My mom’s sister phones her of late. “Is she (me) doing anything to you. Don’t do ANYTHING” (meant with regard to money or Estate planning or stuff like that.) in the past she has accused me of elder abuse.
I find it extremely rude. I know I’m in the right but what can I say?
Additionally my relatives would not see my mother and me over the past few three years for holidays so I cut them out. Now they want to see me now that it’s not thanksgiving/Xmas/new year’s
and so because I don’t want to I’m being called incredibly selfish. I’m told my aunt above has bought me manicures and haircuts “can’t I PAY her a visit” My mom is not the one saying this FYI. Couched in it is excuse that they do holidays as a family unit not as a group.
So I told her my mother would see her if she wanted to and im not stopping her.
I have this sinister idea as a result: I think the lifetime amount she has spent on me is certainly no more than $500. So I would cut her a check for $500 and never be indebted to her again. *But this could back fire I could see after my mom passes they say here’s some money we wash our hands of you
What should I do?
I need family but mine sucks rn. Hopefully I marry into a great family.
