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An odd experience


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I have Facebook from years back, I just don't care to use it. I might be on it for 5 minutes every few months and I do not reply to messages. I may accept friends requests for the sake of civility, but I have not posted in years, so there's no real point to it.

Today I decided to browse through, and see what people I knew from 2003-2007 have been up to. Many of them are proud parents. Their children are in their profile pictures and all over their timelines. Parenthood has become their identity. That's human and I guess I understand.

Many have never moved from their hometowns. I'm not surprised, those particular people I remember to be exceptionally stupid. Their selfies are often bizarre, including one a monochrome one where a dude is naked from the waist-up, covered in a blanket from the waist-down. His backstory of manslaughter of a woman and the child in her womb makes this all the more odd.

A lot of people are really loving their meme images. They post these:

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I look at all of this and I realize why I was such a negative person. These people are nauseating and plain. They've got blank Midwest rural stares.

A few turned out exceptionally well. Some of my old friends have become models, or teachers in prestigious universities (two people). A girl I almost dated has become a very successful blogger. Those threw me for a loop, because they expected me to be on a similar trajectory, but these people found an abundance. Probably through perseverance. And I remain my negative self.

last edit on 1/27/2020 4:57:29 PM
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I’ve never seen you introspect on yourself like this before 

 

Call me when you’re sober and we can continue this discussion, this is my shit right here

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Blanc said: 

I’ve never seen you introspect on yourself like this before 

Wait really? 


On topic: A lot of my facebook's mindless liberal mothers patting themselves on the back too, and I swear they're worse about memeing than so-called 'Boomers'. 

What disappoints me about most of my facebook past is over how they all became significantly lazier mentally with age, falling for a lot of mental pitfalls that wouldn't have snagged them before. They otherwise always express how tired they are, a lot. 

When the nature of the challenges they were facing became less cerebral after college, they showed deterioration alongside their change in setting. People I used to be able to debate for ages now can't even hear names without chimping out. Their stamina for discussions seems to have gone out the window in favor of predictable subscribed notions, ones where the enemy is a strawman to transfer their life stress (I should never see a peaceful message followed with "Or Else" rhetoric, that's fucked up). 

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last edit on 1/27/2020 7:25:45 PM
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I look at all of this and I realize why I was such a negative person. These people are nauseating and plain. They've got blank Midwest rural stares.

A few turned out exceptionally well.

Even those who were successful on my end ended up mundane as people, and even in more "interesting" places you start to see how they're all "the same" with enough time. Everyone's done their trip to Europe or Canada, accomplished a minimum wage job, squished out a child, attended subcultural Conventions/LARPs based on their favorite media, lived in a roommate scenario, had a phase where they got a little too into substances, argued the same arguments with S.O.s... all with the same selfie angles, the same weight rooms, the same yoga pants, the same cheap furniture, the same brand name foods, the same gauged ears... it's enough to drive me crazy. Many conversations might as well be discussing the weather for the level of unique content they're putting on the table. 

Live long enough and people as a whole become increasingly redundant to the point of pain. I'd rather meet exceptionally interesting failures than successful squares, and that's largely a big part of why I come here. 

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last edit on 1/27/2020 7:35:37 PM
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Why do you want people to be different so bad? I'd bet on average those "simpletons" are happier than you or Tryp. And one of those reasons being they don't question life the way you do. 

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Hey Trypt. Apologies for my earlier flame, it was unwarranted.

I can relate to what you say. Browsing Facebook to see what my old friends are doing is disappointing. My expectations of people tends to over-shoot.

Somehow you would like to think the people that were in your life are unique.

The same with school reunions. My last school reunion, 7 years ago, I ended up at my apartment with two of my friends from primary school times. The other one was constantly whining about her life and and the other one ended up consoling her before I kicked both of them out. Great reunion.

The reunion itself took place at a bar where my old teacher who used to bully me showed up to buy us champagne, asked about my life, to which I answered that my life is great now that I no longer have him as an authority figure. One girl made sure to let everyone know how insecure she is about working as a cashier. One of my friends had turned into some kind of a scoundrel. I do not remember a single person surprising me in any profound way.

Looking through the life of your old friends, would you say you yourself have changed in some ways?

last edit on 1/27/2020 8:15:09 PM
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Slay said: 

Why do you want people to be different so bad?

Repetition is boring.

Based on your past stories, I'm sure you understand that too. 

I'd bet on average those "simpletons" are happier than you or Tryp.

Probably, but what good does that do for me? 

And one of those reasons being they don't question life the way you do. 

Many people end up trapped in cycles over not introspecting though, and find themselves incapable of moving past it. For example: Med. 

I think this is closer to an "everything in moderation" situation. 

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Can't stand negative people. What I can stand even less are self pity. I cut 3 self pitying people out of my life.

So much better now.

Hardship is a part of life. It is OK to say you suffer. But it is not OK to make it your lifestyle.

Also, telling a negative person you are suffering will just end bad. Told a friend I feel crappy right now but I'll be fine. Friend said "I bet you will be like that forever." ... Eh... thank you?

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What disappoints me about most of my facebook past is over how they all became significantly lazier mentally with age, falling for a lot of mental pitfalls that wouldn't have snagged them before. They otherwise always express how tired they are, a lot. 

When the nature of the challenges they were facing became less cerebral after college, they showed deterioration alongside their change in setting. People I used to be able to debate for ages now can't even hear names without chimping out. Their stamina for discussions seems to have gone out the window in favor of predictable subscribed notions, ones where the enemy is a strawman to transfer their life stress (I should never see a peaceful message followed with "Or Else" rhetoric, that's fucked up). 

This is very accurate, it feels as if people have reached some level of exhaustion. Being 30, I often question my own mental acuity because I know by research, my fluid IQ peaked long ago and is dropping off now. So I purposely talk to younger people to keep myself sharp and not behind the evolution of culture. That and it's refreshing to get insights from open minds.

These people on my FB fucking stagnated. They became so wrapped up in their own lives, they lost all sense of what is around them. Not all, just many (maybe even most). They're posting those shit-tier memes and have become thoroughly predictable. I have to give this site credit because it at least makes me second-guess myself and keeps me mentally active. I'm seeing a lot of people content in echo chambers on social media.

What did you mean by "or else" rhetoric?

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Even those who were successful on my end ended up mundane as people, and even in more "interesting" places you start to see how they're all "the same" with enough time. Everyone's done their trip to Europe or Canada, accomplished a minimum wage job, squished out a child, attended subcultural Conventions/LARPs based on their favorite media, lived in a roommate scenario, had a phase where they got a little too into substances, argued the same arguments with S.O.s... all with the same selfie angles, the same weight rooms, the same yoga pants, the same cheap furniture, the same brand name foods, the same gauged ears... it's enough to drive me crazy. Many conversations might as well be discussing the weather for the level of unique content they're putting on the table. 

Live long enough and people as a whole become increasingly redundant to the point of pain. I'd rather meet exceptionally interesting failures than successful squares, and that's largely a big part of why I come here. 

What did you judge success by? The people I was interested in back then, were the ones who seemed very clever or unique. For instance the girl I had almost dated, runs a blog just by her thoughts, gets paid to do advertisements. She wasn't a good student, just a remarkable personality. Having gone to 3 different high schools, usually the valedictorians are just the people who were the most neurotic and put the most work in. Although one now teaches in college, but this was the type of dude to tell me to read Nietzsche (and why) when he seen me with a Kant book. In my experience, it is the personality that matters more than anything. Some people just seem more alive. Not sure how else to put that.

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