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you want a step by step practical guide for handling rejection? 

that would be good

step 1: understand that you've lost this person as a potential partner forever

step 2: understand that they are not unique 

step 3: understand why it happened from the pov of the other person

step 4: make an assessment of the reason of rejection, is it fair or unfair? do you even know why you were rejected? 

step 5: if appliccable, change about yourself what you were rejected for 

step 6: rejoice, for you turned rejection into an opportunity for self improvement! 

damn which e-thot did reject u

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chimpi said: 

step 1: understand that you've lost this person as a potential partner forever

You don't re-date exes? 

step 2: understand that they are not unique 

Relatively speaking they kinda are. 

step 3: understand why it happened from the pov of the other person

This being something that'd soothe assumes the other person's views are realistic or forgivable, as if both members of the party were on equal ground when it comes to blame. If the reason why things fell apart was over the other person's mistakes, this strategy is liable to have you doormat yourself towards future strife if not make constant excuses to survive the slings and arrows towards your ego. 

step 4: make an assessment of the reason of rejection, is it fair or unfair? do you even know why you were rejected? 

If they don't know why they were rejected, which is a common cope even with clearly given reasons, are they then entitled to 'figure it out' through their respective rejecter? 

The entitlement aspect to incels and people who otherwise won't get the hint can lend to stalking behaviors and interrogative conversation. Figuring out 'why' assumes the individual in question is even capable of detached introspection rather than solipsist analysis. 

step 5: if appliccable, change about yourself what you were rejected for 

So you'd insist that people change for others rather than stand on their own two feet defiantly in search for someone of ideal synergy? No man, it's better to find the ideal mate who gets you, considering that there's more than enough people out there to pick and choose from, rather than pretend to be another person or go as far as changing yourself to be 'more desired'. There's already people out there looking for someone like you, me, or even the most depraved, and with the internet it's become easier than ever to find these synergistic soulmates. 

I tried the doormat 'change for them' shit for years, it's how you become forgettable and easier to replace rather than distinctive and strong. It was the minute I stopped being as accommodating for people that things started going my way a bit more socially, where before that it just had everything devolve into their lives while mine simply became their welcome mat. 

step 6: rejoice, for you turned rejection into an opportunity for self improvement! 

More like an opportunity for conformity. 

It's good to recognize problem traits, but becoming who another wants is inconsistent, inauthentic, stressful, and the only people you'll find while playing pretend are the pretenders and those looking for who you're pretending to be. 

I say be yourself and learn to have that 'you' taken more affably, the Jim lesson. In the end, the only person you really need to please is yourself, ideally with the aim of pleasing others simply being a means of pleasing yourself further. Fuck the world and it's expectations, if you're going to adapt you might as well keep your identity intact. 

Turncoat said: 

chimpi said: 

step 1: understand that you've lost this person as a potential partner forever

You don't re-date exes? 

step 2: understand that they are not unique 

Relatively speaking they kinda are. 

step 3: understand why it happened from the pov of the other person

This being something that'd soothe assumes the other person's views are realistic or forgivable, as if both members of the party were on equal ground when it comes to blame. If the reason why things fell apart was over the other person's mistakes, this strategy is liable to have you doormat yourself towards future strife if not make constant excuses to survive the slings and arrows towards your ego. 

It's a liability I'm aware of. But why should understanding another point of view have to lead to subjugating yourself?

step 4: make an assessment of the reason of rejection, is it fair or unfair? do you even know why you were rejected? 

If they don't know why they were rejected, which is a common cope even with clearly given reasons, are they then entitled to 'figure it out' through their respective rejecter? 

The entitlement aspect to incels and people who otherwise won't get the hint can lend to stalking behaviors and interrogative conversation. Figuring out 'why' assumes the individual in question is even capable of detached introspection rather than solipsist analysis. 

Lol, the incel twist

I can see your point being that finding answers could also prove extremely difficult

step 5: if appliccable, change about yourself what you were rejected for 

So you'd insist that people change for others rather than stand on their own two feet defiantly in search for someone of ideal synergy? No man, it's better to find the ideal mate who gets you, considering that there's more than enough people out there to pick and choose from, rather than pretend to be another person or go as far as changing yourself to be 'more desired'.

There's already people out there looking for someone like you, me, or even the most depraved

thanks tc

, and with the internet it's become easier than ever to find these synergistic soulmates. 

I tried the doormat 'change for them' shit for years, it's how you become forgettable and easier to replace rather than distinctive and strong. It was the minute I stopped being as accommodating for people that things started going my way a bit more socially, where before that it just had everything devolve into their lives while mine simply became their welcome mat. 

That sounds awful. So what made you stop being so overly accommodating? 

step 6: rejoice, for you turned rejection into an opportunity for self improvement! 

More like an opportunity for conformity. 

It's good to recognize problem traits, but becoming who another wants is inconsistent, inauthentic, stressful, and the only people you'll find while playing pretend are the pretenders and those looking for who you're pretending to be. 

I say be yourself and learn to have that 'you' taken more affably, the Jim lesson. In the end, the only person you really need to please is yourself, ideally with the aim of pleasing others simply being a means of pleasing yourself further. Fuck the world and it's expectations, if you're going to adapt you might as well keep your identity intact. 

Or, or if you were to introspect and figure out that the reason you push people away is because of a deep rooted inability to show a more vulnerable side of yourself and every future relationship is doomed unless you fix it? 

I tried the doormat 'change for them' shit for years, it's how you become forgettable and easier to replace rather than distinctive and strong. It was the minute I stopped being as accommodating for people that things started going my way a bit more socially, where before that it just had everything devolve into their lives while mine simply became their welcome mat.

I rather like people who change for me. I dislike it too much when things don't go my way. Unlike most people, this choice is reflected in my reality. I keep the ones who make the effort to be flexible around, and discard those who are unhelpful.