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by tesseract

 I'm not sure if you're trolling me, but if I turn that into "I can have love for him but we shouldn't stay together after he stops meeting my needs" then I like it.

Unconditional love is cool.  I'm pretty disordered so this calm feeling definitely won't last, but I can always remind myself how stupid I felt if I start to do it again.

I guess when I see him I can see if we can stay friends.  If not, I guess it doesn't matter, but yeah.  Unconditional love.  I can't hate him for being who he is.

 Hey Tess I didnt mean to sound so harsh or negative previously. I could have said it better, like focus on being yourself good or bad, so you relax and interact honestly. find what you love about yourself and go from there. what he likes or can handle will come naturally. be forgiving and accepting of your ways and his. and enjoy learning how to dance with your differences. you cant control what he likes or runs from. but you can learn to focus on what you genuinely appreciate in him and you and make the most of that. what makes you laugh, what makes you smile. remember to play like little kids. what makes you feel safe and natural where these other things dont bother or scare you. wherever you feel safe where you can completely be yourselves without apology i would focus.

to love someone is to care for someones soul. for someones happiness and well being in a loving not fearful way but with trust. immature love says i love you because i need you; mature love says i need you because i love you. perfect love conquers fear. love yourself and your relationship more; let your smallest expression of love be greater than your worst fear. is that more helpful?  

 ;-)

maybe i should change it phonetically to Emma Lee Nim?

or in hebrew with no vowels: MLNM (sorry, old joke also)

why did u pick your name? what do you find most interesting on here

by wilful

 

by emilynghiem

 yours, too! mine is my real name. so when ppl look me up online, what you see is what you get. no one else to blame for what i post. wish the whole world were that transparent and without fear of judgment. just open honest sharing no matter what is said in the process. that's what i believe in. more love less fear.

 oh..i must have read it a bit differently

by emilynghiem

 ;-)

maybe i should change it phonetically to Emma Lee Nim?

or in hebrew with no vowels: MLNM (sorry, old joke also)

why did u pick your name? what do you find most interesting on here

 

 then post a picture

 ^Why so thirsty?

http://rookery9.aviary.com.s3.amazonaws.com/20032000/20032474_e7fb.jpg

 dear wilful i think this photo is 9 years old

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dear thrill kill and whoever was trying to describe blue balls

from a female equivalent experience

here is a story i wrote that captured my torment of

being sandwiched between two karmic soul mates i couldnt touch

in this lifetime and it was killing me inside

http://www.kittieporn.org/adulthumor/likeangels.html

 That is so fucking sweet and idealistic.

I'm glad you exist, Emily.  You're making me smile.

Ah, I never thought about phone sex giving a guy blue balls. To be honest, it never occurred to me that guys even get blue balls before today and I do know how to really turn a guy on. I've done sex in all kinds of ways. When I'm flirting with a guy, my voice alone seems to get him horny.

by tesseract

 That is so fucking sweet and idealistic.

I'm glad you exist, Emily.  You're making me smile.

 i'm glad my eternal 7-year-old-ness comes in handy sometimes.

drives my boyfriend up the damn wall. but glad you can smile at it! ;-)

he used to complain i acted 6, but now it's cuz i act 7. some improvement!

 You sound like you have strong gifts in sensuality beyond the physical sexuality as well. whoever you share that with i hope they truly appreciate you and dont take you for granted on the multiple levels you must operate naturally. how many couples struggling with issues would do anything to feel a tenth of the passion and pleasure you can manipulate at will. i hope you continue to make the most of your gifts that are lost to people on the other side of the spectrum. feel sad for them. they probably wish they could do what you do, but wouldnt know how to handle it! can you imagine? if your extra passion were to be transferred to ppl with zero?

how many sexless marriages could you save if you donated your spare hotness?

Spare hotness or hotness to spare?  I suspect it is the latter.  Very few are hot enough to afford to gift some away.