Merci silk.
I don't sense jealousy. He tells me that he considers me his mentor. That he looks up to me. My little sister says this to me as well. I cringe when people say things like that. They have better options. They are not as limited and bound by the kind of responsibilities I have. It's just idealization.
Hm. So he feeds off you in some way and doesn't want anyone else around so that he has more resources, maybe? This is very "Single White Female" but with a man so it's odd to me.
Lycan: It's a compliment. I wouldn't so easily admit that someone is intimidating here unless they were impressive. :)
He's not the first, and I have been stalked by quite a few people. I'm a good target, I suppose. I'm not easily shocked, offended, or put off. Excentric types are familiar. Not much is a taboo subject for me. And because I don't easily take notice of people without lots of fireworks, bells, and whistles... I attract the dramatic types. Yet, I am not to be controlled. I buck every system if it feels like a cage. So once I feel someone is trying to trick or control me... all hell breaks loose.
Edit: I also have a fucked up sense of humor, so things that shouldn't be funny to me, are... until it crosses the line of betrayal.
I'll watch that movie when I find the time.
I haven't been (successfully) gaslighted by anyone. I think it helped that people around me tend to trust me and believe what I have to say more than what others have to say, and it gives me enough confidence to not believe malicious false crap a gaslighter would try to put inside my head. I'm a straightforward dude, mainly because I learned I have little to lose from being like this. I never had to develop a web of lies or secrets or be two faced among people to succeed in anything, like gaslighters do. This is more typically female I think :D Personally, I've witnessed females gaslight more than males.
Also I think you need to be a little dramatic yourself to attract the dramatic type. (I would know.) I tend to stay away from them as much as I can.
Well, you may attract dramatic people because you're dramatic, but outside this forum, I am not a dramtic person. And they don't have the saying 'opposites attract' for nothing. Outside of this forum these are the words that are use most frequently by friends, family, and neighbors, to describe me:
Aloof, quiet, mysterious, standoffish, mellow, hard working, blunt, stuburn, independent, "free spirited (for those who get to know me better), easy to get along with, and intelligent.
Now, I can understand how different I come off here. But here is what's going on inside my head. Here is where I'm surrounded by people who like to play psychological games, stir shit up, and indulge in the deranged. It is a good place for me to let out things that I cannot in my everyday life. I indulge to the extreme, because some things should not be kept corked. So I let my freak flags fly here, and also when I've engaged in personal email with those I've met from this site. I know that they can handle me.
Outside of this place, it takes a lot to push me to the edge, and when someone finally does push my buttons, I am very direct about my approach in resolving the issue.
You sometimes say things, Edvard, that lead me to believe you have a rigid belief system, and that you take what everyone does here at face value. It's a wonder you are able to learn anything new about human behavior. But then... that is just how I see you from what you present of yourself in this forum.