Just trying to help you out my dude.
I still think I am right in my analysis, but I don't enjoy arguing like TC.
I think it will be pointless to argue this for now.
Hmh... Your overarching analysis?
Arguing with TC is like trying to push earth off its orbit around the Sun... It's pointless.
But to say that you don't enjoy arguing.... Why? Because you believe it's pointless? What constitutes arguing here is not clear... Your fundamental presuppositions... are different from mine. Your analysis could be correct on the general account.... that it's my inability to accept those that are unable to connect with me that is causing me to be lonely.... but the remedy which you're suggesting, to develop a good mindset, is not useful to me.
What you're suggesting is quite close to.... what Marcus Aurelius was preaching. I am aware of stoicism. I do not respect the philosophy.
I have my ego to consider. If I have to choose between my ego and being happy... I choose being happy. But my ego will not allow me to make this choice. I could "transform" my ego. But at what cost...? I'd be a retard, it'd be like shutting down half of my brain.
I'd rather keep my ego and identity, accept that those around me will forever be idiotic, and be unable to connect. I'd rather do that than fool myself into.... thinking there is a connection when really I'm just pretending.
Your response made it look like an ego battle that bores me. I only enjoy fighting vulnerable narcs. You know, crushing noobs is fun. But arguing on the internet is usually pointless, takes a lot of time and effort and I am still right. I have to choose when its worth my time and effort.
I am not threatened by you at all, that makes no sense to me, idk what else to explain in that direction.
I have read about Marcus Aurelius and stoicism, but I didn't adopt it directly, I was a lot like that before I read about it and over time I became more set in these ways. I do not try to always be virtuous, just most of the time, I don't adopt it to an extreme extent. But most of it I do enjoy, call me a stoic enjoyer.
I can converse with all sorts of people and enjoy myself. I can converse with people about topics that are more philosophical and about everyday shit or just random crap. I truly do not understand why you can't just relax and enjoy yourself. You say that you have no pride issues and it just is how it is, but you continuously mention not only that you are better than most people, but you also call them idiots, a rather unnecessary addition imo. It makes me think you are insecure and have to put down others so you can feel superior, which makes me think your grandiose claims are bs. Hence I did construct an image of you in my mind that fits those criteria. I either mock those kinds of people or I don't speak to them, depending on my mood and how deluded they are.
I personally don't particularly crave connections, but it's welcomed if it happens. And in a connection, I don't care about the philosophical talk, I want to trust the other person, this is what I look for mainly and secondly, to have a good time with them.
I'd rather keep my ego and identity, accept that those around me will forever be idiotic, and be unable to connect. I'd rather do that than fool myself into.... thinking there is a connection when really I'm just pretending.
You do not have to leave your ego behind, you just have to learn to enjoy other things too, IMO. Do not judge people all the time, if you do, as it sounds like you do. When I go about my business I almost never care to think how smart another person is. Even if they do something stupid I can forgive it, teach them or w/e. Now sometimes some people are far too stupid AND confident about it, when both are present it does annoy me greatly, but I only notice it after they do something stupid and again, if they are only stupid in a particular sphere of interest, just ignore that sphere. I just enjoy the person, the talk, the vibe, etc. Intelligence is not related in almost all cases. Results are the main thing I look for.
i will respond later, now, when i have more time and energy to respond well
thats why i dont like arguing online, i try to make a decent point and if its some ego shitshow its a waste of my time
I don't have much of an ego... Despite how it may seem on the surface.
I believe you said you are motivated by opposition.... not obligation. Thus... I believe you will be disinclined to respond the next time you look at this topic. I could be wrong.
Mhmmm... I'm more motivated by example.. to be honest. David Hume? Maybe that's my philosopher of choice. David Hume is to me what Marcus Aurelius is to you?
You said you have to consider your ego earlier, though?
I am motivated by opposition and I am disinclined to respond xD. But for now, I do because I like to help people if I can. Idk if I am helping, but I can try.
Before 2-3 years ago, I used to always question myself and argue a lot more, for my own sake. But after years of doing it and years of predicting results and patterns and being right 95% of the time, I finally decided to accept that my conclusions are correct often enough, that indecisiveness, arguing, and questioning are more of a burden to the efficiency I am after. It is not this simple, but in general, that's my philosophy now. If I know I do not know about a subject, it is obv different.
I only really listen to people I know are worth my time now.
I never got much information out of arguing either, except how to argue better and detect bs. Those are useful skills though, but I have attained them now.
And since I started doing it, I have not noticed a change in how often I am wrong in my decisions or conclusions.
My reason to live is to gain happiness first and power second. If I achieve enough power, use it to shape the world to my design.
edit: i will check out David Hume later