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AppleGenius said: 

Being jobless probably shouldnt be equated with being disorderly, although I suspect there is at least some level of correlation.

Being mental is fine; living off the government's money is too. Both of these could apply to a person and they could still perform in life.

But if you are 30+, receive tax payers' cash yet still live with your parents, that suggests there's something very wrong with you IMO. No one who could have their own place would willingly live at their parents. This tells us he can't take care of himself to a degree.

With all this said, Turncoat tends to attract (impressionable) people, typically from the young SC crowd, which he then eventually meets in real life.

One could argue he gets more out of SC than the average member, thus has more of a reason to be active.

owever, if I was to think about this long and hard, I'd say your defining quality is that you are not happy. Most of your favorities activities tend to correlate with depression and your life choices have left you inactive and stale in life. I can't imagine a world in which I was happy, given those lifestyle choices.

So, since this place is all dead anyway, might as well ask, how would you picture me? As in,  if you thought for a while, what would come to mind? Nerd? Antisocial? Or more like an eccentric genius? Outgoing and sporty? That would be very flattering, but I'm guessing you're not in the mood to flatter me. I'm guessing you have met about as many people like me as I've met people like you, so I cant believe your assessment could be very accurate.

Kahneman would be setting the fire alarm off right about now.

AppleGenius said: 

I may tell someone they need to shape up, with good intentions, to help them, even if they may take offense. So, in this sense, I didn't mean for you to take it the wrong way. I see you as someone with no direction in life. I picture home as untidy, your hair a mess, you live on frozen pizza, wearing the shirt from the day before yesterday. You live your life plagued by negative thoughts of others.

 He’s not good enough for frozen pizza. He lives at his parents place from my understanding so it’s probably not that untidy. Honestly though I see him as much worse than what you’re describing.

Chapo said: 

AppleGenius said: 

I may tell someone they need to shape up, with good intentions, to help them, even if they may take offense. So, in this sense, I didn't mean for you to take it the wrong way. I see you as someone with no direction in life. I picture home as untidy, your hair a mess, you live on frozen pizza, wearing the shirt from the day before yesterday. You live your life plagued by negative thoughts of others.

He’s not good enough for frozen pizza.

I have no idea what this even means. 

I've seen that you save money by bothering to prepare the food yourself, and it tends to taste better too. Frozen Pizza is crawling in sodium, but it's otherwise quite affordable (especially when it's on sale), so what 'good enough' even constitutes here is a mystery to me. 

He lives at his parents place from my understanding so it’s probably not that untidy.

Even my own space is fairly well maintained, it's a big room. 

I help out around the house, there's a fair amount to maintain here. It's not anything worth bragging about but the place is kept neat enough for somewhere in the woods, especially when you consider that we house pets here. 

Honestly though I see him as much worse than what you’re describing.

What's your version? His painted me like a Twitch streamer without a channel. 🤣

Allure said: 

But if you are 30+, receive tax payers' cash yet still live with your parents, that suggests there's something very wrong with you IMO. No one who could have their own place would willingly live at their parents. This tells us he can't take care of himself to a degree.

Living on like $600 a month isn't exactly luxurious, most tend to live with their parents on that much. 

Turncoat said: 

Allure said: 

But if you are 30+, receive tax payers' cash yet still live with your parents, that suggests there's something very wrong with you IMO. No one who could have their own place would willingly live at their parents. This tells us he can't take care of himself to a degree.

Living on like $600 a month isn't exactly luxurious, most tend to live with their parents on that much. 

 18 is very young. 34 you should not be living with your parents anymore. This range of age is absurd.

Especially since COVID, over the shifts in the economy it's become increasingly common for families to stick together or rejoin. A surprising number of people I know have had an in-and-out relationship with their families, if their family was nice anyway. 

Turncoat said: 

Especially since COVID, over the shifts in the economy it's become increasingly common for families to stick together or rejoin. A surprising number of people I know have had an in-and-out relationship with their families, if their family was nice anyway. 

I checked the source and that one in three, even according to the source they cite, is incorrect. It's 20% for all age groups and it decreases as people get older, which I guess says that Chapo is correct. So if you're around 35, its probably closer to 5-10%. Even this number seems large. But, to be fair, it's more common in Ohio than most states, living with parents.

I would however say that you are unable to take care of yourself if you're living off of tax money and live with your parents. But I'd say people who are in situations like yours will find it hard to climb up, after being jobless for long enough a time. So I sympathize, I dont particularly care for the American mindset that assumes everyone had the same opportunities and an equal starting point, and everyone is a self made man. The moment we are born, we are dealt a hand, and every new card we draw is random. I'd say there probably isn't much you could do about your situation, gven your work background and history of mental illnesses, so I think it would be unfair to think of your situation as self inflicted. At least you help out around the house and clean. That's good. I think it'd be unfair to expect you to have to work, given your history.

Most people, in the end, are victims of circumstances, and realizing that helps to understand people who are less fortunate, as opposed to looking down on them.

AppleGenius said: 

Turncoat said: 

Especially since COVID, over the shifts in the economy it's become increasingly common for families to stick together or rejoin. A surprising number of people I know have had an in-and-out relationship with their families, if their family was nice anyway. 

I checked the source and that one in three, even according to the source they cite, is incorrect.

Is it? 

It's 20% for all age groups and it decreases as people get older, which I guess says that Chapo is correct.

Isn't this a different stat once you get to "all age groups"? (Even so, one in five seems pretty high to me.)

Factor in being disordered on top of it and I'm sure the number'd get even bigger, but again that was not the stat originally mentioned. 🤷

So if you're around 35, its probably closer to 5-10%. Even this number seems large. But, to be fair, it's more common in Ohio than most states, living with parents.

A lot of people I knew that I went to college with ended up that way, maybe it's a college debt thing too. 

There tends to be a period where they move back in with their folks if their folks were decent people before going back out. For example: 

I would however say that you are unable to take care of yourself if you're living off of tax money and live with your parents. But I'd say people who are in situations like yours will find it hard to climb up, after being jobless for long enough a time.

The plan's grad school after clearing some other stuff up first, as I mentioned already to someone else. 

I've been staying with them more longterm since the breakup, and now that I've had a year or so of time like that the plan's to make something of the rentless opportunity. 

On topic: Do you figure my current state of living is what offended Tryp? 

Turncoat said: 

Especially since COVID, over the shifts in the economy it's become increasingly common for families to stick together or rejoin. A surprising number of people I know have had an in-and-out relationship with their families, if their family was nice anyway. 

 I live by myself and I am 24. I moved out while I was in high school at 18 on SSI and this is in Hawaii. During covid I paid the rent for my father in law and my husband with my SSI and for food and I didn't have food stamps then, because all three of us lost our jobs and it was all we had.