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by clueless...because he wants to sleep with me
...because I seem insecure and dirty
If he is a sociopath, then what I mentioned earlier applies. You are just a fuckable object to him, but I'm wondering..
How do you know he only wants to have sex with you and nothing more?
Did he tell you you're insecure and dirty or is that what you think you are?
Either you are insecure and are projecting your insecurities onto him, or he sucks at blending in and using charm to get what he wants.
[If I don't love someone back, I see no need to get frustrated or pass judgment.
I try to focus on what me and my friend DO mean to each other. and make the most of it.
If someone still has issues with feeling things I don't, it is coming from somewhere else.
Lots of ppl repeat problems from the past. Control issues or conflicts from the past are commonly repeated in romantic attractions, whether or not someone is sociopathic.
Lots of ppl have control issues, and want to have someone else fulfill their needs.
In order to let someone work it out their side themselves, I can't take their insecurities or issues onto myself. I work on my issues and let them to do the same.
The more I can forgive the imbalanced feelings, I can encourage them not to worry about them either. they have to work it out why they see me as an object or substitute for control or security they are missing in themselves. this is very common in male/female relations because it triggers past patterns from relations with our mothers or fathers.
I even had a friend admit to me he used me as a substitute figure for his father, because he still seeks approval or validation. he agreed it was projecting a different issue onto me. this happens all the time, me and everyone I know are trying to resolve the same things]