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Lenalee said: 

Turncoat said: 

Lenalee said: 

Turncoat said: 

Lenalee said: 

This whole rip in pants bullshit is just a mockery of the working class and those in poverty.

I thought it started as punk fashion that was pushed by the music scene. 

 There's a difference in the way it's being worn by people in the punk genre which is often anti establishment and the way celebrities and the wealthy are wearing these article of clothing. Punks had these in their wardrobe and were used on a regular basis and likely had an identity around it. The wealthy buying this stuff are just being tourists and think it's cool and quirky. 

Hot Topic begs to differ, and the only difference is the presence of safety pins. 

I think people are just bored of the clean cut aesthetic, it's too conformist. Rips make them feel original over how they aren't uniformly established. 

 "Likely had an identity around it"

Hot topic isn't catering to the wealthy with 400$ fake mud pants.

Well yeah, Hot Topic as much as they advertised grunge aimed for a cleaner aesthetic, which is expected when the main color they sell is black. It otherwise isn't that different in how it's aiming to sell purposely damaged clothing for the 'aesthetic' appeal, and harkens back to trends before we were even born when it comes to subcultural appropriation. 

I get what you're trying to say but it's not the same at all. At the end of the day they can end it and wear any other sort of jeans or pants whenever they like, they just think this is so cute cos the poors are styling it. 

It seriously looks the same to me. 

Tryptamine said: 

Blanc said: 

This thread was made for tryp hoping he would see how I feel about him but instead he got mad at me LOL

i don't really understand stuff like this because we don't talk a lot, and when we do it's not the vibe of a prelude to a relationship.

She falls prey to your "Good Listener" tropes, fears change, and forgets your lashing at her. 

She's 1/2 way to being Alzheimer-y imo. 

i'm not even thinking about relationships because i don't have the time to make one meaningful, or really even the inclination for a long while now.

Translation: She won't put out and she threatened to hit me. 

always the most charitable of judgments from you

Tryptamine said: 

always the most charitable of judgments from you

True charity would be me linking the topics again, and this response from you gives me the impression that you see the problems and choose to go into them again and again. 

Poor Blanc. 

where it could be that she appreciates my humor, you think it's because i play a listener trope

where you say she fears change, it begs the question "of what" in this context

and the "lashing out" was done mostly when i was drunk, i rarely drink anymore. at any rate, so what if i blew my stack? if that kind of thing was intolerable to her, she'd have lost interest. it's probably not as violent as you think it to be

true charity would be more along the lines of assuming i meant things like "i don't have time for a relationship" as i've been saying it for months now, instead of thinking that's a facade for a more opportunistic mindset. you could link the topics again, you could even harp on content from them and it wouldn't make a difference. for having people so figured out, you're not empathizing with them well

Tryptamine said: 

where it could be that she appreciates my humor, you think it's because i play a listener trope

I've literally watched it happen, and I've seen who else she's found herself drawn to. It's her type and you play it up well, but in time you end up disrespecting her. 

where you say she fears change, it begs the question "of what" in this context

You really don't see it when she publishes the same reruns every year? 

Even she's starting to notice it, you must not pay very much attention to her... Poor Blanc. 

and the "lashing out" was done mostly when i was drunk, i rarely drink anymore. at any rate, so what if i blew my stack? if that kind of thing was intolerable to her, she'd have lost interest. it's probably not as violent as you think it to be

You take notes and unload it when pushed too far, and to blame the drink is to dissociate from your own responsibilities, a tendency that lends to falling right back down the rabbit hole. 

I'm starting to wonder how much of yourself you even see, you might not even notice your own seasonal cycles, even with others seeing it. 

true charity would be more along the lines of assuming i meant things like "i don't have time for a relationship" as i've been saying it for months now, instead of thinking that's a facade for a more opportunistic mindset.

We'll see, personally I see it as you playing hard to get in her case over how you two are chronic re-daters when it comes to each other. 

you could link the topics again, you could even harp on content from them and it wouldn't make a difference. for having people so figured out, you're not empathizing with them well

Or I see the bigger picture rather than the momentary thrill, and your defensiveness furthers the idea that you'd go back to her. 

I believe the word you're looking for is a lack of sympathizing, I can see the feelings themselves well enough in their raw form without having to agree with them. 

TLDR: Poor Blanc. 

Turncoat said: 

Tryptamine said: 

where it could be that she appreciates my humor, you think it's because i play a listener trope

I've literally watched it happen, and I've seen who else she's found herself drawn to. It's her type and you play it up well, but in time you end up disrespecting her. 

yes, she is drawn to people who listen to her. that's a part of the puzzle, just not as large a piece as you seem to be thinking

where you say she fears change, it begs the question "of what" in this context

You really don't see it when she publishes the same reruns every year? 

Even she's starting to notice it, you must not pay very much attention to her... Poor Blanc.

in this context, change of what?

and the "lashing out" was done mostly when i was drunk, i rarely drink anymore. at any rate, so what if i blew my stack? if that kind of thing was intolerable to her, she'd have lost interest. it's probably not as violent as you think it to be

You take notes and unload it when pushed too far, and to blame the drink is to dissociate from your own responsibilities, a tendency that lends to falling right back down the rabbit hole. 

I'm starting to wonder how much of yourself you even see, you might not even notice your own seasonal cycles, even with others seeing it. 

yes, there are times i can swing low when sufficiently angry. when's the last time that's even happened?

you could link the topics again, you could even harp on content from them and it wouldn't make a difference. for having people so figured out, you're not empathizing with them well

Or I see the bigger picture rather than the momentary thrill, and your defensiveness furthers the idea that you'd go back to her. 

I believe the word you're looking for is a lack of sympathizing, I can see the feelings themselves well enough in their raw form without having to agree with them. 

you're saying that me challenging your interpretation of things (that her not putting out is a problem) is me being defensive? i guess it could be, but it doesn't seem defensive around me potentially wanting to go back to a person as much as being annoyed by the presumptons

i used the word "empathize" because if you got blanc, you'd probably not think linking some old threads would be a good way to get your point across. you may also not have made the assumptions you did

Tryptamine said: 

Turncoat said: 

Tryptamine said: 

where it could be that she appreciates my humor, you think it's because i play a listener trope

I've literally watched it happen, and I've seen who else she's found herself drawn to. It's her type and you play it up well, but in time you end up disrespecting her. 

yes, she is drawn to people who listen to her. that's a part of the puzzle, just not as large a piece as you seem to be thinking

I've seen it have her become attracted to other people over the same criteria, it's very important to her. Kinda weird that you'd aim to trivialize this when it's so integral to her, she's stated this sort of thing herself. 

I can't seriously be the only person reading her topics... right? 😞

where you say she fears change, it begs the question "of what" in this context

You really don't see it when she publishes the same reruns every year? 

Even she's starting to notice it, you must not pay very much attention to her... Poor Blanc.

in this context, change of what?

Poor. Blanc. 

You must not listen to her at all, she talks all the time about wanting to change herself as an ideation but achieves none of it. She laments about it publicly on the regular, how didn't you notice? 

and the "lashing out" was done mostly when i was drunk, i rarely drink anymore. at any rate, so what if i blew my stack? if that kind of thing was intolerable to her, she'd have lost interest. it's probably not as violent as you think it to be

You take notes and unload it when pushed too far, and to blame the drink is to dissociate from your own responsibilities, a tendency that lends to falling right back down the rabbit hole. 

I'm starting to wonder how much of yourself you even see, you might not even notice your own seasonal cycles, even with others seeing it. 

yes, there are times i can swing low when sufficiently angry. when's the last time that's even happened?

It's not the right season for it right now. 

you could link the topics again, you could even harp on content from them and it wouldn't make a difference. for having people so figured out, you're not empathizing with them well

Or I see the bigger picture rather than the momentary thrill, and your defensiveness furthers the idea that you'd go back to her. 

I believe the word you're looking for is a lack of sympathizing, I can see the feelings themselves well enough in their raw form without having to agree with them. 

you're saying that me challenging your interpretation of things (that her not putting out is a problem) is me being defensive?

In this case yes. 

Just watch, you don't have the self control necisary to dodge this rerun and both of you respond to seasonal cycles. There's multiple topics logging you and her's patterns at this point, you must be playing ignorant rather than being this forgetful. 

I'd hope it's just you being ignorant... The other outcome is more blatantly pitiable. 

i guess it could be, but it doesn't seem defensive around me potentially wanting to go back to a person as much as being annoyed by the presumptons

You'll be right back where you started like you are every year. 

i used the word "empathize" because if you got blanc, you'd probably not think linking some old threads would be a good way to get your point across. you may also not have made the assumptions you did

Repetition over a period of years is leaving an impression on her, and unlike you I'd rather be genuine with her than just say what she wants to hear to get some sort of reward out of it. 

What you call 'empathizing' I'd call disingenuous smarm. When you talk to people it's always transactional; you expect a reward for listening and become infuriated over how it's not reciprocated from people you prior were into over how they can't read you far enough to decode you. 

i'm sorry you feel that way