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There goes TC yet again. The only one with "Everything Spatial says is wrong" Syndrome. 

You'd do well to stop taking this personally, Tony. :)  It's more a force of sorts, than a malign directive.  ...Or is it? :O  Either way, just don't be wrong any more; it's that simple, right?

Buttered Toast said: 

You'd do well to stop taking this personally, Tony. :)  It's more a force of sorts, than a malign directive.

 lol. I'll do my best.

Spatial Mind said: 

Whenever the honeymoon phase of the relationship is over things are prone to get sour. That could take awhile since your relationship is in a state of tension, awaiting one another's company.

Just to get it out of the way, women don't care about their man's feeling. LOL. Excuse me. So when a guy comes across as needy it's very offputting for women. He seeks comfort in isolating you from other men, and is the type who would seek out to punish both you and the other guy if he's jealous enough.

Him giving you something he can't afford ( not happening for awhile I assume ) adds gasoline to the flames of his insecurity. He claims to give you everything in advance and maybe he'll pull it off and actually give you a car then return to being less made financially. After that ( if it actually happens ) you'll have to be very mindful of him catching your ass talking to other guys or else hell will break loose, and you'll learn something about him you never knew in a state of discord.

What page is this ? The highlight of your relationship update so far is a free car. HA HA HAAA ! If only that's all a man had to do in order to secure a woman's respect. You'll enjoy the car, but your instincts will yearn for a strong partner who worries less about his mental health and more about yours. Otherwise you'll begin to find him insufferable especially when you're depressed yet again.

With that I say set your boundaries early in your relationship. I'd reckon he doesn't trust you which is why he laid down what it'll be like if he catches you making him jealous.

 You need to date better people this makes me sad.

Yeah ? What part exactly ?

Spatial Mind said: 

Yeah ? What part exactly ?

 This one↓

Just to get it out of the way, women don't care about their man's feeling. LOL. Excuse me. So when a guy comes across as needy it's very offputting for women.

 That's pretty sad and makes me sad that you've experienced this. I hope you find a better partner

Lenalee said: 

Spatial Mind said: 

Yeah ? What part exactly ?

 This one↓

Just to get it out of the way, women don't care about their man's feeling. LOL. Excuse me. So when a guy comes across as needy it's very offputting for women.

 That's pretty sad and makes me sad that you've experienced this. I hope you find a better partner

 I'm content with it. I don't see it as a bad thing either. 

And it's not just my personal experience in relationships alone, it's an actual study I agree with.

Still we get along just fine. I'll act like I'm in despair whenever we part ways, she laughs and it doesn't get old. "If" I were serious she'd rather not have it. 

Spatial Mind said: 

There goes TC yet again. The only one with "Everything Spatial says is wrong" Syndrome. 

So you figure others' silence is their implied agreement? 

That would explain a lot.

Turncoat said: 

Spatial Mind said:

What page is this ? The highlight of your relationship update so far is a free car. HA HA HAAA !

I mean you read her rambles about what friendship is right? 

First of all... Spatial said some interesting things. 

Second of all... Yes the highlight of all my relationships have been the material things or favorable services they provide. I don't get emotion satisfaction, bonding or connection from anyone (there's an exception for the one friend who was murdered). When I do them favors, listen to them and buy them things it's out of a sense of duty of what "friends should do". 

I can't feel loved by anyone friends or family. I may be broken... or a defective human. When someone says they love me I take it as a bad sign. They are either confused by the aroma of fun or lying to me. I don't fault anyone for being confused... It can be easy to mistake the feeling of happiness around having fun experiences with me to love. 

I feel better when someone says they don't love me. When they confess they just like to hang out with me because I think they are most honest. Love me? Most people don't even see me. I could be someone else and they'd say the same exact thing. I feel like most people don't want me they just want "someone" and I'm convenient and dependable. This is because I treat the relationship as a sort of duty to take on. I must help these people... if someone else was gonna do it they'd be there. 

Lately I've been thinking a profound questions.

"What is love?"... Is it a chemical feeling that can disappear at any time? Is it a contracted agreement to stay together (as long as they aren't overly toxic)? Is it enjoying fun experiences together and being caught up the moment? Is it being willing to die for them (even if out of a sense of duty)? Is it feeling empathy for their pitiful existence? Is it the feeling of looking up to someone in awe and admiration? 

"What is trust?"... Is it handing someone the knife so they can stab you? Is it saying 'this person is worth being destroyed for I guess'? Is it conceiting to your doom because you just don't care if they betray you? Is it giving them the power to destroy you so you fear the rest of your days?

Spatial Mind said: 

Lenalee said: 

Spatial Mind said: 

Yeah ? What part exactly ?

 This one↓

Just to get it out of the way, women don't care about their man's feeling. LOL. Excuse me. So when a guy comes across as needy it's very offputting for women.

 That's pretty sad and makes me sad that you've experienced this. I hope you find a better partner

I'm content with it. I don't see it as a bad thing either. 

People are by design built to seek out the patterns they've been made to expect, falling into loops of self-fulfilling prophecies that more often than not lead to them lamenting about it as if it were the majority of people. It's like 'the world' is a foil for their failings rather than the possibility that they might be doing something wrong. 

When people speak of how 'the world' behaves, more often than not they're just projecting their fixations. At points contrary to their complaints they may find themselves actually desiring the things they spite, blindly fetishizing as they fall head over heels for extreme expressions of it while judging those who only get about 75% of the way there as if they were the problem, rendering it an inversely judgmental black and white Madonna/Whore complex. 

In less words: If these are the people you keep finding, it's because it's who you're seeking. 

And it's not just my personal experience in relationships alone, it's an actual study I agree with.

Which study? Something like that's much more likely to appeal to me than defensive chauvinism left to it's own devices. 

Still we get along just fine. I'll act like I'm in despair whenever we part ways, she laughs and it doesn't get old. "If" I were serious she'd rather not have it. 

Really dude, this just sounds bitter and sad. It's as if these sorts of words make it easier for you to move on, but continuing to say them's why you're less likely to see past it in the long run. If you presume that this is how people are then you won't find any reason to keep your eyes open for the 'exceptions' over having pre-sentenced them, and should it turn out you made a mistake and cast out 'one of the good ones' you won't even notice from having lumped her in with 'the rest of them'. 

In your shoes I'd be looking towards myself as the most common denominator between my partners, questioning what it is about myself that keeps drawing these sorts of people to me if they aren't the kinds of people I'm otherwise after. 

I see people complain about stuff similarly to you, with the incel kingdom bringing it to absurdly new heights of bitterness, and I just can't relate to it from seeing the women they claim do not exist as fairly commonplace.