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I freak out because, first, I'm confused. I'm like, why are they talking to me? I mean, I know I'm attractive and smart and all that jazz, but I guess it comes from having a hard time understanding that other people have thoughts and feelings that aren't the same as mine. So I'm like, what's their logical motivation? What's the "answer"?

And then I think, OMG they WANT something from me BLEH. They want me to like "be there" for them and like do shit and we can't just hang out together, suddenly we have to get married, and NOW MY WHOLE LIFE IS OVER.

 Holy fucking shit! 

That's quite a leap from them just wanting to get your phone number. You need to practice mindfulness then. When your brain starts to go there, you need to self talk. And one of the things that you need to say first is: Only lunatics want that shit right away!!!

by Silkthread

 Yes. Exactly. Don't force yourself into things. Unlike math, there are so many different formulas that work. Plus... it's just unfortunate that so many people want instant gradification when going into relationships. 

The day I meet someone willing to be patient enough to let me warm to them in my own time- it will with the right one.

 You're smart. New outlook starting now. Thanks.

by Silkthread

 

 Holy fucking shit! 

That's quite a leap from them just wanting to get your phone number. You need to practice mindfulness then. When your brain starts to go there, you need to self talk. And one of the things that you need to say first is: Only lunatics want that shit right away!!!

Hahaha. Well not right away.That happens after a few days when I decide I might like them. Ya, I gotta meditate or something.

Oh -- it's not that I think they want to marry me right away, it's that if I think that I like them, that I'll eventually have to marry them and then I won't be able to date other people or someone better etc etc ... 

Or even most relationships in general don't really allow seeing other people. which is why I just date, and don't have relationships, but then again I don't make real connections with them either.

 Curious about a few things. Did you grow up with a single mom? Have you ever been sexually assaulted or abused?

 No, and no.

 My sisters are TOTALLY opposite from me. 

 I think also the reason I freak out is because I start to "feel" things and I'm like AGHHHHH WTFFFFFFFFFFF and I get all OCD or anxiety or whatever

 Interesting.

Oh the wild ideas that that brings forth.

Just sayin.

;-)

 What kind of wild ideas?