Today at work some guy called me a promising young woman and it kinda pissed me off
I didn't show it or anything but I in my mind I was immediatly like "ew don't call me that, I ain't promising you or anyone else shit"
I know that's not exactly what it means but I feel like there is some connotation of expectation and it really rubbed me the wrong way for some reason
I'm not sure how to process my reaction entirely or how to put it into words
Today at work some guy called me a promising young woman and it kinda pissed me off
Would you have preferred to be told you'll never amount to anything?
Today at work some guy called me a promising young woman and it kinda pissed me off
Would you have preferred to be told you'll never amount to anything?
I did consider this and idk it probably would have annoyed me less because I would just brush it off and be like "don't care what you think"
idk why the more 'positive' opinion is more annoying than the 'negative', still I'd rather him have no opinion on my potential, I don't exist to achieve anything for anyone other than myself
Today at work some guy called me a promising young woman and it kinda pissed me off
Would you have preferred to be told you'll never amount to anything?
I did consider this and idk it probably would have annoyed me less because I would just brush it off and be like "don't care what you think"
Why do you think you find it more comfortable to be insulted than complimented?
dk why the more 'positive' opinion is more annoying than the 'negative', still I'd rather him have no opinion on my potential, I don't exist to achieve anything for anyone other than myself
Isn't expecting others to have no opinions over you unrealistic?
Today at work some guy called me a promising young woman and it kinda pissed me off
Would you have preferred to be told you'll never amount to anything?
I did consider this and idk it probably would have annoyed me less because I would just brush it off and be like "don't care what you think"
Why do you think you find it more comfortable to be insulted than complimented?
I'm not sure, maybe I guess because compliments make it more likely for people to want things from you, insults mean less
dk why the more 'positive' opinion is more annoying than the 'negative', still I'd rather him have no opinion on my potential, I don't exist to achieve anything for anyone other than myself
Isn't expecting others to have no opinions over you unrealistic?
yeah, but it's rude to share certain opinions about someone... or idk if that's the issue I have with it really, I just don't want to feel like people are expecting things of me that they have no right to expect
Today at work some guy called me a promising young woman and it kinda pissed me off
Would you have preferred to be told you'll never amount to anything?
I did consider this and idk it probably would have annoyed me less because I would just brush it off and be like "don't care what you think"
Why do you think you find it more comfortable to be insulted than complimented?
I'm not sure, maybe I guess because compliments make it more likely for people to want things from you, insults mean less
From the way you're building this up you sound more like you'd take the insult to heart from being more open to listening to it.
dk why the more 'positive' opinion is more annoying than the 'negative', still I'd rather him have no opinion on my potential, I don't exist to achieve anything for anyone other than myself
Isn't expecting others to have no opinions over you unrealistic?
yeah, but it's rude to share certain opinions about someone...
It's rude to say someone shows promise?
or idk if that's the issue I have with it really, I just don't want to feel like people are expecting things of me that they have no right to expect
Why do they have no right to expect you'll do well?
Today at work some guy called me a promising young woman and it kinda pissed me off
I didn't show it or anything but I in my mind I was immediatly like "ew don't call me that, I ain't promising you or anyone else shit"
I know that's not exactly what it means but I feel like there is some connotation of expectation and it really rubbed me the wrong way for some reason
I'm not sure how to process my reaction entirely or how to put it into words
It sounds like he was trying to be charming / friendly, or if a coworker, they were talking about your career, but your own insecurities and baggage changed the meaning in your head. He is just saying you have potential, accept that he meant it in a good way and had good intentions.
Today at work some guy called me a promising young woman and it kinda pissed me off
Would you have preferred to be told you'll never amount to anything?
I did consider this and idk it probably would have annoyed me less because I would just brush it off and be like "don't care what you think"
Why do you think you find it more comfortable to be insulted than complimented?
I'm not sure, maybe I guess because compliments make it more likely for people to want things from you, insults mean less
From the way you're building this up you sound more like you'd take the insult to heart from being more open to listening to it.
on the conrtary I think it's the nature of the compliment making me interact with it more than I would with an insult that upset me, either way I brushed it off shortly after but it did cause an emotional reaction that an insult in the same situation wouldn't have
dk why the more 'positive' opinion is more annoying than the 'negative', still I'd rather him have no opinion on my potential, I don't exist to achieve anything for anyone other than myself
Isn't expecting others to have no opinions over you unrealistic?
yeah, but it's rude to share certain opinions about someone...
It's rude to say someone shows promise?
no idk I don't think so, which is why I wasn't sure exactly how to process my reacting like it was rude
or idk if that's the issue I have with it really, I just don't want to feel like people are expecting things of me that they have no right to expect
Why do they have no right to expect you'll do well?
maybe it was the wording
being called a "promising young woman" hits different to someone saying "she'll go far"
Today at work some guy called me a promising young woman and it kinda pissed me off
I didn't show it or anything but I in my mind I was immediatly like "ew don't call me that, I ain't promising you or anyone else shit"
I know that's not exactly what it means but I feel like there is some connotation of expectation and it really rubbed me the wrong way for some reason
I'm not sure how to process my reaction entirely or how to put it into words
It sounds like he was trying to be charming / friendly, or if a coworker, they were talking about your career, but your own insecurities and baggage changed the meaning in your head. He is just saying you have potential, accept that he meant it in a good way and had good intentions.
he wasn't a coworker, I guess that would have annoyed me less because it would have been clearer what he meant but the wording might still have made me squirm a bit
I guess it doesn't matter what his intentions were as I probably never have to interact with him again, I'm just trying to quantify what about it exactly offended me
maybe it was the wording
being called a "promising young woman" hits different to someone saying "she'll go far"
When's the last time you've heard of a "promising old bat"?
