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natasha87 said: 

Delora said: 

Feathers said: 

I saw a Tik Tok for an autistic moment.

The autistic person was like “did you make dinner?” looking for a yes or no answer. The partner didn’t reply.

Later, the partner said ”are you happy, I made dinner now”. She said ”huh? I picked up dinner. I wanted to know if you made it, yes or no and got no answer”. 

The partner realised the autistic person was not implying he should make dinner. It was a real genuine question to decide the next move.

What? Well yeah of course it would be. Man neurotypicals are odd.

But the thing is, a non autistic person would probably be implying “you should make dinner”. The problem is, we are not likely to pick up on that unless we experienced that exact scenario before. 

Yeah br and I communicate very directly irl at all times.

Autistic Tik Tok is calling it ”implied initiative”. We do not see the implied call to take initiative, nor do we imply it. 

Another thing I notice, if I complain about something we can’t fix, people say “well I can’t change that”. As if, that magically makes it better. Like, example, the temperature at work. Not being able to change it, is the reason I’m complaining… if I could change it, I would. Then I would not complain lol. 

 Once I accidentally implied a woman was a pedophile when I was not trying to because she told me she just waltzes into the men's room with multiple men in it (which I doubt she actually does that I think she was just trying to make a political point) and I said "what if a little boy is trying to pee and he's uncomfortable a grown woman he doesn't know can see his dick?" Oh my god she was pissed

 that's not a neurotypical thing the partner is just retarded. also he sounds a lil sassy 'are u happy now'. are we sure they're not both autistic lmao?

 The woman was drunk but I didn't know til br told me after

natasha87 said: 

Feathers said: 

Delora said: 

 Idk for me personally everyone else seems like they can read fucking minds

Yes, my friend has to remind me that non-autistics aren’t mind readers. They just pick up on implied information like the call to take initiative.

Like when your mom gets home and has groceries and expects you to help, without asking… I am not sure why it’s nicer to have an unsaid expectation then get mad, than to just explain the expectation clearly. 

 ok so if your mom came home with groceries and didn't ask for help but u could see she was struggling and dropping stuff, maybe dropped a can on her foot lol, would you think to help? or would she still need to ask

Well if she was in front of me and struggling, I would assist. Though, not because I thought it was the "social que", rather because I saw someone struggling in a task I am able to assist in. In similar cases, I may forgo helping if I did not think I could assist (obviously not this case). 

Delora said:

 I think this is so true, it was a huge issue when you and I were a thing a while back was it not? Not everyone can handle a relationship with an autistic person and you know what that's OKAY.  And not every autistic person can handle dating a neurotypical I mean, look at all the cute autistic incel bois. So delicious glad I married one 😋💕

But seriously, I agree with you totally tryp your totally right

(Br suggested this post seems passive aggressive but it's not just wanted to throw that out there)

A lot of that came along with being drunk 24/7 + already having a confrontational personality to begin with. Over the last couple of years, I've become a lot better at simply not being aggressive, and learning when to stfu to avoid escalation. There's still some difficulty when I'm trying to be calm and work something out peacefully, but the other person is attacking me. I imagine that's probably not too abnormal.

Tryptamine said: 

Delora said:

 I think this is so true, it was a huge issue when you and I were a thing a while back was it not? Not everyone can handle a relationship with an autistic person and you know what that's OKAY.  And not every autistic person can handle dating a neurotypical I mean, look at all the cute autistic incel bois. So delicious glad I married one 😋💕

But seriously, I agree with you totally tryp your totally right

(Br suggested this post seems passive aggressive but it's not just wanted to throw that out there)

A lot of that came along with being drunk 24/7 + already having a confrontational personality to begin with. Over the last couple of years, I've become a lot better at simply not being aggressive, and learning when to stfu to avoid escalation. There's still some difficulty when I'm trying to be calm and work something out peacefully, but the other person is attacking me. I imagine that's probably not too abnormal.

 Oh. I sort of blamed myself actually so that makes me feel better, I thought it was my fault for being to yandere

Well, would you still say I seemed pretty autistic even if that isn't the reason things went a bit south?

Delora said: 

Tryptamine said: 

Delora said:

 I think this is so true, it was a huge issue when you and I were a thing a while back was it not? Not everyone can handle a relationship with an autistic person and you know what that's OKAY.  And not every autistic person can handle dating a neurotypical I mean, look at all the cute autistic incel bois. So delicious glad I married one 😋💕

But seriously, I agree with you totally tryp your totally right

(Br suggested this post seems passive aggressive but it's not just wanted to throw that out there)

A lot of that came along with being drunk 24/7 + already having a confrontational personality to begin with. Over the last couple of years, I've become a lot better at simply not being aggressive, and learning when to stfu to avoid escalation. There's still some difficulty when I'm trying to be calm and work something out peacefully, but the other person is attacking me. I imagine that's probably not too abnormal.

 Oh. I sort of blamed myself actually so that makes me feel better, I thought it was my fault for being to yandere

Well, would you still say I seemed pretty autistic even if that isn't the reason things went a bit south?

Fun Fact : 

Similar to bpd autistic people can have something akin to a “Favorite person”.

”The favorite person is deemed the most important person in their life. This person can be anyone, but it's often a romantic partner, family member, good friend, or another supportive person (like a coach, therapist, or teacher)”. The favorite person is their comfort person that can become their addiction.

The obsessive nature of autism and “special interests“ just have to be directed to a person. 

I become obsessed with emotionally charged topics. I may talk about one topic for weeks or when reminded again. I stop myself when I’m more aware of those around me getting exhausted.

The obsessiveness can extend to people… and lovebombing without malicious intent is typical. The thing is, with a person the obsession will last longer than a topic. Because you can never fully learn a person (unlike a topic). I am usually obsessed until trust is broken or I feel wronged. 

Feathers said: 

Delora said: 

Tryptamine said: 

A lot of that came along with being drunk 24/7 + already having a confrontational personality to begin with. Over the last couple of years, I've become a lot better at simply not being aggressive, and learning when to stfu to avoid escalation. There's still some difficulty when I'm trying to be calm and work something out peacefully, but the other person is attacking me. I imagine that's probably not too abnormal.

 Oh. I sort of blamed myself actually so that makes me feel better, I thought it was my fault for being to yandere

Well, would you still say I seemed pretty autistic even if that isn't the reason things went a bit south?

Fun Fact : 

Similar to bpd autistic people can have something akin to a “Favorite person”.

”The favorite person is deemed the most important person in their life. This person can be anyone, but it's often a romantic partner, family member, good friend, or another supportive person (like a coach, therapist, or teacher)”. The favorite person is their comfort person that can become their addiction.

The obsessive nature of autism and “special interests“ just have to be directed to a person. 

I become obsessed with emotionally charged topics. I may talk about one topic for weeks or when reminded again. I stop myself when I’m more aware of those around me getting exhausted.

The obsessiveness can extend to people… and lovebombing without malicious intent is typical. The thing is, with a person the obsession will last longer than a topic. Because you can never fully learn a person (unlike a topic). I am usually obsessed until trust is broken or I feel wronged. 

 I've been the favorite person before with a BPD, and it was very intense. They'll raise you up, then devalue you, then come back like nothing happened. 

Every now and then she'll call, and I'll take the call, only because I find her to be an interesting subject. She made me strong mentally, or at least been a part of my making in this regard.