“Not reacting” sounds rather convenient as a description of what you were doing. You're attributing a whole causal strategy to it: that your lack of reaction made him escalate, reveal himself, and eventually “dig his own grave.” But how do you actually know that? It sounds like you're retrospectively framing your own behavior as a deliberate tactic rather than simply not confronting him. And if the point is that you were deliberately withholding reactions because you knew it would frustrate him and make him expose himself, that's not really passive nonreaction anymore. It's a form of psychological strategy. Calling it simply “not reacting” obscures what you're actually describing.
When people take a swing and it does nothing. It impacts them. When they swing it's because they want you to react. This was coming from someone who thought they were smarter than me. It's not my fault if his ego got shattered.
If I were to appease you, what action should I have taken ? Should I have cried ? Maybe start yelling to generate some kind of entanglement giving the abuser leverage to start gaslighting me ?
You remember we had this talk before ? How I don't need to kick your ass ?
It's the least I can do for myself.
This also seems inconsistent with your broader views. You've said you don't particularly care about inequalities affecting other people, while also expressing admiration for heterosexuality and contempt for other sexualities. So why is another man sleeping with the women you bring home something you object to?
Contempt is such a harsh word. Humored is more like it.
Now if I bring a woman home, and a housemate banged her, me not liking that would have nothing to do with contempt for other sexualities, or my indifference toward inequalities affecting other people or whatever you said.
My love next door came over, we were sitting down at the table and buddy came running up, grabbed her by the shoulders and started shaking her up "HOW ARE YOU DOING !?" then walked away.
In my opinion it was a sad cry to steal attention, maybe let her feel how strong he is, plus he knows I like her. As for her, she never liked it very much, she's quite small and delicate, like what did he want her to do, turn around and start playing with him ? Maybe get all touchy feely and end up on the floor together ?
It was awkward.
lol You're gonna twist this somehow, but honestly, what I wrote is the truth, and no one in their right mind will think what buddy did is okay.
By your own stated standards, that should be irrelevant to you at best, and something to admire at worst. You're applying a strangely selective standard to heterosexual behavior.
It is irrelevant. I never brought home a woman then a housemate fucked her.
I also mentioned my relationship with my GF fizzled. lol ahhh God. She posts video footage of these horses she took, and the other guy is all "how come I wasn't invited". I felt no way about it. My sentiment is: Good luck man, she comes with a $200,000 plus debt and a lot of that is interest.
Still if I say come, she'll come. I stopped giving her money and things started to crack. Told her to file for bankruptcy but nay. She's rather the man pay it off.
I'm thinking damn. What's better.....
- Her filing for bankruptcy and the ":same money" distributed by the man can go toward HER new shit, new car, fucking vacations, a place etc, then after 7 years she can start building credit again
or
- 200k plus...of my money.... to make her debt go away.
Like damn lady you could've had it handled WITH GAINS and it might've even be cheaper for me. but instead I'm supposed to cover that.
Yeah I totally feel no way if she's doing what she has to do. My heart was stolen by someone else so I settled. That other guy seems loaded too. Seems to sell food trucks for a living so maybe his wealth is an illusion. She doesn't know I know, but I know. Which brings me back to the do nothing mechanism. I never had to anything to know, it's done for me. This happens just about every time people monkey branch or cheat, the other person always finds out in some way. It's too Godly for an atheist to believe but even they see how this plays out in life.
It's okay, we had our fun, and we're still good.
I also understand. Ass can't be free, especially a nice ass in over their head in debt that wants to do things their way.
So maybe, if I bring a woman home and a housemate fucked her ( irrelevant ), I won't be as upset unless it was, the one.
I'm empathic in ways you wouldn't believe. This entails picking up on bad energy too, so when I come across as an awful person in here, I'm returning the energy. Take Dragoon for example. Annoying right. It'll be a matter of time before you start to get a bit cunty while dealing with his foolery, just the same If you walk in on me talking to him, I'll totally come across as a complete asshole. I do give him the time of day cause I'm tolerant but there's always the accumulation so before I cut him loose I'll give him a dose of something pure and true served cold.
"I'm empathic in ways you wouldn't believe" is a strange claim. Picking up on "bad energy" is a perception of how someone makes you feel, not evidence of empathy. Then saying that when you appear awful you're merely "returning the energy" gives you a convenient caveat for explaining away your own behavior. The "in ways you wouldn't believe" part also adds theatricality without actually demonstrating anything.
There's no way to demonstrate this, like how would that even be possible you moron, but I've consistently spoke about it. It's in my back and can get quite painful.
There is a link between stress and back pain. Mine is a firm muscle I have no control over and it really fucks with my nerves to a point it feels like a needle is piercing through my back, through the heart and through the chest.
Things like disgust triggers this. To me bad behavior is a physical attack. The one spot between my left shoulder blade and spine is an area I cannot reach by hand, so the only way to relieve it is to take something and lay on it and grind away. Sometimes I'll grind the area on the corner of a wall, and the relief is better than penile stimulation.
Oh yes when someone manages to upset me, it's metered, and depending on how high that meter it really pushes me to react/unload to what's fucking with it. I call "it" a bullshit detector.
I can make a list of behaviors that trigger this both positive and negative, all behavior is emotional and I experience it on a deep emotional level by force, and why ? Because after decades of this I have emotions metered.
At the same time pleasant energies impact me too and these are associated with positivity and very soothing.
If I weren't what I claim to be, I would've have people like you gunning for me. I call you the damned ones.
You calling me foolish is ironic when your worldview relies on an assumed "greater good" that you expect others to accept, while you routinely deride, humiliate, and shame people who don't conform to it. That can make people more foolish by encouraging them to treat your value judgments as objective truths instead of questioning their assumptions.
False. The world is clearly not aligned with my idea of the greater good. I'm the one people ask "how could you stand, how can you tolerate, I would've done this"
What it is. You know my perspective and you get a sense of shame or tend to get defensive simply for knowing a little bit of what I think. It makes you feel better to say that I expect others to accept my worldview.
Still in my opinion my worldview is functional, while your views long for the oblivion of the species, and if we so happen to have souls, you'd want that obliterated to. Yes you are lame.
A nihilistic position can be more logically cautious becau/
/I don't care about that nihilism shit. Its good if you lack sense. I have the nihilism program too, but it pales in comparison to my other gifts. ( I call them gifts, cause you make me realize how blessed I am. You may refer to my so called gifts as additional attribute you lack, cannot experience and will never know )