You cant tell people about your mental illness, even if they are good people because most people don't understand it enough. You can only tell people that you really know how will react, or if you manage to educate them, but that seems unlikely. Another option is to tell them the symptoms you have, without ever mentioning a mental illness. However, you need special relatable friends for that, and depends on the symptoms.
+ it is a good thing to tell friends or partners vulnerable things about yourself. Just don't have friends and partners you don't trust. Tho with friends, it's a little bit less important, since you don't need to know each other that intimately.
That builds trust.
You cant tell people about your mental illness, even if they are good people because most people don't understand it enough.
Maybe you can't, mine's worked as an icebreaker. When you feel like you have to hide your disorders, that's when it scares people, but if they are warned they find ways to look at the quirks leading up to it as a bigger picture and tend to become more accepting of it overall.
From personal experience, people are more ready for "the schizo to have a schizo moment" than they are for their totally mentally healthy friend with no problems whatsoever suddenly going into an episode without warning. It can be the difference between it coming from a place of concern or a place of shock, the knowledge proves to be to both people's benefit.
You can only tell people that you really know how will react, or if you manage to educate them, but that seems unlikely. Another option is to tell them the symptoms you have, without ever mentioning a mental illness. However, you need special relatable friends for that, and depends on the symptoms.
Them knowing it in advance steals it's thunder and gives them enough info to be helpful if something's happening. Seeing you as more functional than the stereotype also helps in a lot of ways, as the stereotype is 9/10 of the time worse off than the reality.
If they judge you right off the bat for being mentally ill, fuck that guy. Obviously don't announce this shit in the first sentence and don't mention that shit at work, but if you're meeting new people with no real strings attached it's a lot easier to just let them know. The candid honesty has had many tell me their own Dx.
You cant tell people about your mental illness, even if they are good people because most people don't understand it enough.
Maybe you can't, mine's worked as an icebreaker. When you feel like you have to hide your disorders, that's when it scares people, but if they are warned they find ways to look at the quirks leading up to it as a bigger picture and tend to become more accepting of it overall.
From personal experience, people are more ready for "the schizo to have a schizo moment" than they are for their totally mentally healthy friend with no problems whatsoever suddenly going into an episode without warning. It can be the difference between it coming from a place of concern or a place of shock, the knowledge proves to be to both people's benefit.You can only tell people that you really know how will react, or if you manage to educate them, but that seems unlikely. Another option is to tell them the symptoms you have, without ever mentioning a mental illness. However, you need special relatable friends for that, and depends on the symptoms.
Them knowing it in advance steals it's thunder and gives them enough info to be helpful if something's happening. Seeing you as more functional than the stereotype also helps in a lot of ways, as the stereotype is 9/10 of the time worse off than the reality.
If they judge you right off the bat for being mentally ill, fuck that guy. Obviously don't announce this shit in the first sentence and don't mention that shit at work, but if you're meeting new people with no real strings attached it's a lot easier to just let them know. The candid honesty has had many tell me their own Dx.
If someone tells me about their mental illness too soon, I will not want to see them again. I can't trust they won't do some crazy shit and be a burden on my life. They have also not given me a reason to care about them or otherwise trust them, so all they are is a net negative.
Why would I risk that? And I know there are stupid reasons to risk it, but anything you can gain from that risk, you can gain without it.
If they first show me their character, i might be ok with it.
You cant tell people about your mental illness, even if they are good people because most people don't understand it enough.
Maybe you can't, mine's worked as an icebreaker. When you feel like you have to hide your disorders, that's when it scares people, but if they are warned they find ways to look at the quirks leading up to it as a bigger picture and tend to become more accepting of it overall.
From personal experience, people are more ready for "the schizo to have a schizo moment" than they are for their totally mentally healthy friend with no problems whatsoever suddenly going into an episode without warning. It can be the difference between it coming from a place of concern or a place of shock, the knowledge proves to be to both people's benefit.You can only tell people that you really know how will react, or if you manage to educate them, but that seems unlikely. Another option is to tell them the symptoms you have, without ever mentioning a mental illness. However, you need special relatable friends for that, and depends on the symptoms.
Them knowing it in advance steals it's thunder and gives them enough info to be helpful if something's happening. Seeing you as more functional than the stereotype also helps in a lot of ways, as the stereotype is 9/10 of the time worse off than the reality.
If they judge you right off the bat for being mentally ill, fuck that guy. Obviously don't announce this shit in the first sentence and don't mention that shit at work, but if you're meeting new people with no real strings attached it's a lot easier to just let them know. The candid honesty has had many tell me their own Dx.If someone tells me about their mental illness too soon, I will not want to see them again. I can't trust they won't do some crazy shit and be a burden on my life. They have also not given me a reason to care about them or otherwise trust them, so all they are is a net negative.
That sounds depressing, you're going to miss out on meeting a lot of people that way. By only keeping those around who won't talk to you about it you are setting yourself up to only be surprised by it.
A lot of people with disorder, if they aren't completely gone, tend to demonstrate a better understanding of the human condition when compared to people who didn't have to face as many challenges. A lot of people in the field of Psych for example have something wrong with them if not a family member, which is what led to said people going into the field in the first place.
Why would I risk that? And I know there are stupid reasons to risk it, but anything you can gain from that risk, you can gain without it.
Why would you risk only keeping people around who'd hide things from you?
Your stigma in this case is arguably a disadvantage.
It's the "you can't untell them" bit.
I'm trying to relate here, but why would I want to untell it when I could instead find accepting company?
I don't see as much value in keeping a relationship alive on a lie, nor is it worth the extra weight and stress on the daily over putting on a costume to pretend to be someone else.
Lenalee also said:And much like Tony here, many will use it against me and i can see my own friends doing so, so i don't feel it's much of an option.
Turncoat said:If they judge you right off the bat for being mentally ill, fuck that guy.
Obviously don't announce this shit in the first sentence and don't mention that shit at work, but if you're meeting new people with no real strings attached it's a lot easier to just let them know.
It's the "you can't untell them" bit. And much like Tony here, many will use it against me and i can see my own friends doing so, so i don't feel it's much of an option.
If you were to tell someone, how would you go about it?
You cant tell people about your mental illness, even if they are good people because most people don't understand it enough.
Maybe you can't, mine's worked as an icebreaker. When you feel like you have to hide your disorders, that's when it scares people, but if they are warned they find ways to look at the quirks leading up to it as a bigger picture and tend to become more accepting of it overall.
From personal experience, people are more ready for "the schizo to have a schizo moment" than they are for their totally mentally healthy friend with no problems whatsoever suddenly going into an episode without warning. It can be the difference between it coming from a place of concern or a place of shock, the knowledge proves to be to both people's benefit.You can only tell people that you really know how will react, or if you manage to educate them, but that seems unlikely. Another option is to tell them the symptoms you have, without ever mentioning a mental illness. However, you need special relatable friends for that, and depends on the symptoms.
Them knowing it in advance steals it's thunder and gives them enough info to be helpful if something's happening. Seeing you as more functional than the stereotype also helps in a lot of ways, as the stereotype is 9/10 of the time worse off than the reality.
If they judge you right off the bat for being mentally ill, fuck that guy. Obviously don't announce this shit in the first sentence and don't mention that shit at work, but if you're meeting new people with no real strings attached it's a lot easier to just let them know. The candid honesty has had many tell me their own Dx.If someone tells me about their mental illness too soon, I will not want to see them again. I can't trust they won't do some crazy shit and be a burden on my life. They have also not given me a reason to care about them or otherwise trust them, so all they are is a net negative.
That sounds depressing, you're going to miss out on meeting a lot of people that way. By only keeping those around who won't talk to you about it you are setting yourself up to only be surprised by it.
A lot of people with disorder, if they aren't completely gone, tend to demonstrate a better understanding of the human condition when compared to people who didn't have to face as many challenges. A lot of people in the field of Psych for example have something wrong with them if not a family member, which is what led to said people going into the field in the first place.
If they are not gone, they won't tell me about their issues, until we know each other.
Why would I risk that? And I know there are stupid reasons to risk it, but anything you can gain from that risk, you can gain without it.
Why would you risk only keeping people around who'd hide things from you?
Your stigma in this case is arguably a disadvantage.
I do not, that's the point.
"If they first show me their character, I might be ok with it."
