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I think i wanted it to be just like you want, but my first impression wasn't like that. That could have been my own fault though i was not really at my best, but if you really want to help others i might have somewhere for you to start. I have noticed that I have a hard time comforting people who are upset, over anything from break ups to bereavement. In these situations the mask slips a bit and the superficial charm fails me and everyone can see that i'm a wee bit off, any suggestions on strategies to help me get better at this?

Fear's a natural response to life's challenges, isn't it? 

I'd find it weirder if people were afraid of fake life. 

I'd say just pretend to care. I'm sure you can relate to things they say. If they are scared, just remember when you were scared and tell them how you dealt with it. Like if you were scared that people would see behind the mask, what did you do? Then tell them that. If you don't know, watch more TV and say what the characters say in those situations. That's what I do.

TC - I am more afraid of fake life and people being fake than I am of real life. In real life, I know what will and can happen. In fake life, or someone else's fantasy, I can't predict what could possibly happen, so I can't plan for the worst. Like, when I went to visit people from here, I knew what could happen. The TSA told me I was crazy because I was going alone to meet guys I met online and anything could happen, but I was like, I know what could happen and I am prepared.

Not everyone's life is as bad as yours.

No one likes reality 

At least not the majority, on the internet especially like, Instagram 

the faker it is the more likes it gets. People like things that are farthest from reality. 

That is sad, but true. I like honesty, no matter how terrible it is, so reality is my friend.

At the moment this forum for me is part of an episode of personal regression. Three years ago when I was here I hated it. I just wanted to move on in every area of my life and I hated these internet sub cultures with supposedly interesting but broken people in it etc. I hated the days doing nothing, just being on the bed and eating trashy food and refresh websites etc. I really wanted that all to end. Now I have changed many things, I have many things that I wanted to have at the time etc. I finished my studies, got a stable job, got money etc (intimacy issues and relationship Im working on :-DDD) I have a new identity and even though it does not feel complete, it seems less fake, because I made it myself. Society grants people in some cases a highly respected identity which you dont really have to work for. For example being a student, a doctorate etc. It is respected and you just get it like that, you dont have to do much for it. This of course is only respected for some time and if you use it longer, it becomes insufficient as an identity one can feel comfortable with in this world. Now I am feeling better, but I am still unhappy and unsatisfied in general, though less than before. There are many things I miss, mainly emotions from the past. Having no responsibility is something I miss a lot. Responsibility gives you self worth but is also scary and exhausting. I see my coming here as a desperate attempt to touch onto these old feelings and experience some of this infantile but less dangerous greenness again. 

Real life is boring.

NewChallengeSeeker said: 

I feel like this is here to be an escape from real life, but all I’ve ever wanted is a supplement to real life, where I can figure myself out and apply it to real life so I can have a more fulfilling real life. I know most people wish this was real life, but I just want help with real life and to help others with real life. What is this place supposed to be for you? 

 BTW there is no such thing as real life and fake life. There is ONLY real life. What you probably mean is that you choose to spend your time in ways that avoid responsibility and growth etc. If I stay in your paradigm though, even then it seems obvious to me that your understanding of changing your life is fundamentally flawed. If you want to change your life it is obvious that you have to do the work in real life. You can't somehow create a fake life that is less dangerous and expect it to be an effective tool to change your real life, which you are avoiding. Do the work and grow through the pain.