Like i said its just speculation, obviously i have no way of knowing or proving that factually sorry,
it was just a stab in the dark based on what little evidence and memory I have of everything :)
but hey, no worries, think whatever you’d like dear, i really don’t mind haha
it is what it is and nothing changes that you know?
blanc did it ever occur to you that doctors and therapists are exploiting your desperate need for validation by extorting you
Yeah i once said to a therapist, “it feels like you’re just validating me for validations sake, it feels manipulative. My mom used to do the same thing to me growing up, to manipulate me. It was one of the things she did anyway.”
And they sort of were taken aback by the sudden brutal honesty and didn’t know what to say, I think they just apologized. And we discussed how overly validating environments make me uncomfortable.
I had one therapist be brutally honest with me though and kind of yelled at me, actually 2 did that to me so far, and that worked wonders. It was hurtful and hard, but it actually worked more quickly to fix the problem in that very moment with me....
i don’t expect anyone to understand, but yeah. It’s just what I do! Sorry!
This, this is your problem.
You don't want to feel understood on some level, and are willing to tell yourself that understanding is the same thing as an agreeable attitude. You at your core want to feel right, and claiming you are simply misunderstood is how you can remain uncorrected.
Also for real, check your sources. I appreciate that you post them... because it gives me the room to see where your views are coming from. You seem to cherry pick... and a lot of your picks aren't legit beyond the textbook definitions they otherwise incorrectly appropriate over other issues.
i don’t expect anyone to understand, but yeah. It’s just what I do! Sorry!
This, this is your problem.
You don't want to feel understood on some level, and are willing to tell yourself that understanding is the same thing as an agreeable attitude. You at your core want to feel right, and claiming you are simply misunderstood is how you can remain uncorrected.
Also for real, check your sources. I appreciate that you post them... because it gives me the room to see where your views are coming from. You seem to cherry pick... and a lot of your picks aren't legit beyond the textbook definitions they otherwise incorrectly appropriate over other issues.
Actually i have explained it before, i just cant’ remember where the post is, or which version of SC I even wrote it on. But, since then I haven’t wanted to explain myself about it anymore, and I’m too tired/it’s mentally taxing to write out all the reasons like an essay and explain why, i do all the things i do.
But yeah, i did write it once, i just, it’s not about wanting to be misunderstood it’s just the “party” that I’m talking to in this given instance has no interest in understanding so I’m not as motivated to explain further or have a conversation with them about it.
Also keep in mind i already said earlier in this thread that i was kind of done with replying to topics like this, where i have to explain myself over and over again to people. I just felt kind of done with doing that and wanted to put a boundary there, and i have my own reasons for doing that. I thought people could respect that... but instead not I’m forced to explain why I’m not wanting to explain myself anymore... and it’s, a bit of a paradox. Lol
“why do you do this thing??? it’s probably because *insert speculation and judgements, criticisms, here*”
my response: “explaining why i do the thing, but why i also don’t want to respond to these comments anymore because I’m tired of explaining myself.”
Response: “well that’s not a good enough reason and now I’m criticizing, speculating and judging you for establishing that boundary, refusing to respect or understand it, or have a conversation about it- attempting to understand. But rather, it’s all your fault, that you dont’ explain things to me.”
My response: “now i have to explain why i don’t want to explain things anymore, even tho i just said i don’t want t explain things anymore... because you don’t want to try to understand, you dont want to have a conversation, you come at me with criticism judgment and speculation immediately rather than questions or having an open conversation.”
Response: “well that’s not a good enough reason and you’re just a shit person for being too tired to explain yourself repdeatly to me and all the reasons you do things aren’t good enough reasons, you shouldn’t do them, and you’re a terrible person for doing everything you do.”
Do you see the circles we’re going in here?
im saying theyre possibly doing it to bleed u dry (financial gain). spoilt rich kid comes in with fake imaginary problems, give her some problems to 'work on' ie pay ridiculous sums for them to 'fix' you
I’m not even currently seeing any therapists or doctors, so we’re getting all worried about this for no reason.
I don’t see why it matters to you whether i went and saw a therapist or not. Like, it’s my choice.
But yeah this view point you’re expressing about therapists is common but, it’s just ignoring the fact that neuroplasticity exists, and by working through your issues with the DBT and CBT therapeutic processes, you can actually rewire your brain to be more mentally healthy. The proof is in the pudding.
Just read Hardwiring Happiness, a book about neuropsychology, how it all works and why.
And then you will understand.
But yeah the meds have helped me significantly as well, like I’ve said previously it’s a balance of many things that help you get better- not *just* therapy. And it’s a process.
But yeah uh... in the last year I wasn’t even working on my depression anymore in session, we were working on my anxiety/panic attacks, triggers, and trauma. Using EMDR.
Because my mom was tired of witnessing my panic attack/dissociative episodes all the time.
i don’t expect anyone to understand, but yeah. It’s just what I do! Sorry!
This, this is your problem.
You don't want to feel understood on some level, and are willing to tell yourself that understanding is the same thing as an agreeable attitude. You at your core want to feel right, and claiming you are simply misunderstood is how you can remain uncorrected.
Also for real, check your sources. I appreciate that you post them... because it gives me the room to see where your views are coming from. You seem to cherry pick... and a lot of your picks aren't legit beyond the textbook definitions they otherwise incorrectly appropriate over other issues.Actually i have explained it before, i just cant’ remember where the post is, or which version of SC I even wrote it on. But, since then I haven’t wanted to explain myself about it anymore, and I’m too tired/it’s mentally taxing to write out all the reasons like an essay and explain why, i do all the things i do.
But yeah, i did write it once, i just, it’s not about wanting to be misunderstood it’s just the “party” that I’m talking to in this given instance has no interest in understanding so I’m not as motivated to explain further or have a conversation with them about it.
Also keep in mind i already said earlier in this thread that i was kind of done with replying to topics like this, where i have to explain myself over and over again to people. I just felt kind of done with doing that and wanted to put a boundary there, and i have my own reasons for doing that. I thought people could respect that... but instead not I’m forced to explain why I’m not wanting to explain myself anymore... and it’s, a bit of a paradox. Lol
“why do you do this thing??? it’s probably because *insert speculation and judgements, criticisms, here*”
my response: “explaining why i do the thing, but why i also don’t want to respond to these comments anymore because I’m tired of explaining myself.”
Response: “well that’s not a good enough reason and now I’m criticizing, speculating and judging you for establishing that boundary, refusing to respect or understand it, or have a conversation about it- attempting to understand. But rather, it’s all your fault, that you dont’ explain things to me.”
My response: “now i have to explain why i don’t want to explain things anymore, even tho i just said i don’t want t explain things anymore... because you don’t want to try to understand, you dont want to have a conversation, you come at me with criticism judgment and speculation immediately rather than questions or having an open conversation.”
Response: “well that’s not a good enough reason and you’re just a shit person for being too tired to explain yourself repdeatly to me and all the reasons you do things aren’t good enough reasons, you shouldn’t do them, and you’re a terrible person for doing everything you do.”
Do you see the circles we’re going in here?
Bumping the thread to let you know i actually edited and added to this post a bit^
Oh and I’d like to add, you’re also saying my sources on information aren’t good enough, and claiming that I’m overdiagnosing myself, with self diagnosis.
Invalidating my reasons for going to treatment...
these things are my choice. It’s a boundary. Once again.
Just like it’s my choice not to respond much further and over explain myself to certain people, and it’s my choice to go to therapy. And my diagnoses aren’t fake, and the information i have about them and my understanding of them isn’t fake or invalid either.
The video i posted was about CFS, i don’t have CFS nor have I ever claimed to have it. So it’s irrelevant whether the girl in the video is faking or not. It’s also irrelevant because the information i have about ptsd and fatigue, come down to medical proof, on blood work, which has been shown to me, and i have physical copies of, which i can show to you. And everything has been explained to me at length by a physician, a wonderful physician i might add- who has helped make my life better.
All I’m doing is essentially sharing information with people that i have learned in my own “journey” with mental health and physical health and how trauma and physiological health can actually be intertwined, or mental health and physical health can be intertwined...
but instead it got turned back on me and was like, “your source is probably faking it”
and like, I’m just like... okay but, the video is irrelevant. The only reason i posted it was because it was a good demonstration and explanation (whether it was polled from a text book and acting or not) of what fatigue looks like.
