Did you just play passive for the most part, or react at times?
I reacted to her the most because I read faces. Every emotion she did (except her violent tempers) was completely staged. It appeared as if she studied TV for how to behave in conversation. She was highly transparent.
Didn't really matter though, as the others would be too tired from her tirades to listen to me talk about what she was doing. A lot of what she did was behind the scenes, so I couldn't really reverse engineer all of it.
Edit:
Each time her tactics were discovered, she'd be kicked out of the group. Each time she was kicked out, she'd one by one systematically use her pity card to get herself back into their lives (even going as shamefully far as hurting herself and fake crying), until the next thing I knew, she's just there again like nothing happened.
She wanted everyone to dislike me so I would only have her left. She wanted me to show her affection that just wasn't there. She aimed to control the very life around me so that she would appear to always know what's going on in advance. She wasn't able to control my behavior, so she instead controlled the behavior of people around me. She tried to isolate me often, and seem like the only person who likes me (didn't believe it, but she certainly suggested it often enough).
Enough of that overtime was enough to set me somewhat offbalance.
My last roommate did this. Not to the extreme that this chick did, but he pretty much tried to keep the circle of friends he'd had before he met me, from getting to know me, or from hanging out with me...
For the longest time I couldn't figure out why these people always acted like they hated me, when they'd never really seen anything about me other than what I'm like at work. Then one of them finally came forward and told me he was making me out to be the roommate from hell.
At the same time, he was making them out to be a bunch of jealous cunts, who hated me because they didn't want to share him. Just like this gorl you mention- he was trying to isolate me so that he could have me all to himself. Once the lease was up, I told him I would be moving into my own apartment. He acted like I had stabbed him in the heart. Seemed to have delusions about how good things had been between us. He's was very persistent about trying to force his way back into my life even though I'd made it clear I wanted distance between us.
I give in for a time, but then go back to distancing myself, hoping he will drift away eventually. He won't let go.
In fact, my new roommate is the one who came forward and told me about what he had been saying. And it's caused all manner of anxiety in him. He's very abusive to her, so she is finally trying to cut him off for good, but he keeps trying to find a way back in, because I refuse to answer his phone calls now, and he tries to get information about me from her, to see why I've cut him off.
Just this night, he has requested me on Facebook. He swore to never open up a Facebook account because he's above it all.
All that being said, this is a gay man. He has no use for me. So I can't understand why he would keep persuing me so tenaciously.
The AA meeting.
I can hear your heart beating
In this resounding darkness
And I know , beyond all doubt
That you are waiting on my words
You are placing them carefully
So that your delicate footsteps
Don’t stand on them, like crunching leaves.
But in this mire of endless night
How could you possibly know
That I have thrown shattered glass
On the ground
Before you.