I dont think I've said reverse racism is less racist than race jokes..? Race jokes are just as racist as reverse racism so yeah call that out if you need to.
It's an example of racism that is commonly taken as "not racist".
I'd say Reverse Racism is worse. A joke can be done from a variety of reasonings, while racism itself, reverse or straight, is more core to their being.
I've already explained to you(at least I think it was you) seeing people doing casual racism in discord and other platforms started from racist jokes, where it slowly became the norm.
What's wrong with that?
In this case I wouldn't even call it "Honest" conflict either, but rather dark humor.
People who would usually not say such things now used the n-word or other slurs to refer to someone doing something they disliked
Good for them, they're growing as people into something less repressed.
I still struggle to say "The N-Word", I can't even make myself type it, but I wouldn't call that me being progressive, I'd call that me enabling a weakness out of fear. Those who can say it freely without racism as the goal deserve to.
"I can't tell if you're joking" isn't a script.
So work on your tone perception then.
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