Sociopath Community

by Thrill Kill

TK3. I'm asking you to stay out of any conflicts I have that don't involve you. Do you agree to that?

ET3. No, I cannot GUARANTEE I will not post something freely anywhere on this board the same way you do.

I cannot GUARANTEE that I will let you tell me what I can or cannot do since you don't believe in someone doing that to you either.

You can post freely on the board, sure, but if you can't stay out of a conflict (between myself and someone else) that I have already specifically asked you not to get involved in, then you and I are going to have some issues. That will result in a conflict YOU created by not staying out of the conversation.

You need to learn what boundaries are and I'm more than willing to teach you... the hard way.

 Hmm TK about karma. Remember you said you were the one who couldn't follow rules and would post wherever. so what if this is about your karma, too?

I can agree to try avoiding posting in response to you or about you so it reduces the chance of   bringing up some conflict you don't want to resolve.

however if you post to me or about me, yes, I will likely reply to that.

we didn't seem to have problems communicating here.

I don't mind trying to focus the posts better.

If I make a mistake and do post something weird, off or conflicting in such ways, will you PM me so I can remove that post, or reply if there's not PM yet.

I wonder if this will also help you get over your fear that you can't guarantee you will follow rules either? do you think it's connected? if it helps you equally i think that is fair.

That last sentence of yours just proved to me that conversing with you is completely pointless. You stated something that I didn't even indicate at all.

This conversation is over.

Here, let me be perfectly clear. I am not insinuating that your motivations are negative. I am stating that based on your behavior here your motivations are negative. This conclusion is the direct result of multiple posts and comments by you in which you proclaim your good deeds to the world. 

My previous comment towards you was "liked" by two other forum members so surely you see that I am not alone in this view. There is no need to try and correct how I view you. That would change based on your actions. 

"Again the difference is criticism for the sake of correcting the problem, vs criticism to discredit the person being blamed. Big difference. TC do you see the difference between your constructive criticisms here vs. Ana's one way projections onto me as the problem?

Big difference, that is why you are being effective and she is not."

So I should be free to say what I want because I'm "effective", while she shouldn't because it's not? That's not right. My posts should have no more weight than any other users beyond personal opinion.


"they have a choice. I can ask but can't insist if they want to continue."

Not everyone is going to play along.


"or we'd go back and forth getting nowhere"

This implies that each relationship has a destination they ought to go toward, that there is no choice in the matter.


"I don't get what is the issue with being vulnerable."

There's nothing wrong with having vulnerability, but it becomes a problem if someone can play upon it as a weakness. A pre-expected response is a pretty simple button to press.


"those posts don't belong on Clue's thread"

See, right here, saying what does and doesn't belong somewhere. Who are you to say what belongs where? I don't see any problem with this discussion happening here.


"a. because it kept happening over and over so why not fix it"

Your playing into it risks contributing to it happening over and over.

"b. there is a difference between saying something stupid and falsely misstating someone's intentions where that is misrepresentation."

People tend to see what they want to see about people. The ones who would take their words seriously are those who would see you in that light anyway. Confirmation bias and the believed weight in people's words are large factors.

"if you say they have the right to use free speech to misrepresent me, surely I have equal right to use free speech to correct the problem"

You do, and then they have the right of free speech to troll you through those means, manipulate your behaviors based on what you're likely to do. Free speech gives anyone here the right to say what they want, but only you give people the means of what is and isn't believable.


"yes they do not like this resolution process. so the sooner we resolve this, we don't have to suffer through this again."

Since when was this resolution process of yours a required inevitability? Why do we have to do anything?


"if people don't like each other, and can't wont or don't want to resolve issues, they can..."

...do whatever they want to do.


"and attracts more constructive sharing in general between forum members."

So again it's about controlling the content that comes from this place. Social conflict isn't that insufferable to you is it?

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Instead of learning to tolerate this place, you'd prefer to change what makes you uncomfortable. This is what I am gathering from this talk of ours.

If someone judges you purely on the words of others, they're unlikely to really learn who you are even without others input.

Seriously, you don't need to try so hard. If anything, trying this hard plays against you in a place like this, especially if it's used against you. The promise of a response is enough for some people.

Also, don't apologize to me. I didn't ask for that, and I am not entitled to one. I'm just saying what I think about the things you think.