"I know that....perhaps why you are one of few that will delve into the topic..
Did you watch the video?...substitute the compulsion for any other...serves the same purpose for discussion."
I just watched most of it. It was very painful to hear arguments about the sense of agency, and how that sense relates to responsibility, how soft determinists exploit those arguments, and how compatibilists can believe free will can co-exist with determinism. I would really have to go into depth on this, and I'm not sure that I feel like it. But I will give a basic overview.
Hard determinism is the philosophy that there cannot be any such thing as "free will," because all events are interconnected and flow sequentially.
Soft determinists say that one can act "according to their own nature," implying a sense of agency, with no compelling argument for it. These are people that realize all events are interconnected, but use arguments such as "the mind is extremely complex," (see: Daniel Dennett) to argue that our sense of agency is more than a sense.
Then there are the compabilists, also invested in the idea of free will, who apparently can't see how all things being interconnected and bound by the laws of physics makes free will impossible, without even being able to go into the depth of the argument that the soft determinists do.
"Not necessarily..."
Yes, control requires investment. Anything aside from autonomic bodily functions requires investment. Watch a documentary on Morgan Freeman, famous lobotomist. You may see what I mean, specifically when we are discussing personality and agency. The video you posted did delve a bit into this territory (mind = matter), but not much. No action happens without a prior set of circumstances which impels it.
"Disagree here as well."
When you invest yourself in something...you are not only not investing yourself in other things, but also binding yourself to that investment. Therefor, you have limited yourself. Perhaps you felt I was giving a negative connotation to constraint. Without any set of constraints or investments, we would be rather homogeneous, nebulous, and unable to adapt. Investment and constraint are major drives of human behavior and survival.
"You are defining and thinking in terms of possession. That is the problem."
No. I was giving an example.