Maybe your anger was due to being talked down to. Like this person's opinion mattered in some way and you would be so grateful to them, yes massa, I will be wonderful one day.
that might have had something to do with it yeah
Have you tried saying "I'm powerful," making growling sounds, and doing 10 push-ups when this happens? That should show them.
Today at work some guy called me a promising young woman and it kinda pissed me off
I didn't show it or anything but I in my mind I was immediatly like "ew don't call me that, I ain't promising you or anyone else shit"
I know that's not exactly what it means but I feel like there is some connotation of expectation and it really rubbed me the wrong way for some reason
I'm not sure how to process my reaction entirely or how to put it into words
I would follow up, and ask for the chance to prove your potential, such as assigning you to a team project, after which he can write a formal letter of recommendation for your work to use when seeking a raise or promotion.
he was a customer
That does actually make it more questionable, in my eyes. It's not like a customer knows you, or the reality and requirements of your work. And what LiYang said kind of ties into that:
Maybe your anger was due to being talked down to. Like this person's opinion mattered in some way and you would be so grateful to them, yes massa, I will be wonderful one day.
that might have had something to do with it yeah
It was phrased in a condescending way, and it came from someone who didn't really have any place assessing it.
This reminds me of my own situation. I work in a male dominated field, and you have no idea how often middle aged men trying to make themselves feel important or useful or attractive, rush in to "help" me do my job. Even customers, who have no idea what my work entails. And they expect gratitude for this arrogant interference.
QuietBeef said:This reminds me of my own situation. I work in a male dominated field, and you have no idea how often middle aged men trying to make themselves feel important or useful or attractive, rush in to "help" me do my job. Even customers, who have no idea what my work entails. And they expect gratitude for this arrogant interference.
This reminds me of a gay girl who sits next to me at school the other day rushing in to very loudly and painfully slowly explain something to me that I had already finised and moved on from. So yeah maybe that had something to do with it too, like I wouldn't mind if it was coming from a place of genuine innocent good intentions even if it seemed like they put their foot in it a bit by wording it like that, but I feel like it definitely wasn't innocent.
that being said if someone came to help me with something that I actually could use help with I would be grateful, the incident with the girl at school mostly just annoyed me because there was zero prompting, we're not close at all and she was so loud and talked in such simplified terms that anyone who didn't know me must have assumed I was a retard and she was a teacher's aid.
hmm it's not really pog of me to say that assumptions only annoy me when they annoy me though, but I guess not all assumptions are equal and it's mostly about how people go about acting on those assumptions
also on reflection I was hormonal when the customer elicted an emotional response from me, it doesn't really matter at all at the end of the day and I know that, a very minor thing
Sounds like u are just dealing with residual resentment from acting beta when u wannabe alpha innit.
This sounds so much like you're not projecting.
Like I said, 10 push-ups and growling. Always helps. Then listen to this motivational video that explains to you why you're a lion:
