For now, instead of looking at it all as being too much, you need to have BR call them. When they say only you can talk to them about it, have him put you on the phone to consent for it. They will likely tell you that you'll need to fill out some paperwork, which they will then send in the mail, which when filled out and sent back will allow him to oversee the funds that come to you without it even having to be from a marriage.
Br does everything wrong to. He can't even get eggs he will get my check cancled. He's more dysfunctional irl than online. Even if he could help, I've tried getting him to help me. He can talk on the phone to them but neither of us know wtf these people are talking about. Whenever br is on the phone he always says something retarded, and throws a brat fit even when I'm right there trying to explain to him what he needs to say. He had gotten my check cancled before, because he kept saying we had moved already (when legally it was still a vacation) before we were able to make a proper address change, even when I was right there reminding his ass of the law, and he was arrogantly swatting me away with his hand. Hell, at right state he lost thousands of dollars because he refused to ask the secretary about the coronavirus loan forgiveness plan even though I told him every day for months. He can't even handle his own self