors while others watched in horror. In short, I know I'm fucking crazy. I find other people's crazy interesting and entertaining.
Also, we should consider both self-reporting and the reports of those close to the individual. It forms a better picture of the dagnosis.